If you are like most people listening to the #fireandearthpodcast you would like to manifest some amazing things. Just closing your eyes and dreaming about a Ferrari, won’t make one appear. The law of attraction requires that you also practice the law of action.
In this episode we discuss how to use a 21 days of abundance approach and what it takes to manifest the things you want in your life.
Listen in at: http://www.jasonmefford.com/fireandearthpodcast/ or http://fireandearthpodcast.com/
The Fire and Earth Podcast gives you practical advice and keys to unlocking your potential in life and business, hosted by Dr. Kathy Gruver and Jason Mefford. Real, raw and unscripted.
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Transcript
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Jason Mefford: Welcome to another episode of the fire and earth podcast, I’m your co host Jason Medford
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Kathy Gruver: And I’m Kathy Grover, and we are excited to be back with you and today we’re gonna be talking about
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Kathy Gruver: Abundance.
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Jason Mefford: Was like, are you gonna make up a new word like that’s manifesting and abundance together like man abundance
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Jason Mefford: Abundance.
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Kathy Gruver: You know, I was single for a while and I was
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Jason Mefford: You were looking for a man abundance
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Kathy Gruver: Hey, we should start again.
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Jason Mefford: You want to start again. I thought it was real run unscripted
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Kathy Gruver: Okay. Hey. Hey. Welcome back, we’re
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Kathy Gruver: Abundance abundance funds or dancing. We’re talking about bringing things to us and it’s sort of fun. The reason we decided to do this episode is I’m in the middle of a 21 day abundance
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Kathy Gruver: Manifestation meditation jury sort of thing. So I’ve been keeping my little notebook of stuff.
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Kathy Gruver: And there’s some really amazing exercises in there. But even if you’re not doing the 21 days of abundance. I really recommend on these exercises. They’re kind of cool. So that’s what we talked about today. Yeah.
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Jason Mefford: Because we know that a lot of people. I mean, we’re both trying to manifest certain things have an abundant lifestyle and assuming most of you are trying to do that as well.
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Jason Mefford: And I know it’s it’s not as simple as some people try to make it seem right. I mean, there’s videos and other stuff out there and they’re like,
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Jason Mefford: You know, all you have to do is close your eyes and think, and all of a sudden the Ferrari shows up. Hey folks, that ain’t that easy. It was, I wouldn’t focus on a Ferrari right now.
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Jason Mefford: You’re falling asleep right
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Kathy Gruver: So one night.
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Jason Mefford: It’s it’s it’s
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Jason Mefford: It’s not as easy as that. Because you have to actually do some work as well. Right. Because when you think about like the laws.
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Jason Mefford: You know a lot of people talk about the law of attraction, but they don’t ever talk about the law of action which is you actually got to get your butt up
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Jason Mefford: And do some work as well. And so some of the stuff that we’re talking about is some of that action that you can take to be able to help you in this and it does, it does sometimes take some time.
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Jason Mefford: Because it’s based on the universe’s timeline, not ours. And so a lot of people that are trying to manifest or have abundance in their life probably give up too soon.
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Jason Mefford: angry because they, you know, and then they say, oh, well, it doesn’t work. And it’s like, you have to give this some time and you have to get in alignment.
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Jason Mefford: And until you do that, you know, the floodgates aren’t going to open so so yeah maybe share, share some of the things that you’re going through in this 21 day challenge, because I think they’re good. They’re good exercises or practices for us to kind of get into to be able to help us out.
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Kathy Gruver: Yeah, you know, one of the things that has us do so every day. There’s an affirmation every day. There’s like a written journaling exercise to do
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Kathy Gruver: And then every day, there is a video. It’s actually Deepak Chopra’s 21 day abundance. So it’s a video of just silent meditation, but it also includes a Sanskrit mantra. So some of the affirmations because I’ve been putting them on post. It’s on my desk and I’m just pulling one over the
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Kathy Gruver: First one was today I behold all the abundance that surrounds me
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Jason Mefford: Hmm.
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Kathy Gruver: And then the next day was I create my personal abundance for an in from an infinite source.
