In today’s episode I want to talk to you about music. More specifically the REM song “Losing My Religion”. Believe it or not, this song isn’t literally about religion.
Since there is a lot of meaning behind the original term “losing my religion” as well as the ACTUAL meaning of the song to it’s writers, there are a lot of great talking points that I will be bringing up with you today!
…and if you are wondering, yes I will be playing an acoustic cover of the song. So tune in!
and then take a look at the video from REM. This song is good on so many levels. Look at the imagery and how this song resonates with you at this time in your life.
Transcript
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Jason Mefford: Alright well today is going to be one of those jam sessions, where it’s just you and me talking and, if you look at the title of this episode it’s losing my religion.
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Jason Mefford: And so you might be sitting there thinking, what are we going to be talking about religion today Jason is that what we’re talking about.
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Jason Mefford: Well, maybe we’ll talk about that, but maybe we’ll be talking about the great song from rem losing my religion.
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Jason Mefford: This is one of those songs has been stuck in my head for about a month and just realize that it’s probably time to just sit down and talk through some of the lyrics because i’m being told that this is a podcast that’s gotta come out so with that stay tuned and roll that episode.
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Jason Mefford: All right, well again today we’re going to be talking about losing my religion, now that it’s it’s a very interesting song from rem and and I just want to want to preface a little bit before we get started today.
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Jason Mefford: Because you know again if you’ve been listening to me for a while you realize that music is an important part of my life.
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Jason Mefford: And in i’m guessing since you’re listening, maybe it is for you to and, and so I wanted to share like I said, this is one of those songs that’s just been going over and over and over in my head.
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Jason Mefford: For at least a month now, and just knew that I need to do a podcast episode on it don’t know exactly where it’s going to go but.
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Jason Mefford: it’s one of those times when we get to just kind of reflect and so whatever you do listen to this entire episode because there’s going to be something in today’s episode that is going to stick with you.
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Jason Mefford: And so, let me, let me just share with you a little example I had yesterday, one of my friends mentioned or made reference to the the the goddess Athena and so, of course, the way my brain goes, most of the time, as I think in I think in movie lines song lyrics things like that, and so.
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Jason Mefford: When she mentioned Athena obviously I thought about the hoop because they have a great song called Athena.
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Jason Mefford: That data that that can remember layers right now but anyway that’s what today’s episode is about anyway.
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Jason Mefford: But what it did was it, it sent me down a rabbit hole for a little while and I ended up listening to quite a few of the whose songs whose songs the who’s as little habit and costello kind of.
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Jason Mefford: comedy for you, there you go little smile on your face today right.
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Jason Mefford: But you know i’ve been listening to the who for decades Okay, but yesterday when I sat down and was going through and listening to some of the songs I just turned on the lyrics.
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Jason Mefford: Because on apple music, you can sit usually sit and read the lyrics as your as you’re listening to it as well, and what I noticed was.
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Jason Mefford: A theme in those songs That was something I needed to hear yesterday okay.
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Jason Mefford: And it’s personal so i’m not going to go into it with you but but here’s here’s here’s one of the learnings for today and that you’re going to see as we get into today’s episode is that.
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Jason Mefford: things come along in our life at different times, and they have different meanings for us at different points in our life.
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Jason Mefford: And so again i’d listened to those songs that I listened to yesterday for literally decades probably hundreds of times i’ve listened to some of those songs.
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Jason Mefford: But the lyrics in those songs yesterday meant something different to me, and it was something that I needed to hear yesterday to help give me some advice and direction in my life.
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Jason Mefford: And so again that’s what i’m going with today and today’s episode is that you know we’re going to be talking about losing my religion now for some of you that might mean well, maybe literally losing your religion.
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Jason Mefford: You know, going away from an organized religion that you had before, but but, as I said, I want to, I want to talk mainly in terms of the rem song.
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Jason Mefford: Because it’s one of those songs that is a great song, but you can at different times in your life, you can see yourself in this song okay.
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Jason Mefford: Now, when it first came out the record company actually didn’t want to put it out, they thought it was going to cause a whole bunch of.
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Jason Mefford: backlash with the religious community as a result of it now that term losing my religion, it has nothing to do with religion okay.
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Jason Mefford: But the record company had some stories and thought oh my gosh we’re talking about religion we’ve got the word in there, people are going to be pissed off about this well the term actually is an old saying from the southern us that when when someone.
