You may already be familiar with personality profiles like Myers-Briggs or DISC that you can use to learn more about yourself and others as ways to relate and communicate better with others.
Have you heard of Human Design?
In this #jammingwithjason #podcast I talk with Stefanie Elias about this new option of getting to know yourself better. When we know ourselves better, accept our own uniqueness, and be that person we help bring our unique gifts to the world. We can also have more compassion for ourselves and others.
And as always, what we are talking about is kind of what we are really talking about. Take a listen and see what you need to hear this week.
Reach out to Stefanie on social media through Facebook, Instagram or LinkedIn:
https://www.instagram.com/stef.e1010/
https://www.linkedin.com/in/stefanie-elias-human-design-guide-196884209/
https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100014047359326
Listen in at: http://www.jasonmefford.com/jammingwithjason233/
Transcript
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Jason Mefford: Well hey you may already be familiar with certain tools that some people use to help understand themselves.
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Jason Mefford: and understand other people, maybe that they work with or other people in their family that they’re dealing with.
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Jason Mefford: You know some of the things like the myers briggs profile or disc from a communication perspective.
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Jason Mefford: And you know lots of people use these and their ways for us to help know ourselves better and know the other people that were working with are dealing with, so that we can actually relate better.
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Jason Mefford: Well, today i’m talking to stephanie Elias about another one called human design.
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Jason Mefford: And this is another way for us to help get to know ourselves better it’s something I don’t know a whole lot about myself so i’m excited to jump in and talk with stephanie today.
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Jason Mefford: So if you want to get to know yourself better make sure, and whatever you do listen to this entire episode and see if human design is something that resonates with you so with that let’s roll that episode.
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Jason Mefford: Alright stephanie well welcome, how are you today.
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Stefanie Elias: Thank you for having me i’m very well thanks Jason.
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You know it’s.
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Jason Mefford: This is, this is one of those i’m excited for this discussion because i’m a curious learner I always like to learn new things.
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Jason Mefford: And I know i’ve heard a little bit in kind of the fringes about human design so i’m excited to learn more about what that actually is, and to kind of hear your story, because you know I know that it’s it’s made a big impact in your life.
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Jason Mefford: In want to see you know how it can maybe make a big impact in my life for life of other people who are listening.
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Jason Mefford: as well, so so maybe just to start off with give us all a little context as to you know what was going on in your life and then you found this thing called human design, what is it and how it’s how it’s actually helped you.
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Stefanie Elias: Sure um so I discovered human design.
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Stefanie Elias: i’m going to say it’s like six or eight months ago.
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Stefanie Elias: And i’d seen it.
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Stefanie Elias: You know, online here and there, but I never really looked into it, and when I finally did I was amazed and astounded and I felt.
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Stefanie Elias: I felt very seen and heard and validated because.
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Stefanie Elias: i’m there’s five different types in human design and i’m one of the types that’s less rare, so I felt like.
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Stefanie Elias: Like like someone was telling me all about myself, but this person didn’t know me.
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Stefanie Elias: So that’s what it was like for me.
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Jason Mefford: Well, and so it’s interesting because you say you felt seen heard and validated right and I, and I know you know for myself lots of other people i’ve talked to.
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Jason Mefford: A lot of times we feel like people don’t get me i’m weird i’m different i’m whatever it is right there’s something wrong with me because i’m not like everybody else.
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Jason Mefford: Right is it so that’s kind of how it sounds like you were kind of feeling right, but this helps you how did this help you be feel seen and heard and validated more.
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Stefanie Elias: um well I I went very deep into my own type and.
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Stefanie Elias: um I discovered.
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Stefanie Elias: Like unconscious things that when I when it was brought to my awareness, then it then it resonated so it’s like I learned so much about myself that I didn’t even know.
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Stefanie Elias: I don’t know if that answers the question clearly.
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Jason Mefford: Well, so, so I guess then maybe by learning more about yourself and having it resonate it made you feel more comfortable being yourself and that it was okay to be who you were and.