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Kathy Gruver: Today I focus on what I want to attract into my life today I embrace my potential to be do and have whatever I can dream.
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Kathy Gruver: Mm hmm. And
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Jason Mefford: There’s be doing have again right that we’ve
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Jason Mefford: Talked about
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Kathy Gruver: Before too.
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Kathy Gruver: Absolutely. So what I really appreciate about those is their, you know,
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Kathy Gruver: Their direct their short I write them in my little notebook. I also put them on my desk so that even if I’m not looking at them and thinking consciously about them.
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Kathy Gruver: Those things that are in our environment are still sinking in. And they’re still making a change with us.
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Kathy Gruver: And I really like the one. It’s like I have the potential to be doing have whatever I can dream, whatever we can think of whatever we can conjure in our brains.
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Kathy Gruver: We can manifest into our lives. Now, I know not everyone believes that it’s the sort of bumper sticker wisdom.
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Kathy Gruver: airy fairy sort of thing. But you know what, there’s no side effects and it’s free and you don’t need a prescription and at the very least doing affirmations, like the shifts your perspective blocks out that negative stuff decreases stress. So you’re going to be more apt to
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Kathy Gruver: Be in a place to accept these things when they come, or to find them when they show up and i think that’s that’s half the battle.
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Jason Mefford: Well, so you shared kind of what some of these affirmations actually are. So in the in the 21 day program you’re going through. I know you mentioned you have a journal and some other stuff too. So
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Jason Mefford: How, how are you, incorporating these affirmations. Is this something that you’re journaling on to is journaling different. Are you saying them out loud. Are you thinking of them during the meditation, how, how is that part kind of getting incorporated them.
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Kathy Gruver: Yeah, so I repeat them a couple of times.
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Kathy Gruver: I write them down on the post it on my desk. I write them for that day in my little notebook and it’s so funny because I have, you know, I go to so many conferences and I have a stack of
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Kathy Gruver: Post it Notes. A stack of list pieces of paper, a stack of little notebooks. People have given me is that you all this crap and I haven’t grabbed this one. And it’s from sempra energy. I’m not even sure where this came from. But it says hashtag be that girl.
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Jason Mefford: Oh, interesting.
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Kathy Gruver: And I’m like, that’s so perfect and then on a pen I wrote on a 21 day abundance, with a little symbol and
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Kathy Gruver: It’s a great little notebook and I just have so many of these. So yeah, I’ve been writing the affirmation down there before I do the written exercise.
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Kathy Gruver: And then during the meditation we repeat the mantra, a couple of times before we go into silence or the affirmation. Before we go into silence, and then we have a Sanskrit mantra that we’re repeating also a lot of stuff going on there. It’s actually a very
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Kathy Gruver: Complete so far 21 day thing because you’re getting all this different stuff. It’s not just writing. It’s not just during the Montrose on just doing the affirmation. It’s not just doing an exercise. It’s all of these things.
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Kathy Gruver: Kind of hand it from all sides and the to go back to you said about the timing and having to do the work. It’s like, you can’t just pull up the recipe for bread and go, I have bread.
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Jason Mefford: But you have to, you have to do it. You have to go the store and buy flour and sugar and yeast and whatever else it takes to make the bread.
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Kathy Gruver: Baking soda.
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Kathy Gruver: And then you can’t just have all the ingredients and go. I got them.
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Kathy Gruver: You have to actually mix them in the right combination. And then you have to cook it, and then you have to wait and then you have to heat up the oven.
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Kathy Gruver: Not in that order. And, you know, so it’s like it is not just this immediate thing, like you were saying. And just like we don’t snap our fingers and have bread.
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Kathy Gruver: It’s a process to get there. I think we’re more patient with our recipes than we are, for food than we are with the recipe for our lives.
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Kathy Gruver: And we never know when the universe has an oven preheated for us. We just have to wait until light goes on and then we know we’re ready. Then we put it in.