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Jason Mefford: Quote unquote loses their religion, it means that you feel like you’re at the end of your rope okay that you’re at the end of your rope.
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Jason Mefford: And it’s the point at time and time at which the moment of politeness gives way to anger okay and i’m sure that there’s been several times in your life when you felt like you were at your ropes and.
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Jason Mefford: And you were just pissed off and angry and tired and not wanting to take it any more right and so again, maybe that maybe the term came around again because some people, you know, sometimes get at the end of the rope for something like religion and say screw it i’m not doing that anymore.
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Jason Mefford: You know and move away from it, but really, as I said, it’s it’s a term that that has that, meaning that you’re at the end of your rope.
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Jason Mefford: And it usually gives way to some sort of anger you want some sort of change in your life, so this is a great song talking about change, and as you go through and look at the lyrics and i’m going to talk about them a little bit.
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Jason Mefford: And kind of what they met mean to me or how we can see ourselves in this as well, but ultimately, as you listen to it, the lyrics are going to mean something to you.
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Jason Mefford: And so, again as a curious learner what your job is is to figure out what the hell, does it mean for me okay.
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Jason Mefford: i’m going to kind of tell you a little bit about what it means for me and maybe it means the same for you, maybe it doesn’t right, but you just have to have to go with it go with the flow and see what you’re supposed to hear today when you’re listening to this podcast.
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Jason Mefford: Now, interestingly enough, you know again that’s where the term losing my religion comes from that’s why they chose that as the as the, as the title for the song but what’s funny is the song was actually written.
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Jason Mefford: About unrequited love and what that means is someone loves someone, but the other person doesn’t love them right and so again that causes a lot of frustration.
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Jason Mefford: You know, because you want to be with someone you love someone but they’re not responding to you right and a lot of us again, we feel that way.
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Jason Mefford: Maybe in romantic relationships, but other points in time in our life and other relationships and and other things we’re doing as well.
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Jason Mefford: We might want something, but the other person doesn’t want the same thing, or we may want our life to go a certain way, but the universe wants our life to go a different way okay.
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Jason Mefford: And so, like I said at various times in our life we end up in those kind of situations okay so let’s jump in.
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Jason Mefford: today’s episode further now, so let me, let me go ahead and get all situated here and actually if you haven’t heard the song before this will be familiar to your will will be new to you, but if you’re if you’re familiar with it, then you just kind of sing along as we get going so.
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Jason Mefford: I don’t have the old mandolin that they have at the beginning of it but we’ll just go with what we got today alright So here we go.
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Jason Mefford: Oh.
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Jason Mefford: it’s bigger than you.
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Jason Mefford: not me.
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Jason Mefford: In your.
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Jason Mefford: Saturday.
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Jason Mefford: that’s me.
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Jason Mefford: that’s me and the spot light.
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Jason Mefford: up with you.
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Jason Mefford: know if I can do.
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Jason Mefford: Oh no I.
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Jason Mefford: haven’t setting.
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Jason Mefford: See.
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Jason Mefford: Every waking hour i’m choosing my confession.
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Jason Mefford: try and keep an eye on you.
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Jason Mefford: Know i’m so.
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Jason Mefford: Sad.
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Jason Mefford: slip.
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Jason Mefford: me to my.
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Jason Mefford: spotify all these fantasy come flailing around now i’ve said to me.
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Jason Mefford: same.
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Jason Mefford: thing.
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Jason Mefford: Alright, so we won’t play the whole song, but just wanted to go through, and because, like I said, you know as i’ve been sitting here thinking about this, these lyrics have been milling themselves over in my mind.
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Jason Mefford: figured I need to get it out, I need to get it out there, so here you go my friends let’s talk about losing your religion.
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Jason Mefford: Because again there’s a lot of lessons to learn from this song, so let me just go through and talk about a few of the lyrics we’ll see how long we go today.
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Jason Mefford: But here we go, so the first line right oh life is bigger it’s bigger than you right and sometimes we tend to get stuck in our shit.
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Jason Mefford: And just think and forget to put in perspective, how big life is life is bigger than us it’s bigger than you and the next line, and you are not me.
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Jason Mefford: Okay, the lengths that I will go to the distance in your eyes and how much of the time, you know as we’re going through life, do we get stuck kind of comparing ourselves to other people.