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Jason Mefford: This is a kind of where you’re going with that.
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Stefanie Elias: yeah and to realize like my own uniqueness and and that it’s safe and that it’s okay to be authentic to be weird right just to do me and in realizing that you realize that every other single soul on the planet.
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Stefanie Elias: is exactly that created in that same unique way.
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Stefanie Elias: And, and it helps when you can see that you yourself are that way it helps your relationships with your family and your friends and your coworkers and your enemies and anyone to because you realize that they are also designed in this unique way.
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Stefanie Elias: And that’s sometimes where.
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Stefanie Elias: i’m like problems can come up in relationships, because there’s friction right because we’re because we’re different.
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Jason Mefford: A little bit about the other person to be like us right instead of instead of celebrating their own uniqueness and allowing them to be themselves.
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Stefanie Elias: Exactly.
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Jason Mefford: yeah because I think that’s where a lot of the friction comes in most of our relationships right.
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Stefanie Elias: Right and I realized that our relationships are like a playing field for growth for evolution when we can see.
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Stefanie Elias: The uniqueness of everyone.
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Stefanie Elias: Well, it just makes more peace in your heart and your life and your relationships and so much more expansion.
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Jason Mefford: Well, and so so so let’s let’s talk a little bit about this, because I know again, you know a lot of people.
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Jason Mefford: Probably aren’t familiar with this right so in the business world, I used myers briggs desk you know some of these different kind of.
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Jason Mefford: Profiling tools, if you will, right so so you know if somebody is kind of familiar with those right you go usually you kind of.
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Jason Mefford: answer some questions you do some different things, and then you kind of get a report right that shows you what your type is right now, and I think that’s a term that human design uses as well right as type.
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Jason Mefford: Yes, so well, so when we’re when we’re using that term folks you’ll know what that means right is your type so like, for you know, for me, for myers briggs i’m an eye and tj.
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Jason Mefford: Which is a rare thing which again probably kind of like you, you know when I found that out i’m like only a few percentage points of the people are this right so.
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Jason Mefford: And that’s why i’m a little different than most people right, but as I would go through, and I, and I read the information about what an eye in tj was.
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Jason Mefford: It resonated with me and it’s like oh that’s why I do those things that’s why i’m this way that’s why i’m a contrarian sometimes right and why i’m a little bit of a rebel.
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Jason Mefford: Is because I just think different or I am a little different right so so, how does, how does the you know just so people can kind of.
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Jason Mefford: get a context, if they’ve gone through one of those other ones, what do you do in human design is that the same kind of thing or How does that work for you to be able to find out what your type is.
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Stefanie Elias: So human design is not a test that you take it is.
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Stefanie Elias: Human design is the is like an energetic map of you it’s where the sun and the earth and the moon, and the planets were located at the time, you were born and 88 degrees before you were born.
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Stefanie Elias: And it takes those two energetic snapshots and it overlays them and it gives you.
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Stefanie Elias: Your body graph so there’s the unconscious, which is the 88 days or the 88 degrees before you were born and then the conscious is the snapshot of like the universe, the planets at the time that you were born.
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Stefanie Elias: And so, like that it’s not a test that you take it just is.
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Jason Mefford: Okay.
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Jason Mefford: So you would get information about where you’re born time date things like that, and so it’s it’s really kind of a melding.
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Jason Mefford: You know I talked about the the myers briggs desk right, this is this is more kind of like an astrology sign if you will right so other people, you know people probably familiar with.
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Jason Mefford: horoscopes the astrological signs as well right, so if you’re already kind of familiar with that.
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Jason Mefford: This sounds like goes into a lot more depth than just what a horoscope might right is that.
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Stefanie Elias: Right, yes, human design is it combines several systems that uses astrology it uses the tree of life, it uses the E Ching and it also uses.
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Stefanie Elias: The Chakra system and it takes all of that together.
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Jason Mefford: To be able to give you a better a better picture of what’s going on now so so again, some people might mean.