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Jason Mefford: Well, and I and I like the program that you’re talking about. Because like you said, it does, it hits on several different things, right, and we’ve talked a little bit about multi sensory learning and some things like that, you know, as far as
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Jason Mefford: The more of your senses that you can activate while you’re learning while you’re doing things
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Jason Mefford: Literally, literally, folks, the more places it gets programmed in your subconscious brain. So first off, you’re already ahead by that by programming at different places. So it’s more likely to come up or come back to you.
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Jason Mefford: Because you’re recording it more places and you’re actually doing some of these things, right. So,
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Jason Mefford: The affirmations saying them out loud, you’re saying it, but you’re also hearing it. When you do that, you’re probably reading it. So you’re seeing it at the same time. So you just activated.
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Jason Mefford: You know, several different of your senses. At that point, because actually, as you’re speaking you hear the you feel the vibrations
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Jason Mefford: In your body as well. So, you know, you’re getting several of these things going as you’re writing again you know it’s it’s a kinesthetic movement.
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Jason Mefford: But you’re seeing it as well you know and and hearing, hearing the mantras and saying it. It’s like it is. It’s kind of a complete package where you’re putting a lot of these things together.
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Jason Mefford: Which is great because not everything. Not everything works the best for everybody, but if you do something like this is activating several different things, you’re much more likely to actually have it hit something that actually does work for you.
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Kathy Gruver: Absolutely, absolutely. And before I the written exercises to a really cool before I get to that, I want to say something that two things that you just came up for me as you were saying that we talked about Mr. In Modo.
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Jason Mefford: A
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Jason Mefford: Is it the water crystals. Right.
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Kathy Gruver: Yeah. So for those of you who don’t know what that is. He wrote a book called The hidden messages in water and his belief was that water and water crystals were affected by positive or negative energy. MUSIC. WORDS.
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Kathy Gruver: And so he would tape or say affirmations to water.
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Kathy Gruver: And then he would freeze that water and see what the crystals look like and the crystals that were from the positive messages were gorgeous and symmetrical and really beautiful.
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Kathy Gruver: And the ones to the negative messages like I hate you. I will kill you. Adolf Hitler, you know, all that stuff. The crystals look telomeres blobs now.
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Kathy Gruver: People in the science world said that’s not a reproducible study. So that’s BS. Whatever you think, but if we truly are 80% water.
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Kathy Gruver: You know, Howard, how are those words, those messages affecting us. The other thing I was going to say was our brains move towards that which we know
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Kathy Gruver: Our brain deems things that are known safer than most things that are unknown, even if they’re bad
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Kathy Gruver: So this is why so many people stay in negative relationships or abusive relationships are horrible job because your brains, like, well, at least I know what this is.
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Kathy Gruver: Stepping out of that into an unknown is scarier. So if you start to know that abundance is part of your life if you start to know these things are flowing to you.
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Kathy Gruver: That you’re getting these things if you make that as a known then you’re going to move towards that you’re going to make different decisions towards having those things that you’re thinking about
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Kathy Gruver: So that’s what really excites me about this program and any abundance thing or any affirmations and that kind of stuff. We’re moving towards those things are positive. Yeah.
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Jason Mefford: Well in for him for some of the people, again, you know, that have tried some of these things, but it’s been hard.
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Jason Mefford: And they haven’t really gotten where they want again what Cathy just said, remember we we tend to focus on, or what those things that are safe. So if, if these feelings of lack have been keeping your consciousness safe, quote unquote, then it’s going to want to default back to that.
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Jason Mefford: Right. And so this gets back
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Jason Mefford: Into some of the ego states. So we’ve talked about before, right, because you’re conscious ego state is saying, Whoa, no, this is a little different. This is something that I’m not used to change is scary. I might not be safe.
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Jason Mefford: And and when that kind of monkey brain chatter shows up, then you know it’s it’s harder to do that. And that’s why some of this repetition and the other stuff is so important, too.
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Jason Mefford: Because like you said it’s it’s moving us a little bit closer to where we want to be. Now, you know, you take two or three steps forward, you might take a step back.
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Jason Mefford: But if you focus on. No, I just took a step back, then you start going back into all those negative belief patterns that you had before, instead of
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Jason Mefford: Hey, I’m still two steps ahead right we should be focusing more on and that’s why a lot of these programs and other stuff. Talk about, you know, the gratitude.
