In this #jammingwithjason #podcast episode we are talking tools, and even Tim “the Tool Man” Taylor from Home Improvement would be proud of all the tool references.
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Transcript
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Jason Mefford: Well, today we’re going to be talking about tools.
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Jason Mefford: tools and just like TIM the tool man Taylor from home improvement, he would be so proud of all the tools that we are going to incorporate today in our discussion.
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Jason Mefford: You know, because, whether you realize it or not, there’s a lot of tools that we need to be successful in life.
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Jason Mefford: And the problem is they aren’t hammers and screwdrivers typically there are other tools that you may not even know exist, but there are tools that you need so that’s why we’re going to talk about them today on this episode so with that let’s get going.
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Jason Mefford: All right, well, as I said, to begin with today we’re going to talk a little bit about tools Okay, so a.
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Jason Mefford: little bit about me my my father actually was a general contractor and so you know when I was about eight years old, we it was late 70s, we had you know.
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Jason Mefford: The crisis here in the United States when it came to building and in so my mother actually had to go back to work.
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Jason Mefford: So when I was little started about eight eight years old, my father used to take me to work with him during anytime that we had.
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Jason Mefford: You know Christmas break school breaks over the summer, he myself and my little brother used to go with my dad to work and so from a very early age, I hung out on construction sites.
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Jason Mefford: And, as a result of that I learned how to build houses and can pretty much build anything I want to now.
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Jason Mefford: Thank you dad for all of that, for that learning, but as part of it, you know I learned.
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Jason Mefford: an appreciation of the tools and what the different tools actually did and which ones were good for certain things and which ones weren’t so good for those things.
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Jason Mefford: So, today I want to get in and talk a little bit more about this because, as I said, there may be some tools that you’re not even aware exist.
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Jason Mefford: That are exactly the tools, you need, at whatever challenges, you may be dealing with right now, now, to start with, you know kind of the the genesis of this particular episode.
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Jason Mefford: was an experience that I had here is about a month month or so ago.
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Jason Mefford: So my wife ends up going to a doctor’s appointment, so you know she takes her car drives over to the doctor parks in the parking garage goes into her appointment.
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Jason Mefford: And then comes out and tries to start the car and it just is flashing lights and has this weird sound.
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Jason Mefford: So you know she’s obviously a little disturbed that the car won’t start.
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Jason Mefford: And so here I am you know working at home and I get a phone call frantic phone call from my wife and says, you know the car is making a really weird noise and it’s not starting.
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Jason Mefford: So I said okay well you know try starting it now let’s let me, let me hear what it’s doing so I could try to figure out what it was.
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Jason Mefford: So she put she put me on speaker and she went to try to start the car, you know the the brake pedal wouldn’t really push down when she pushed the button, to try to start the car, there were just a bunch of flashing lights on the dash and it kind of went.
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Jason Mefford: kind of thing wouldn’t turn over so knowing enough about cars and having enough cars over my life I pretty much knew on the phone it was probably a dead battery now, knowing that she was parking in a parking garage.
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Jason Mefford: I knew that I probably wasn’t going to in knowing again that the battery was probably.
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Jason Mefford: on its last leg it had been in three years or four years since we’ve replaced the battery that that’s probably what the issue was so you know, in my mind here I am trying to think about what are the different tools i’m gonna need if this is a dead battery.
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Jason Mefford: So I get in the car, you know I grabbed my tool bag grab the jumper cables as well get in the car, drive over to the doctor’s office.
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Jason Mefford: And when I get there, I look at it sure enough looks like a dead battery now where she had parked the car, you know, in the garage it was up next to the edge.
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Jason Mefford: And there were cars parked on either side, so we couldn’t get in there to be able to jump the car.
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Jason Mefford: So I knew, you know it’s probably just time for us to go down to the store buy a new battery so we leave we go down, we get the battery.
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Jason Mefford: We come back to the parking garage I pull out my tool bag, which I had and took it up to start doing the work on the car to replace the battery.
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Jason Mefford: Now i’ve got a little tool bag that I use all the time because, again, I told you, I grew up on a construction site.
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Jason Mefford: So people have me do little things right when I go over to to the family members homes, especially like my mother in law.
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Jason Mefford: Often there’s little jobs that Jason needs to do right So if I know that there’s jobs and my mother in law wants me to do I grabbed my little tool bag, I have a smaller tool bag with.