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Jason Mefford: I know about astrology I don’t talk a lot of Bethel on this podcast but let’s let’s just talk about it too right because you know again sometimes people are.
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Jason Mefford: Look at it and go oh that’s just right I don’t believe in astrology.
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Jason Mefford: Well, you know, the same thing for me when I read the characteristics or the things about an iron tj on myers briggs when I do the same thing for my astrology sign which happens to be Leo i’m a Leo.
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Jason Mefford: And when I read information about leo’s damn it’s spot on.
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Jason Mefford: Like of who I am right and who I feel like I am and so i’m sure you know people that have been listening at some point, you probably kind of you know poke your head in a little bit or read the horoscopes on Sunday right.
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Jason Mefford: And, and you can probably relate or identify with some of those things it’s the same kind of a thing with this right, I mean, as you were describing feeling like you were seeing heard and validated when you kind of read the information about your particular type.
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Jason Mefford: i’m guessing that’s kind of what you meant to write like it was just resonating with you like oh yeah that’s who I am.
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Stefanie Elias: And you can feel it like in every cell of your body like this is me this is my being.
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Stefanie Elias: Right it’s it’s energy it’s all energy, everything is energy.
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Jason Mefford: Everything is energy and everything has energy but that’s a topic for another.
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Stefanie Elias: podcast that’s right.
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Jason Mefford: So so okay so so it’s interesting so so maybe you know again just you know explain how, how do you do this, I mean if somebody is interested in human design, how to.
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Jason Mefford: How do they go about it, you know get some of these other ones again like you take a test or you buy a book or you do something like that, how would you do this with with human design.
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Stefanie Elias: You can there’s different sites, you can go to.
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Stefanie Elias: I use genetic matrix.com and you can you can get your free profile and you can see your body graph and.
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Stefanie Elias: Unless you know human design, you probably won’t have much of a clue about what it means, because it you’ll see it has centers and it has gates and channels and so all the planets listed and.
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Stefanie Elias: it’s all very super super interesting and it goes very much in depth, and it can also look really confusing, so you can find a lot of free information on the Internet, but then there’s also a lot of like human design guides out there.
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Stefanie Elias: And you can get like a human design reading.
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Jason Mefford: So, and I know you know because again to kind of tie in like with the astrology thing I know that’s been a thing right, I mean I knows different astrologers and that’s what they do right they.
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Jason Mefford: They take a look at your charts and then they they kind of read or look at you know, based on information about you information about some of these other things that they’re looking at to kind of help do things like predict, you know what might transpire for you this next year.
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Jason Mefford: As an example, right.
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Jason Mefford: And I know again as i’m talking about this, some people are going to be like that’s just bullshit well.
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Jason Mefford: i’ll tell you folks on one of my other podcasts I interviewed and astrologer a few times this woman like to the month, you know.
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Jason Mefford: New when the Berlin Wall, is going to come down right and just stuff that you would.
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Jason Mefford: Not even think about right so so you know if you’re a little skeptical just try it out see if it resonates for you, because that’s what I like to tell people is.
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Jason Mefford: You know who knows it might work for you, it might not work for you, but the only way you’re going to know is, if you try it if you try it and you like it and it’s helpful then there’s no harm in that right.
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Jason Mefford: So you know with that, I mean let’s you know to kind of see how it.
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Jason Mefford: How are really kind of impacted you what What did you learn about your self right that that has been helpful because you know.
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Jason Mefford: Because i’m sure you’ve probably done some of these other things too, but what was it about this, or what did you learn about yourself that really kind of helped pull this together for you.
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Stefanie Elias: yeah so there’s.
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Stefanie Elias: Like when you’re talking about like myers briggs or other like personality tests, you have big.
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Stefanie Elias: Like there’s there’s different groupings within that right or different types in human design, you also have different types, but like within the type you have your own unique profile.
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Stefanie Elias: That is unlike anyone else that’s right so it’s extremely individualized and unique and specific for you.