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Jason Mefford: And and and feeling well, what was it, what was that one affirmation about I’m going to see the abundant things in my life. How was that worded
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Kathy Gruver: Today I behold all the abundance that surrounds me
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Jason Mefford: Okay, so see that that affirmation is actually helping you right to see what already you have in your life where that abundance already is. It’s another thing that should, there’s your cognitive bias.
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Jason Mefford: That shows up kind of psychologically as well, right, because if you’re programming, your brain to look for abundance. What are you going to find
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Jason Mefford: You’re going to find the abundance right and so
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Kathy Gruver: pennies on the street. I mean, this is, to me it’s a reminder that the universe is abundant and there’s gifts everywhere.
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Jason Mefford: Yep, so that’s that’s a great one. Again, to try to
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Jason Mefford: You know show how that affirmation is trying to reprogram your brain to look for abundance, the more we’re looking for it and that we’re grateful that it’s in our life the more we’re going to be looking for it.
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Jason Mefford: The more we’re going to see it. And then that starts to become that pattern of reinforcement and it ends up retraining our brain to where now we see the positive things instead of the negative
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Jason Mefford: But it but it takes some time. You know, if you’ve spent 40 years of her life being scared.
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Jason Mefford: And and and worried and anxious, it’s going to take some time, you know, if it takes a few months, you know, just be grateful for that. That you’re slowly making these changes that that you can reprogramming whether it’s taking a 40 maybe 50 years
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Jason Mefford: To program to begin with. That’s, that’s still a pretty good way
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Kathy Gruver: Well, it’s like, weight loss, people are so pissed doesn’t happen faster. It’s like you didn’t wake up 30
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Kathy Gruver: lot quicker than a went on, like, what do you think that works.
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Kathy Gruver: Right. So the first day exercise which was really exciting was to write down 50 people 50
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Kathy Gruver: Well, who have influenced your life and been a positive influence and have somehow gotten you to where you are today. And my first thought was good God at 50 people. That’s ridiculous.
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Kathy Gruver: And so I sat down at the trapeze read because I happen to be there that day and I started writing and next thing you know I had 105
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Jason Mefford: There you go.
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Kathy Gruver: And then as the day war on like as the next day came, I started thinking more and more people. And what was really what they wanted you to do with this was
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Kathy Gruver: Not just write names, but like think about what that person meant to you. Think about how they affected you give the honor them in some way and it didn’t even have to be people. You knew I mean like I wrote Katharine Hepburn
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Kathy Gruver: Wonder Woman
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Kathy Gruver: You know, it’s like Hillary Clinton hate lunar you know all these people who I certainly don’t know but influenced my life john Ritter Carol Burnett Tim Conway all the humor kind of
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Jason Mefford: Oh yeah I
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Kathy Gruver: Love that. But it’s like I grew up watching that kind of stuff. And that influenced a lot of my life not dimension MOM, DAD. GRANDMA, you know, because then I started because I’m such a logical
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Kathy Gruver: Structured person. I’m like, Okay, what kind of went through family members and then I got stuck for a second. And I went, Well, I have three neighbors growing up.
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Kathy Gruver: That really influenced me. Oh, and I have my teachers. Oh, and then there was that kid in school. And then, you know, it just grew and grew and grew and Blossom, Blossom, Blossom until I suddenly had
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Kathy Gruver: This giant list of people. And it was so much fun to do. And it was very also very moving because I was thinking, but most not most, a lot of these people aren’t with us anymore.
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Kathy Gruver: So I got to honor those people that I knew were an influence on me but aren’t around. So it’s like, no, it’s kind of nice to
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Kathy Gruver: So it was very tearful joyfully tearful exercise, but it was to come up with 50 people who have positive influence on your life. It was it was a fun exercise. It was
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Kathy Gruver: I went into it, thinking oh my god is impossible. And suddenly I had this list. So I recommend doing that. It was a really great week have in mind your cell phone the influence that others have had and how support and and surrounded by love your hmm
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Jason Mefford: Well, and it’s, it’s, um, you know, I’ve heard of some of these exercises like that where it’s 50 or 100 you know that you have to write down. And again, it’s like when people do this, it’s like okay, maybe the first 10 or 20
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Jason Mefford: Things whatever you’re writing are pretty easy. And then people kind of hit this wall, you know, and then, you know, like you said, you started thinking, well now hold it. I had some neighbors. Right. And then it starts kind of going and going and going from there.