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Jason Mefford: Certain tools that you would use most of the time so things like you know, a hammer and different kinds of screwdrivers and different kinds of pliers and wrenches.
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Jason Mefford: You know Allen wrenches crescent wrenches slip joint you know wire cutters site edge, you know some different things like that so again i’m trying i’m trying to throw out as.
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Jason Mefford: Many tool names, as I can during this episode as well, so we’ll see how many I can get in if somebody’s counting let me know how many actually get in so I pull out my my normal tool bag that I carry around I get I get there.
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Jason Mefford: And I have no problem, you know, it was a little bit clunky, but I could use one of the wrenches to take off the the battery posts that were you know connected with the battery.
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Jason Mefford: But then there’s a bracket that went over the top of the battery and so you know the one the one nut I was able to take off pretty easily, but the way that the bracket was worked the the one bowl was kind of recessed down.
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Jason Mefford: To where I couldn’t easily get to it with one of the regular wrenches that I normally carry in my bag.
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Jason Mefford: So I tried, I tried for a little while it wasn’t working I knew it wasn’t going to work, I still tried a little bit more okay does this sound familiar for other things you might be doing in your life.
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Jason Mefford: And in realize that look i’m going to have to run back home and get my socket set, which is a specific type of tool.
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Jason Mefford: That would allow me to be able to get down inside kind of where I needed to go to be able to undo the last bolt so my tool bag wasn’t enough, I had to go home.
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Jason Mefford: dig through the garage for my socket set because again socket set is not something that I normally would use.
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Jason Mefford: Because I it’s not a normal tool, but it is a tool that is very helpful in specific applications okay and that’s that’s the way it is a lot of times with tools right certain tools are better at doing certain jobs.
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Jason Mefford: So I get back got my socket set Sure enough, you know very quickly, was able to take out the last bolt end up replacing it and you know started the car my wife was Okay, we both came back home.
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Jason Mefford: And you know, as I, as I thought about that again, you know i’ve how true is this in our life anyway right, where there are certain tools that we tend to use a lot of the time.
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Jason Mefford: And there’s other tools that maybe we don’t use that often or maybe we only need in one particular instance.
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Jason Mefford: And so we have to go out and buy it right to be able to do the job that we need to do without that sockets had I wouldn’t have been able to get that battery changed and get the arm off of off of the battery so.
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Jason Mefford: You know, as i’m as i’m thinking about it, and then in the thing, as I mentioned to you a little bit before is you know a lot of the tools that we need in our life.
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Jason Mefford: are not necessarily the things like hammers and screwdrivers and socket sense but there’s other tools some things like emotional mental and even spiritual tools that we need to be able to help us get by now.
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Jason Mefford: yeah let’s go back to when when I was you know, a young child on little slave Labor slave child Labor as as it goes from my father, you know when I was little now, when I was eight years old, you know I couldn’t really help a lot on the construction site.
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Jason Mefford: I wasn’t strong enough to be able to pick up and carry and hold the nail gun and and shoot the nails out of the nail gun.
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Jason Mefford: I wasn’t strong enough to be able to lift up the walls or be able to carry a lot of things, and so my dad found you know ways for me to be able to help out.
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Jason Mefford: And one of those was you know when he and my brother were working to have me go and get tools that they needed.
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Jason Mefford: So if you’re familiar with construction usually you know you were a tool belt, because there are certain tools that when you are are doing construction in in this instance we were doing a lot of framing.
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Jason Mefford: So framing construction we’re building the walls, putting on the sighting you know building the floor and the roof, and things like that, on a house.
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Jason Mefford: There are certain tools that you would normally have in your tool bag because they’re things you use all the time, so things like a hammer, and you know, a utility knife a pencil.
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Jason Mefford: what’s called a square you know because we’d have to draw straight lines to be able to cut cut wood.
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Jason Mefford: A chalk line is another one of the tools that we usually have with us, usually suppliers are what we call side cuts.
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Jason Mefford: They were kind of wire cutter things that we could use for a lot of different things to help pull out nails and do other things like that something like a nail punch.
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Jason Mefford: Especially if you’re using or doing finished work to be able to reset or recess the the nails a little bit when you’re doing finished work and oh.
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Jason Mefford: And so there were lots of different things that we would normally have in our tool pouch that we would carry on our bodies so that way that those tools.
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Jason Mefford: were always close to us whenever we needed them, but you know, sometimes my brother my dad might be up on a ladder or up on scaffolding or on a roof.