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Stefanie Elias: And, and so yeah it really.
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Stefanie Elias: served me in a way.
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Stefanie Elias: It just It made me feel like.
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Stefanie Elias: me and my life and my purpose is really needed, because no one else on the planet has the same energy that I do no one else has the exact same shadows and gifts.
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Stefanie Elias: that I have.
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Stefanie Elias: And for me, a lot of the times I used to feel.
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Stefanie Elias: And it’s still do sometimes that you know there’s so many wonderful people on the planet there’s so many books podcasts courses.
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Stefanie Elias: there’s so much.
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Stefanie Elias: there’s so many words there’s so much noise it’s like.
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Stefanie Elias: Do I really need to add to that like do I have anything.
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Stefanie Elias: unique of value that I can actually give to the world.
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Stefanie Elias: and
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Stefanie Elias: Human design showed me that, yes, I do.
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Stefanie Elias: And yes, everyone does.
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Stefanie Elias: Their there’s there’s no one that doesn’t have something.
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Stefanie Elias: The gifts doesn’t have a gift or doesn’t have a value it doesn’t have something unique to bring to the world.
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Stefanie Elias: And, and for me that was huge.
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Stefanie Elias: And when when one person.
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Stefanie Elias: doesn’t bring their gifts to the world.
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Stefanie Elias: there’s a hole there there’s a void there’s something missing, there is something in the in the in the big picture.
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Stefanie Elias: That could be a blessing to someone that could help someone that could encourage someone.
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Stefanie Elias: that’s not going to happen if you don’t use your gifts and bring.
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Stefanie Elias: Your gifts to the world.
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Stefanie Elias: Because in the big picture, we all there’s a puzzle and we’re all a piece and we’re all needed and we all fit.
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Jason Mefford: We fit together perfectly right because it, because as you’re talking there you know, again I think that’s that’s some things that people need to hear right, because I think sometimes we.
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Jason Mefford: You know it’s interesting that you bring up about how even though, yes, there are types, it really is more about the uniqueness of you.
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Jason Mefford: Because I think so much of the time, and like you said, even you know i’m familiar with myers briggs a lot of people listening might be so i’ll just use that as an example.
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Jason Mefford: right for four different letter combinations that make up 16 different types right, if you will, and everybody gets placed in a box.
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Jason Mefford: And so you know you might go through and read that or you might read something like your zodiac sign and it’s like.
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Jason Mefford: You know about 50 to 75% of that really sounds like me but i’m not so sure about the rest of it right, and so you know there’s this whole idea of we shouldn’t put people in boxes, we shouldn’t put ourself in boxes necessarily right.
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Jason Mefford: In I remember one of the guys that I that I used to work with, he told me one time with his with his grandson was a son or if it was son son or grandson I can’t remember.
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Jason Mefford: Mixed race couple mixed race children.
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Jason Mefford: And I remember him telling me, you know what what he would always tell his kids is don’t ever let somebody puts you in a box.
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Jason Mefford: Right, because so much of life, we want to get put in a box, you know you take something like race that really doesn’t matter.
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Jason Mefford: But on how many government forms, do you have to mark i’m white non Hispanic or I am you know East islander or I am whatever right so much of life is trying to put us all in a box in this order but damn it i’m not a box you’re not a box nobody’s a box right.
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Jason Mefford: Right and or or the other thing, where you know people try to put us in those boxes, or they try to make us conform yeah right that unless you’re like all the other kids there’s something wrong with you.
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Jason Mefford: You know you’re not here and I felt that, as a kid how I still feel that as an adult.
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Jason Mefford: Okay, because i’m not like all the other kids.
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Jason Mefford: So that message that you were just sharing too is it’s okay to be unique it’s okay to be weird it’s okay to be quirky because, without all of us being who we are and bringing our own unique experiences of perspective and everything else together.
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Jason Mefford: In a pretty picture in the world right, I mean imagine if you were trying to paint paint a painting, but you could only use red paint.
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Stefanie Elias: boring.