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Jason Mefford: And we look at or or we make our life small because we’re living it to try to meet someone else’s expectations right.
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Jason Mefford: So you know again the lengths that I will go to the distance in your eyes, so this person is trying to do things to get this other person to pay attention to them.
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Jason Mefford: But the other person ain’t paying attention okay so here’s The lesson folks right.
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Jason Mefford: If you’re doing things and you’re trying to get other people to pay attention to you and trying to be the way that you think they want them to that they want you to be.
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Jason Mefford: just stop Okay, because it’s probably not going to be reciprocated plus you’re being someone that you are not right, so at that point just be yourself just be yourself okay now.
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Jason Mefford: let’s go on to some other lyrics that’s me in the corner that’s me in the spot light Okay, how many times in your life have you felt like you’re in the corner.
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Jason Mefford: Right, because at different points in our life we all end up in a corner and or we end up in the spotlight.
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Jason Mefford: And at different times in our life, we are in the corner or in the spotlight, and we move back and forth Okay, so if you’re one of those people that feels like you’re stuck in the corner.
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Jason Mefford: Maybe ask yourself why am I in the corner.
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Jason Mefford: Why am I in the corner, am I in the corner because someone put me in the corner and told me, I have to be in the corner.
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Jason Mefford: Or did I put myself there right because a lot of times I know in my life, I found myself sitting in the corner, being the wallflower feeling like that’s where I belong at this time i’m not worthy to be anywhere else.
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Jason Mefford: Or maybe somebody has told me to go there and i’ve given my power to them by allowing them to put me in the corner.
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Jason Mefford: Well, let me tell you right don’t put baby in a corner for you’ve heard that term before right So if you feel like you’re in the corner and you don’t want to be there, get out of the corner.
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Jason Mefford: Sometimes we get shoved into the spotlight as well, and sometimes that can be a little uncomfortable as well right so are you in the corner.
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Jason Mefford: Or are you in the spotlight okay Now I want to also mention the video the that that that rem did with this and i’ll and i’ll i’ll plan to put a link to it down below, but there is beautiful imagery.
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Jason Mefford: In this video about things like spilled milk and a fallen angel okay.
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Jason Mefford: And the reason for that again as we’re going through and talking about this is how much of the time, do we put ourselves in the corner, because we spilled some milk.
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Jason Mefford: figuratively speaking right and how much pain and anguish do we put it on herself for doing something like spilling milk at the end of the day, it’s just milk you just clean it up and you move on right.
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Jason Mefford: or a fallen angel you know, again, what if what if we’re not living up to other people’s expectations of what they think we need to be do we end up becoming that fallen angel as well right so.
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Jason Mefford: watch the video again you’re going to see some things in there i’ve watched that video over and over now.
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Jason Mefford: For this last month and there’s always something else that kind of POPs out at me with that so so again, are you feeling like you’re in the corner.
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Jason Mefford: And maybe you don’t want to be there, maybe you want to be back in the spotlight well it’s time to move there right the next line losing my religion.
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Jason Mefford: Trying to keep up with you now that’s a very interesting line right how much of our life is spent comparing ourselves to other people.
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Jason Mefford: or trying to be like someone else when that is not who we are right so again if i’m at the end of my rope i’m tired i’m angry i’m not going to do it anymore.
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Jason Mefford: Well, maybe you feel that way in your life right now quit trying to be someone else quit trying to follow after and keep up with someone else when really all you got to do is be yourself okay.
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Jason Mefford: So, again trying to keep up with you and I don’t know if I can do it.
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Jason Mefford: right because, again, a lot of times we spend ourselves spinning wheels trying to go after things that we think we want, but maybe we don’t actually really want it at the end of the day, okay.
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Jason Mefford: Now the next slide oh no i’ve said too much I haven’t said enough, so I feel this way a lot okay to where sometimes I feel like.
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Jason Mefford: I probably said too much other times I feel like well I haven’t said enough well how many times in your life have you been that way as well right so sometimes on the podcast here on videos that I do.
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Jason Mefford: Sometimes I feel like man I didn’t really give enough I didn’t I didn’t say enough maybe I wasn’t strong enough in what I was actually saying.
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Jason Mefford: Or maybe I said too much right maybe I feel like i’ve gone over the line and i’ve had a few people that have told me that right hey Jason I love your stuff but man that last thing ooh I don’t know about that right.