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Jason Mefford: and realize, there was a different tool that they actually need it so one of the things that I learned to begin with, was the name of the different tools, so my brother cliff would you know holler down from the scaffolding Jason I need you to go get the two foot square okay.
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Jason Mefford: what’s the two foot square right, so I had to learn what it was what it was used for and actually where it was at in in the pickup truck.
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Jason Mefford: Because you know at first I didn’t know where some of these things were I didn’t know how to use them, but over time right as I got used to the names used to what these different things do and where they were located.
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Jason Mefford: I was able to actually go and get those tools and bring them back to my dad and to my brother.
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Jason Mefford: Now, again, as I, as I got older and older I could do more and more things they would teach me how to use these tools and know which tools, were the best ones to use in different situations and so over time, I mean that came through.
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Jason Mefford: practice and actually using the tools and it’s that way with any tool in our life right you can’t just go buy a tool never use it and and expect to get the benefit from it.
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Jason Mefford: So again, you know I know we’ve been talking about a lot of different tools, but what we’re really talking about are some of the tools of the trade.
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Jason Mefford: That you might need as well Okay, and, as I told you before, there are some things that are emotional maybe mental even spiritual tools for you to be able to help you navigate through life.
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Jason Mefford: And so i’m just going to go through, and I i’ve talked about a lot of different tools that we might use on the job site.
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Jason Mefford: And maybe i’ll share one more story before I get into that because it’s it’s another important concept which is.
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Jason Mefford: I don’t know if you’ve ever heard the term that everything looks like a nail to a hammer.
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Jason Mefford: everything looks like a nail to a hammer, in fact, you might have heard me say that, before that is it’s it’s a colloquialism that really means hey if i’m a hammer, or if I have a hammer.
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Jason Mefford: i’m going to try to do everything I can with that hammer because that happens to be what I have right.
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Jason Mefford: And so, one of the guys that used to work for my dad he would he was the person that would do what’s called finished finished concrete work.
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Jason Mefford: So driveways sidewalks things like that he would be the one that would pour the concrete in and then he would use trowels to be able to make it smooth and Nice and put all the joints and everything in it.
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Jason Mefford: And so you know for don as the contractor or as the concrete guy he had certain tools, like the trials and different things that he would use shovels.
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Jason Mefford: And things like that, but from what we would normally have in our tool belt he didn’t have very much he had a hammer.
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Jason Mefford: And he had nails right and that was about it because he had to make these make forms right to be able to make sure that the concrete stays within the wooden area.
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Jason Mefford: That he wants it to stay in, and I remember don telling me when I was when I was a little kid because we always used to laugh.
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Jason Mefford: laugh laugh with him Okay, because we love Don, but my dad always one of the jokes that he always used to say was don could cut circles, with the circular saw.
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Jason Mefford: So if you know what a circular size skill saw it’s it’s not intended to cut curvy lines it’s intended to cut straight lines but don would always make his lines really curvy and don’t know how he quite did it with it.
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Jason Mefford: But anyway, I remember him telling me it was funny because he was you know I especially when I was young, I used to sit and watch some of the other trades people.
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Jason Mefford: On the job site and watch what they do and I used to love watching dawn because the the the artistry of how you do the concrete just was fascinating is still fascinating to me.
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Jason Mefford: And I remember watching him one time putting together some forms and and so he was reaching into his pouch and he was pulling out nails and nailing a man with his hammer.
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Jason Mefford: And he ended up pulling out a screw and he looked at it and he can be reached over and he put it on the wood and he pounded in the screw with this hammer and then he looked at me and he said screws or screws are meant to be put in with hammers and taken out with screwed.
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Jason Mefford: it’s always thought that was funny again for those of you that are familiar with construction you’ll get a kick out of that as well.
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Jason Mefford: But you know to don like I said, even something like a screw he would just use a hammer to put in, and you know how many times in life.
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Jason Mefford: Do we try to just use the tool that we currently have, and it may not be the best tool but we’re just like don we’re trying to pound that screw in with a hammer.
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Jason Mefford: and, believe me, it takes a lot more power to try to get a screw to go through wood, with a hammer than it does with a screwdriver or with the drill okay.
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Jason Mefford: And so, but how much of how much of the time in life are we actually you know either not effective, like I wasn’t effective in using my.
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Jason Mefford: My crescent wrench to be able to take off that screw that bolt on the car I needed the socket set in order to get it done.