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Jason Mefford: boring, and the same shade of red, mind you.
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Jason Mefford: Right you just have a canvas full of the same paint and so it’s really it’s all of that.
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Jason Mefford: Difference uniqueness that actually adds to the overall experience well.
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Stefanie Elias: Yes, and human design we call it conditioning the you know everyone’s painted with the same color put in a box labeled organized you know it’s like because we understand.
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Jason Mefford: Well i’m sure you know, again you’ve.
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Jason Mefford: But How has it helped you I guess as well to understand other people, or maybe be more compassionate for other people as well.
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Stefanie Elias: Absolutely I sat around all my kids charts and and i’ve done, you know readings for other people and.
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Stefanie Elias: yeah, then you can see where they’re coming from you can see their energy, you can see their strengths and their gifts and and where you might struggle and another really cool thing you can do with human design is you can.
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Jason Mefford: Just writing that down i’m a note taker.
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Stefanie Elias: And when we do it for ourselves that energy like it radiates out and it affects.
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Jason Mefford: And, most of us.
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Stefanie Elias: Yes, we are.
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Jason Mefford: Until someone else around us has the courage to actually show us and let us know that it’s okay.
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Stefanie Elias: Right and it’s it’s very okay it’s more than okay it’s.
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Jason Mefford: But I think it’s interesting because it’s you know, one of the things that I talked about a lot of times with people who are leaders right is.
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Jason Mefford: And when you do that right then your world around you changes, and I think that’s that’s pretty much what you’re saying here too right is that I think so much of the time we were trying to fix other people.
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Jason Mefford: And then other things, end up changing but that’s an area where it’s scary for most of us to go right is this whole idea of self worth self love.
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Jason Mefford: That we’re scared to go there yeah but it sounds like going through this process has helped helped you even to be able to accept and love yourself more to by actually understanding and embracing who you who you are.
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Stefanie Elias: yeah and something thats related well not something that’s born out of human design it’s a it’s a totally different system it’s called gene keys and it’s based on the E Ching.
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Stefanie Elias: Like we were talking about how your we’re how we’re all trying to you know change other people or fix other people, and when we when we transform ourselves on the inside, you can transform a relationship just by changing yourself by healing your own.
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Jason Mefford: yeah oh shit honey, I mean you know you can’t live life and be exactly the same person, the whole time right and and so much of the time.
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Jason Mefford: When we’re having relationship problems we want to change the other person or we were hoping or where we’re cajoling are arguing or fighting to get the other person.
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Jason Mefford: Those kind of things, and then the relationship takes care of itself is that what i’m kind of hearing you say.
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Jason Mefford: Well, I think it’s.
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Jason Mefford: But it’s also some other lessons, even if you don’t go through and do this right, if you don’t go to you know, do the human design and get your chart and find out your type and all that kind of stuff.
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Jason Mefford: The stuff we’re talking about is still what you need to hear whether you do it or not right about kind of the self acceptance and the self love working on ourself you know, making ourselves better because, as we change the world around us changes.
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Jason Mefford: And I remember one scene, where he painted it’s very famous painting of you know there’s a boat out in this lake and he goes up you know all of his work is is hung up in the.
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Jason Mefford: And people are going around critiquing it and all of a sudden, he walks up and he’s got a paintbrush in his hand and the paintings done right it’s hanging on the wall and he walks up and he goes he looks at it pulls out his paintbrush and he goes.
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Jason Mefford: But how many of us might be that.
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Jason Mefford: That thing right and everybody at the time was so crazy you just ruined the painting.
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Jason Mefford: Well, in my opinion it’s about time.
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Jason Mefford: Like we talked about earlier on, I felt this way you felt this way a lot of people out there, feel like i’m different i’m weird I don’t fit in nobody’s going to accept me if I am that way and there’s been so many things that have happened.
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Jason Mefford: Right and it’s a beautiful thing because you know, again, it puts fear in the institutions, because they want to put us in a box.