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Jason Mefford: And and that’s just a beautiful exercise again because, as we’re trying to focus on those good things right what you
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Jason Mefford: For for most of us, as an example right there. There’s good things. There’s bad things that happened to us throughout our lives and it can be a big T trauma can be a little T trauma. Right. Most of the time, you know, I bet if you
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Jason Mefford: You know a lot of people when they get frustrated or they worry or they have some of these things that come up for them.
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Jason Mefford: It’s maybe in I’m just throwing numbers out there because, you know, hey, we’re just talking right but but maybe there’s, you know, Ben 10 people in your life.
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Jason Mefford: That really did some things that were pretty crappy. You know that scarred you in some way and it’s really easy for us to focus on those people in the negative feelings towards them.
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Jason Mefford: But if you if you stop them and do an exercise like you just did with these 50 people you realize that there’s way more people that have had a positive influence on your life than negative
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Jason Mefford: And if we can hold more space and be more in in that area than more abundance has to come to us again right i mean another another thing that a lot of people do. There’s, there’s a whole list of
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Jason Mefford: Different emotions that we can feel from, like, you know, and they’ve even kind of like hooked people up to to machines to try to figure out
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Jason Mefford: What their energy level is when they’re, when they’re feeling these things. And so something like joy and gratitude is all the way at the top.
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Jason Mefford: You know, and the end and other stuff, you know, shame, and some of the other stuff is all the way at the bottom.
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Jason Mefford: And so, you know, some people talk about using that to as well, think about what feeling you’re having right now and just try to move up the ladder. Yeah.
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Jason Mefford: And even feeling board is better than feeling shame. So if you’re feeling shame you know again try to do something to move your energy level up that scale, it’s going to help you get closer to where you’re at, because if you’re sitting down there wallowing in shame.
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Jason Mefford: It’s not, it’s not a good place to be. And if you’re in that feeling so much of the time, of course, you’re not going to see the abundance show up worse because you’re worried about all this other stuff. Yeah.
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Kathy Gruver: And what we see is veiled through how we’re feeling at the time.
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Kathy Gruver: So we’re going to see, we’re going to attract what we’re looking for. Oh, and hey, by the way, your name is on my list.
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Jason Mefford: Oh, it is. Oh.
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Jason Mefford: I must be doing something right.
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Jason Mefford: Well, I wasn’t. We wouldn’t keep be doing this after for over a year. Right.
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Kathy Gruver: You made it before john Ritter. So, I mean, I was good.
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Jason Mefford: Oh, wow. That is because Ritter’s amazing to Conway to her.
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Jason Mefford: I was thinking about some of the Carol Burnett scat singing
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Jason Mefford: All right.
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Jason Mefford: So,
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Kathy Gruver: Just real quick because we’re gonna have
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Kathy Gruver: One of the things was writing down what abundance means to us.
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Kathy Gruver: One of the things, the second day, and this one kind of threw me was, write down all of your debts school loan mortgage, car payment any loans that are outstanding and then write down every monthly expense, write it all out so that you know
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Kathy Gruver: Write out what abundance means to you.
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Kathy Gruver: And then she wanted us to get creative. I didn’t get overly creative, but one of us to draw
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Kathy Gruver: Any version of currency money stocks, whatever is just sort of make it a fun thing draw enough money and currency and abundance to pay for all those things you had written the day before.
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Kathy Gruver: Oh, interesting. I’m the worst artist ever so this is
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Kathy Gruver: This is me.
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Jason Mefford: You with a little money everywhere.
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Jason Mefford: Money well
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Kathy Gruver: Me and I’m going to see him. I see him abundance
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Jason Mefford: Well, so here’s, here’s a funny thing we haven’t done will have to be you may see this again in the future. What’s on your desk.