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Jason Mefford: or like don trying to pound those screws in with the hammer instead of actually using a screwdriver so how much of the time, do we do that and it’s it’s it’s exhausting for us it usually adds more stress to our life.
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Jason Mefford: And the reason is that we don’t have the other tool, or we don’t know how to use the other tool okay.
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Jason Mefford: So what I wanted to do here is actually share some of these different tools and again, you might have heard me talk about some of these before.
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Jason Mefford: But you know, whatever you do you really need to start learning about these other things and start incorporating some of these tools into your life.
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Jason Mefford: Now, whether you learn them for me here on the podcast or in any of the courses or programs that I run where I actually show people how to use these and bring them into their life.
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Jason Mefford: It doesn’t matter you know but but decide that you’re going to get some of these tools, so let me, let me talk about some other.
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Jason Mefford: One would kind of be an emotional tool is around breathing okay something as simple as breathing you know it’s something you do every single day.
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Jason Mefford: you’re doing it right now, or you’d be passed out on the ground right but it’s something that, because it is so unconscious that we end up doing and we don’t realize they’re actually ways to breathe.
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Jason Mefford: That act as tools that can help us in our life so today, I was talking to somebody in one of my programs and and we were talking about you know some of the things that she was doing and what she had learned and she said, you know, I was at the dentist last week.
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Jason Mefford: And you can see where this is going right because nobody likes to go to the dentist that I know right because usually means you know getting.
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Jason Mefford: You know, having people in your mouth first off right and then usually sharp objects in your mouth as well, and so, when people go to the doctor or go to the dentist.
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Jason Mefford: they’re usually very anxious about going to the doctor so emotionally they’re in a place where they don’t want to be, they want to be more.
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Jason Mefford: You know relaxed, but instead they have this anxiety and fear about what they’re going to be experiencing when they go to the dentist’s Office now, especially if you, you know, have a cavity or something like that.
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Jason Mefford: And so, she said, you know, last week, when I when I went to the dentist and I was sitting there in the chair and I started to feel myself get anxious.
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Jason Mefford: I remembered the breathing exercises that you taught me how to do, and so I started using them to breathe right.
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Jason Mefford: because she could see herself getting anxious and knew that one of the emotional tools, if you want to call it is learning how to breathe in a different way.
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Jason Mefford: To help you go from being anxious to being relaxed Okay, and so again, that was something that was a tool that she’s picked up over over time and she’s putting it into practice.
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Jason Mefford: And by doing that right she’s able to go from anxiety to feeling peaceful or much more relaxed when she was in the dentist chair.
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Jason Mefford: Now, are there ever times in your life when you feel a little anxious and you’d rather not feel anxious.
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Jason Mefford: Well, did you know that there’s a tool that you can use and there’s different ways of breathing that you can use to be able to help get you into that emotional state where you want to be.
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Jason Mefford: that’s just an example of one of the tools it’s probably pretty important for you to learn how to use now another one that you’ve.
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Jason Mefford: might have heard me talk about here or, on the other, fire and earth podcasts that I have with Cathy river is self hypnosis.
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Jason Mefford: You know, because a lot of times, again, there are certain things in our life that we would like to change and we just feel like we can’t change them right there’s just something.
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Jason Mefford: That is up that is making it hard for us to change well chances are you’ve probably been programmed that way.
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Jason Mefford: So, if you think about our brain our human brain is very much like a computer and so as we experience different things in our life.
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Jason Mefford: Our brain gets programmed, just like a computer gets programmed to do certain things now, if you want to change the program you have to go in and re Code, the program right.
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Jason Mefford: Now you can try to do that with willpower but it doesn’t work, you can try to you know do talk therapy and some other stuff it doesn’t work, as well as going in and re programming the code.
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Jason Mefford: Right so some of you are going to be in it, you understand this right if if a program has certain code in it and you want the program to do something different.
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Jason Mefford: You have to change the programming in the software, so you would go in you delete certain things you’d write new code, so that the computer will now do what you want it to do.
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Jason Mefford: Right in fact i’m one of those nerdy guys that grew up with computers were not not as computers were coming out but as.
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Jason Mefford: As personal computers were starting to come around in the 80s and have I used to actually program and basic which happens to be a language that I don’t think anybody uses anymore, but I was so proud of myself every time that I could program the screen to flash different colors.
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Jason Mefford: Right I learned how to do that, I learned how to do that programming.
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Jason Mefford: Well, again in your life, maybe if there’s certain things that you’re not getting and you feel like you’re being held back chances are you need to change some of the programming in your brain, one of the ways that you can change the programming in your brain is through self hypnosis.