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Jason Mefford: They want to have a factory line like an old you know, think about like an old you know industrial factory but that’s not who we are and and it’s becoming more and more accepted and.
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Jason Mefford: that’s what we’re going to be living with right, so we have to learn how to connect and relate to other people.
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Jason Mefford: use their unique gifts right to our benefit because a lot of times people that we we think right might not fit in the box or exactly the people that we need, and I think i’ve shared on the podcast before about temple grandin you know autistic woman.
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Jason Mefford: In the fact that I can see the world in a different way means that I can make suggestions and improvements right and that woman has from an animal cruelty standpoint, and you know slaughterhouses, because I used to work for a company, and we have slaughterhouses.
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Jason Mefford: You know, to make it to make the the pain and suffering of the animal last at the end.
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Jason Mefford: While still accomplishing the bigger thing right and and there’s so much of that that’s out there, but if if we are not willing.
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Stefanie Elias: Right and there is no one right way to view anything to do anything to think anything.
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Stefanie Elias: And someone else is going to have a different perspective and that’s correct to.
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Jason Mefford: Well, the more that we get in touch with that, I mean again some people use the word intuition right that goes along with that, but the more.
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Jason Mefford: And so what i’m hearing you say is, the more we can kind of tap into that understand how how we make decisions and just allow ourselves to make the decision the way we’ve been programmed instead of trying to do it the way other people would tell us were supposed to do it.
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Stefanie Elias: Yes, and on one side, yes, you can make decision that’s correct for you, at that time, but on the other hand.
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Stefanie Elias: You know that there’s no mistakes there’s no wrong decisions there’s no.
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Stefanie Elias: um.
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Stefanie Elias: yeah Do you know what I mean how it’s it’s some it just gives you that freedom, it gives you that ease that you don’t have to worry you don’t have to stress.
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Stefanie Elias: But at the same time, but on the other hand, if you know your inner authority, then you can much more easily.
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Stefanie Elias: have more outcomes that are what you’re looking for.
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Jason Mefford: And maybe more outcomes that are quicker because we’re not again there’s no right or wrong decision if we decide, and it doesn’t serve us we make a different decision.
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Jason Mefford: Right, sometimes we have to make a lot of those decisions to get us, maybe, where we could have gotten quicker if we had just relied on that internal guidance system.
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Stefanie Elias: Yes, exactly yeah and there’s seven different inner authorities in human design and the mind is not one of them yeah that all.
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Jason Mefford: Well, because most of those decisions don’t come from the brain they come from the heart of the gut.
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Stefanie Elias: yeah did they come from our body like our body, no not our mind yeah.
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Stefanie Elias: So tuning into our bodies and getting out of our heads is it’s very, very powerful.
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Stefanie Elias: Something that I.
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Stefanie Elias: have learned and i’m sure I will, and I will practice it dress my life.
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Jason Mefford: yeah and continue to.
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Jason Mefford: All right, stephanie this has been.
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Jason Mefford: very enlightening and learning conversation, for me, I learned a lot i’ve taken a whole bunch of notes here, so now I gotta go actually do this and figure out what my type type is and my uniqueness and.
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Jason Mefford: get to know myself better.
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Jason Mefford: Right, so that I can relate with other people better.
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Jason Mefford: And really provide my own uniqueness, to the world.
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Jason Mefford: To be able to help been painting that big picture that we’re all painting and we’re all putting.
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Jason Mefford: Putting little bits of ourself into the overall totality of the human experience.
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Stefanie Elias: Yes, we’re all needed.
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Stefanie Elias: Everyone has their own unique gifts that they bring and.
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Stefanie Elias: And without them it’s just not the same.
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Jason Mefford: Great stuff well you know I know you know you’ve been into this now for for a little while, and I know I think you help people kind of read through and understand because I know i’ve seen some of the graphics and it’s like I have no idea what that means.
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Jason Mefford: So it’s a little confusing to me.