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Jason Mefford: Well, but again, those are a lot of the feelings, maybe of insecurity that we might have that’s normal part of being alive and being a human right.
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Jason Mefford: And so again something something to think about right now here’s here’s some interesting next lines right, I thought that I heard you laughing I thought that I heard you think saying.
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Jason Mefford: I think I saw you try now here’s some interesting stuff right if we’re sitting over in the corner and we see people laughing and they’re looking over at us.
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Jason Mefford: Do we think they’re laughing at us a lot of times we do right.
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Jason Mefford: Okay, maybe that’s one where i’m just going to leave it at that point right because, again, sometimes i’ve said enough, sometimes I haven’t said enough but you’ll get that anyway.
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Jason Mefford: Now what’s what’s interesting again is i’m not going to go through, word for word line for line on this, but.
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Jason Mefford: As I told you at the beginning, right there there’s a lot of wisdom in this song that, as you go back and you think about in your own life.
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Jason Mefford: Where do you fit at this time, right now, one of the lines that really jumped out at me is.
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Jason Mefford: This section okay can sit so and listen to the word, listen to the lyrics that they did because again when a songwriter doesn’t have very much space for lyrics.
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Jason Mefford: And so you’re very, very careful about the lyrics you use and why you use them in the way that you use them okay so consider this consider this the hint of the century OK so again to consider this as consider this consider this the hint of the century.
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Jason Mefford: that’s telling you that something important is coming up right because they’re telling you to consider it twice and they’re telling you look, this is the hint of the century century.
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Jason Mefford: Consider this the slip that brought me to my kneel to my knees OK so again, this is something that apparently when this person learned this brought them to their knees and so again, you can go with all the imagery that you want to there.
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Jason Mefford: You know, in that sometimes again when we dropped to our knees were kind of begging we’re allowing we’re giving up which hence again right being at the end of one’s rope So what is this hint of the century here you go you’re ready, what if all these fantasies come flailing around.
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Jason Mefford: So what does that actually mean right, what if all these fantasies come flailing around now if you drop down a little bit further in the song, they say, but that was just a dream just a dream.
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Jason Mefford: So again, maybe one thing for you to consider is what if a lot of the things that you believe are just a fantasy.
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Jason Mefford: What if a lot of the stories that you’re telling yourself are just a fantasy, would you live, your life differently.
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Jason Mefford: If that were true.
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Jason Mefford: Because a lot of us end up staying stuck where we are, because we believe.
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Jason Mefford: that things are are real, we believe that we have, we have a lot of stories that go along with who we are, what we are okay.
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Jason Mefford: and often the end up keeping us stuck well what if those things were just fantasies What if those were just stories, you were telling yourself.
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Jason Mefford: That aren’t true anyway Okay, and this again is is one of the keys to learn in life and i’m going to repeat it a few times so i’m probably going to say it too much in this particular instance right.
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Jason Mefford: Most of what we believe is not actually true.
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Jason Mefford: And we get to choose which stories we want to believe.
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Jason Mefford: Now I know for many of you that’s going to go right over your head and that’s fine that’s fine, because at the time that you need to hear it you’re going to hear it and you’re going to get it Okay, but again.
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Jason Mefford: At some point in your life you’re going to wake up and go Why am I doing this Why am I doing this anyway, this doesn’t make any sense right.
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Jason Mefford: Because what ends up happening so much of the time in our life is a story that we believe serves us for a while, until it no longer serves us and you might have heard me say that, before right.
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Jason Mefford: So again, for me, I grew up religious I grew up going to an organized religion, at some point in my life I realized that story, no longer serves me.
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Jason Mefford: I don’t believe those things I don’t believe that my life is better with those things, so I change my story okay now again that’s just an example for religion let’s try a different example right.
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Jason Mefford: let’s say you know, instead, I have a story that says, you know what unless unless I have the perfect body unless i’m just gorgeous.
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Jason Mefford: Okay, and and i’ve got the six pack and the muscles and i’m a real manly man unless i’m that the nobody’s gonna love me.
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Jason Mefford: Well there’s a lot of people that have that story right, and especially as as when we are younger.
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Jason Mefford: We believe that because that’s what we kind of get told right Oh, you know attractive people are the ones that have all the fun, I mean just go watch beer commercials for god’s sake right.