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Jason Mefford: may not have even realized that’s an option for you right but i’ve been using it in my life for years and i’ve seen great success.
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Jason Mefford: There people that I know have been using it, I know a lot of different hypnosis or hip hypnotist hypnotherapist.
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Jason Mefford: That use it, that has real, lasting impact to help people change their life right so again.
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Jason Mefford: That might be a tool that you don’t even know exists, and all of a sudden you’re like holy crap maybe that’s something that I need right.
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Jason Mefford: that’s an example of another kind of tool to be able to help help you in your life.
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Jason Mefford: Now one that’s maybe even a little bit more simple, you know to kind of talk about is how we use questions or how we actually are communicating right.
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Jason Mefford: And, and this is something again that I share with people on how to actually use certain questions to be able to get people to change their own mind.
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Jason Mefford: Instead of you trying to convince someone else because I don’t know if you’ve ever done this or not, if you’ve gotten into call it an argument or a heated exchange with someone.
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Jason Mefford: And you’re just trying to convince them to maybe see the world a different way, or to understand your perspective.
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Jason Mefford: And, most of us get taught, you know to kind of argue that’s usually the programming that we have seen that’s that’s what other people have done with us.
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Jason Mefford: that’s what we learn how to do and so over time that tends to be how we respond when those things or react usually more react when those things come up.
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Jason Mefford: Now, when we do that that’s just like don trying to use that hammer to hit in the screw right it’s not the most effective way to do it.
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Jason Mefford: And in fact instead using questions and learning how to communicate using questions is usually a much more effective way of doing it.
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Jason Mefford: But again it’s something that you have to learn it’s something that you know again there’s certain types of questions that are very good.
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Jason Mefford: there’s other questions that aren’t so good, and so you have to actually kind of learn, you know where to go with that, but you can literally use things like questions.
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Jason Mefford: As a way to get people to do things or not do things as well, or to change their mind right and again it’s these these are tools that you probably didn’t even exist or didn’t even realize exist.
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Jason Mefford: But they’re out there and there’s lots of other ones too right and so again, you know, one of the things that i’m trying to do here and and all the stuff that I do is.
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Jason Mefford: To give you the tools that will help you to be successful, you know I don’t want you over there, with only a tool bag, with one screwdriver and one hammer.
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Jason Mefford: and trying to go through your life just using one hammer and one screwdriver and thinking you’re going to be very effective in your life.
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Jason Mefford: If that’s all you have to work with you’re probably going to be pretty frustrated you’re going to be pretty stressed out you’re going to be feeling anxious.
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Jason Mefford: And, things are not necessarily going to go the way you want them to go life is going to be a lot harder than it needs to be right in fact and there’s some tools that are even better than others right, I still have manual screwdrivers.
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Jason Mefford: But i’ll tell you, if i’m trying to screw a three inch screw into wood it’s much more effective to use a power drill or a power driver.
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Jason Mefford: To be able to put that screw into the wood than it is for me to be sitting over there with my hand, you know, trying to twist my hand as i’m going through to put that screw into the wall.
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Jason Mefford: So you know again take a look at your life look at some of the areas where you know, again, maybe things aren’t going quite the way you want it to maybe all you need are some other tools to be able to help you be successful so again can’t.
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Jason Mefford: In the shorter format of a podcasts I can’t get through everything right now but i’m going to start talking more about some of these different tools.
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Jason Mefford: as well, to be able to help you because, like I said as I talked to people, a lot of people don’t realize that these things are out there.
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Jason Mefford: And they’re usually pretty simple they’re not necessarily easy Okay, because, again, the only way that you know we learn how to actually become proficient at using a tool.
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Jason Mefford: is to actually practice it and use it over and over again right I wouldn’t be able to play the guitar sitting behind me if I just bought it and set it there, and never actually picked it up and played.
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Jason Mefford: To try to make music as well right, so all right so with that again, as I told you at the beginning, Tim the tool man Taylor would be proud.
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Jason Mefford: I don’t know how many tools are referred to, but if you go back and listen to it again and count them all, and let me know i’ll send you something.
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Jason Mefford: About that so with that my friends, I am going to sign off for this episode and again just a reminder, you know use something simple like breathing.
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Jason Mefford: To be able to help you move from one emotional state to another, and with that i’ll catch you on the next episode of jamming with Jason see ya.