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Jason Mefford: One of the things that I have on my desk is a stack of hundreds, you know, $10,000 sitting right here. Now, of course, it’s play money.
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Jason Mefford: But it’s again it’s a visual representation of that money. And again, that’s, that’s an interesting exercise for you to actually go through and to realize that you know there’s enough money out there to take care of all your debts.
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Kathy Gruver: Yes, well, and the other one that I really liked it. This was the last one we had done world I’m only have two day five on this or five or six
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Kathy Gruver: It said from
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Kathy Gruver: Well, the average was from this moment forward, I invite unlimited abundance into my life and the exercise for the day was to write down people in your life.
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Kathy Gruver: Could be people from that initial list who exhibit and live a life of abundance
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Kathy Gruver: Doesn’t have to be wealth, but who have a life of abundance. And so all of these names just came to me, have you even from when I was a kid, we had really dear friends of the family. Don and BB who
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Kathy Gruver: Even as a kid. I remember sort of admiring their life because they had this house that was exactly what they wanted. They had this huge backyard zeebo in a pond and I mean like as a little kid.
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Kathy Gruver: I kind of look to them as. Wow. They’re really living a good life. And it’s interesting because I have a friend, not going to say, because in case they ever watched this but more money than he knows what to do with
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Kathy Gruver: He’s not living it he’s not fully embracing that abundance. There are so many blocks and there are so many roadblocks and there’s so much
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Kathy Gruver: Things that aren’t in abundance that it doesn’t matter that he has all that money.
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Kathy Gruver: And he didn’t make it on my list. He was a huge influence to me. So he made on that list, but on the list of people who who are an example of abundance. You didn’t make a list so abundance isn’t always about financial wealth, your funding wealthy people who are living in LAC
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Kathy Gruver: This, to me, was about people who were living there, joy, who were living not abundance in all manners of the sense of the word. So that was kind of initially went to write his name and went, No, you know, he’s miserable. Yeah.
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Jason Mefford: Well, and because that was a point that I was going to bring up you actually got to it before. Before me is that I think so much of the time when people are working on manifesting or
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Jason Mefford: You know, using the word abundance. They’re always thinking about money but abundance is so much more than money.
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Jason Mefford: And, in fact, a lot of times, the reason you don’t have the money or the money isn’t showing up is because you don’t have that alignment and the rest of your life.
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Jason Mefford: And in having more money if you’re not aligned. If you’re not in that kind of mindset.
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Jason Mefford: actually hurts you. It makes sure that you’re like you said, there’s a lot of people out there with a ton of money and they’re miserable.
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Jason Mefford: And so you know there’s there’s a lot of other stuff to abundance besides just money so you know we were talking before we started.
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Jason Mefford: Yesterday I tried to have a little abundant morning for me and I chose, you know, instead of doing a bunch of work in the morning.
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Jason Mefford: I just sat down and re read a book you know that I read six, eight months ago, but I just felt like it was one of those serendipitous type of things where, you know,
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Jason Mefford: A couple of podcasts or other things. People were referring to this book again. And it’s like, Hmm, I guess I need to go read this book again.
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Jason Mefford: And even the fact of, you know, just sitting there and trying to be present in the moment and realizing you know what me taking this three hours to reread this book.
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Jason Mefford: Is an act of abundance, right, because again it’s like everything else is going to take care of itself. I don’t have to be hustling and and you know doing all this busy work. I am abundant in my time.
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Jason Mefford: Right, that I have the luxury of sitting down and reading a book for three hours.
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Jason Mefford: And that’s, that’s a part of this whole thing too. So again, though, you know, those of you that are are frustrated. It’s like, damn it. Where’s the money, why hasn’t shown up yet.
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Jason Mefford: Abundance is much more than just money and so try to think about some of these other things and get yourself in alignment than the money is going to show up. Yeah.
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Kathy Gruver: And I think that’s why the the first day was, you know, listening, all those people because that’s abundance. The fact that I come up with 100 and something people, and I’m sure there’s more that I haven’t even
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Kathy Gruver: That’s abundance. I’m surrounded by people who were positive influence on my life. That’s not money that’s abundance. That’s people who are around me a support systems. I would love to do an episode on mental bank which
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Jason Mefford: Oh, yeah.