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Jason Mefford: That that’s one of the things that you do help people with so it, you know if people is there, listening to this, or like man, I want to get to know that lady how, how can they how’s the best way for people to reach out to you if they if they want to.
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Stefanie Elias: They can find me on Facebook just send me a message and also instagram and i’m also on linkedin.
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Jason Mefford: So either Facebook instagram or linkedin you can find her.
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Jason Mefford: And yeah like I said, thank you for.
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Jason Mefford: For coming on because I was the same thing I was probably where you were a year ago i’ve heard about some of this stuff I kind of keep seeing it in the periphery.
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Jason Mefford: But you know, one of the other things that I I try to do is once I once I hear the same thing 234 times I try to listen right like if if three or four people are recommending the same book within like a week I better go by the book.
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Jason Mefford: and read it, because it’s it’s something that I needed to hear.
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Jason Mefford: And this is one of those topics.
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Jason Mefford: I think for me to that is something i’m supposed to do now so.
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Jason Mefford: Any any any final thoughts that you’d like to leave with people as well before we.
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Jason Mefford: Before we wrap up here.
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Stefanie Elias: um.
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Stefanie Elias: Can I read a little bit something from a book it’s about the eighth gene key which is transitioning I believe through the earth right now and it’s going to be in the full moon moral.
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Stefanie Elias: And the partial lunar eclipse and the eighth genki is about it’s the shadow of mediocrity and inside that shadow lies the gift of style which.
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Stefanie Elias: You were alluding to earlier, you were talking about you know how you felt different or weird and a little bit rebellious because you don’t fit in a box.
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Stefanie Elias: And that’s exactly what this gift is all about.
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Stefanie Elias: and
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Stefanie Elias: The eighth gift is the gift of style and true style is always rebellious.
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Stefanie Elias: it’s rebellious because it’s always recreating itself it isn’t afraid of the mundane material plane and it isn’t in reaction to it either.
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Stefanie Elias: This is a state that’s always exploring new paradigms that’s always expanding out of its boundaries into new areas, these are people who aren’t afraid of trying new things they’re not afraid of constantly redefining themselves.
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Stefanie Elias: Their competence derives from their lack of a fixed self image they can be a plumber one moment and a pirate the next.
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Stefanie Elias: The eighth gift has no investment in its own image it’s the process in which self image is being short circuited.
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Stefanie Elias: The moment we surrender to life we surrender to a dance that so mysterious, we can never follow it with our mind.
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Stefanie Elias: that’s my book by Richard Rudd.
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Stefanie Elias: it’s called the 64 ways.
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Jason Mefford: Thank you.
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Jason Mefford: As you read that there were certain things that stuck out to me, in particular, which is i’m sure why you felt like we need to read that right now.
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Jason Mefford: it’s I appreciate you.
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Jason Mefford: Coming on and talking about this, because you know again everybody that’s been listening.
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Jason Mefford: Go back and listen to this again, you know it’s one of those where.
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Jason Mefford: I tell you a lot what we’re talking about is not what we’re talking about.
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Jason Mefford: What you think we’re talking about but it’s not really what we’re talking about if you’re really paying attention.
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Jason Mefford: So you know yeah go back get to know yourself better treat yourself better give yourself more compassion show more compassion to other people around you.
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Jason Mefford: The world is changing and it’s going in a certain direction.
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Jason Mefford: You can choose to jump on board or you can keep fighting it.
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Jason Mefford: But it’s maybe time for you to start jumping on board, instead of trying to fight it because you know again kind of the picture that you painted there we were using that analogy a lot today.
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Jason Mefford: of what the future will be is fabulous it is what I think people want and you know, for that change to happen it takes all of us to do our little piece right how you change the world as one person at a time.
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Jason Mefford: And you change yourself, you change the world around you right so there’s the bigger key to everything as well, so.
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Jason Mefford: Thank you.
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Jason Mefford: For sharing with us today.
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Stefanie Elias: Thank you for allowing me i’m honored.
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Jason Mefford: Well you’re very welcome, thank you.