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Jason Mefford: You know, we get we get told and fed these stories all the time of of you know what our life will be like if we do certain things.
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Jason Mefford: And for some of us we go down those paths, we believe that for a while and then it no longer serves us right.
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Jason Mefford: Sometimes people have issues with eating or with gambling or with drug abuse or alcohol abuse right and again for a while those stories might serve you but at some point you’re going to be at the end of your rope and you’re going to realize that that no longer is serving me so.
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Jason Mefford: That is the hint of the century Okay, because, again, the older that I get the more I realized, I mean even even this morning right, I was.
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Jason Mefford: Have a family member who’s in town and there were a whole bunch of stories going over in my head okay.
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Jason Mefford: About well do I need to go see this person Do I need to make the extra time for it blah blah blah blah blah, am I a bad you know person if I do or don’t do this thing.
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Jason Mefford: When, at the end of the day it doesn’t really matter right it doesn’t really matter, because a lot of it is just a dream anyway, and again there’s a lot.
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Jason Mefford: A lot of other songs I could go on sticks, the great illusion as another one, you know the hear that kind of talks about this because.
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Jason Mefford: The fact is most most of the things that we tell ourselves are not actually true anyway.
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Jason Mefford: You know the only fact that is really true right now is you’re listening to my voice, either on video or through a podcast right.
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Jason Mefford: you’re listening to my voice, right now, but a lot of the other things that go on in our head are just a dream just a dream Okay, so how much time, so again let’s let’s go back to the song a little bit.
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Jason Mefford: Imagine how much pain and frustration this person put on themselves, trying to love someone who doesn’t love them anyway, trying to be someone.
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Jason Mefford: That they think the other person wants oh if i’m just this way, then this other person is going to love me then they’re going to finally accept me.
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Jason Mefford: That is one of the greatest stories that so many of us have that is completely ass backwards Okay, because what I will tell you is people will never love you, except for who you really are.
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Jason Mefford: Get here that people will only really love you for who you really are, and the sooner that we get past that that we realize, you know what.
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Jason Mefford: Sometimes i’m in the corner sometimes i’m in the spotlight if i’m in the corner and I want to be in the spotlight i’m going to move myself there right.
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Jason Mefford: And i’m not going to go to any links right to try to impress you i’m not going to go to any links to try to get your approval either.
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Jason Mefford: Because, at the end of the day, I just have to be me right and and that’s again where you know if you can be happy and present.
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Jason Mefford: Now, exactly as you are, that is one of the keys to life okay I grew up I grew up listening to Mr Rogers and you know, the one thing that he always used to say, is, I, like you.
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Jason Mefford: exactly the way you are right, and that if we ourselves can actually start realizing that it can start living that more.
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Jason Mefford: How much happier, we will be, because ultimately it’s not the circumstances that we’re that we find ourselves in that determines whether we’re going to be happy or not.
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Jason Mefford: Okay does everybody who has cancer is everybody who has cancer are they unhappy no right some of the people that have cancer that are in the last few days of their life.
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Jason Mefford: Are some of the happiest people i’ve ever met right because they put things in perspective and they actually realize and enjoy life for what it is alright.
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Jason Mefford: So.
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Jason Mefford: I just had to get that off my chest So there you go losing my religion right and again, as I said, as you listen to this there was something that jumped out at you.
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Jason Mefford: Some way that this is going to help you today because, ultimately, my friends, what i’m telling you is there is hope there is love there is light in this world, and if you feel like you’re in the corner and you don’t want to be there just be yourself.
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Jason Mefford: Be yourself put yourself out there and what you will find is that people will be attracted to you, people will love you for for being exactly who you are.
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Jason Mefford: In fact that’s really the only way to be is to be the way that you are so here I am folks i’m showing up talking to you about something because it’s who I am right and and I hope that again this has come through as i’m talking to you today is my love for you.
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Jason Mefford: And for just wanting to give you hope and realize that you know a lot of times we find ourselves in situations that aren’t that fun.
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Jason Mefford: So we pull ourselves up by the bootstraps we move on and and we learn and we realize that we don’t have to compare ourselves to anyone else we can just show up and be who we are.
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Jason Mefford: So with that.
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Jason Mefford: Have a great rest of your week and i’ll catch on the next episode see ya.