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Kathy Gruver: I’m I love, love, love mental bank I that’s one of the things that I believe got me to the level of success. I have, I kind of fell off doing it. And now I’m doing the 21 day program. I don’t want to do too much at once.
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Kathy Gruver: But as soon as I’m done with this. I’m going to bring it back. I’m gonna teach my boyfriend, how to do it. And it’s such a great system for abundance and attracting those things you want your life. So yeah, we’re excited to do a show on that.
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Jason Mefford: Be a future episode.
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Kathy Gruver: Any final thoughts.
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Jason Mefford: No, I mean, I think, I think, you know, again, we kind of walked through the program you’re going through right now.
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Jason Mefford: You know, and so again for people that you know if you want to be more abundant and attract more things in your life.
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Jason Mefford: You know, here’s some different things that work. People do them all the time. We’ve talked about some other tips, you know, again, about
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Jason Mefford: You know, not necessarily focusing just on money being grateful moving up kind of the emotional scale so that
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Jason Mefford: Because, because this is one of the things in in probably why so many people think, all I have to do is close my eyes and think, right, is because
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Jason Mefford: When everything is aligned when you’re doing all of those other things than the money just shows up, but you’re doing the work beforehand. Right.
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Jason Mefford: And I’ve been. I’ve been so amazed at, you know, the times when it’s like, you know what, I’m a little tired today. I think I’m going to take an hour long nap this afternoon.
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Jason Mefford: And so I sit down and I take a nap and I wake up and I check my email. And oh, a new person just signed up for one of my training courses, while I was asleep.
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Jason Mefford: Right, it’s, it’s, it’s that kind of stuff that can end up happening. But, you know, again, if I would have spent that our instead, you know, buy my course buy my course buy my course. I wouldn’t have sold a course.
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Jason Mefford: Right, but because I was in alignment. And again, it’s kind of one of these micro is we’re talking now I’m actually realizing that it’s it’s one of those kind of micro things of
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Jason Mefford: You know, feeling like, hey, you know what, I can take a nap in the afternoon. It’s okay. I’m still working. No 40 5060 hours a week.
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Jason Mefford: It’s, it’s okay. I have an abundance of time. Everything is going to get done. And so if my body feels like I need to take a nap for an hour.
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Jason Mefford: It’s okay. The universe is going to take that into account.
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Jason Mefford: You know when you’re doing stuff so doing some of these exercises like writing down the list, you know, some people are going to be like, well, that’s not really work well. It is work, folks.
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Jason Mefford: And and actually doing some of that work is way harder than some of the other work that we do. But when you do that and you get that alignment and the things start falling into place. Yeah, absolutely. Yeah.
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Kathy Gruver: We have to give ourselves time we have to give ourselves space, we have to give ourselves the positive attitude that I think so often we we lose. We get well don’t run we get beaten down which I totally understand I all been there.
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Jason Mefford: Well, and we
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Jason Mefford: Excuse me, we still have to do the work. Right. If I hadn’t done the work of putting the course together of marketing it of having it out there. So, somebody could find it. Nobody’s going to find it. When I’m taking a nap right so you still have to do the work.
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Jason Mefford: As well.
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Kathy Gruver: Yeah, go out to the work, don’t just buy the recipe and wonder where the brand is
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Jason Mefford: You got to actually put it, put it in the mixer and mix it up. Oh.
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Kathy Gruver: Yeah. All right, everybody, this is great. Go out be abundant shoot for those things that you want, right, your affirmations are doing exercises the 21 day abundance program that I’m doing is out there online.
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Kathy Gruver: I got through a friend or a whole group of us doing it, but it’s an amazing thing 21 days to build a new habit. You know, so I’m Kathy gruver I can be reached at Kathy rude calm.
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Jason Mefford: And I’m Jason method I can be reached at Jason method calm and we’ll catch you on a future episode of the fire and earth podcast. So, yeah, yeah.
