Who you are now as a responsible, practical adult may not BE who you are authentically. Maybe you’ve found yourself in some difficult life situations and have fallen off your path down into a dark and cold ravine and want to get back to YOU. Maybe you are struggling and just don’t feel aligned with who you really are #authentic.
Learn how to listen to yourself and follow your heart again when you listen to this #jammingwithjason #podcast episode. Chances are who you were as a child or seeker wants to come out again and that’s why you don’t feel aligned.
Glenda is a Reiki Master and Provincially Registered Massage Therapist turned NLP practitioner and hypnotherapist, who created the Sacred Harmony Method as a framework to help guide your hypnosis sessions and transformation. It helps open your deep inner blocks, removing limitations, and getting you into alignment and flow. You’ll do this by learning to tap into your heart connection, creating heart aligned goals and habits, and developing self-trust.
Learn more and connect with Glenda at: https://www.glendabarber.ca/ on Facebook and Instagram.
You can even join her Facebook Group – Unlock the Potency and Power of Heart & Mind Harmony:
Tune into this episode at: https://www.jasonmefford.com/jammingwithjason255/
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Jason Mefford: Welcome to another episode of jamming with Jay said.
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Jason Mefford: i’d be a little different on the voice there this time because can’t do it the same every time right.
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Jason Mefford: Well hey i’m excited for today’s episode, because I don’t know whether you realize it or not, but one of my intentions is to.
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Jason Mefford: Bring very interesting people to the podcast and maybe introduce some topics that maybe you weren’t even aware of, and today is going to be one of those we’re probably going to talk about some things that you might be going wow.
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Jason Mefford: Well, just stick with me, listen to the whole episode, because I promise you that, as you listen.
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Jason Mefford: you’re going to hear 123 things, maybe, at least, that are exactly what you needed to hear today.
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Jason Mefford: And when you do that, and you see that you got value from that please make sure and share this with other people.
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Jason Mefford: Because, as you’re listening there’s going to be a name or a face that’s going to pop into your head as you’re listening and go, you know what.
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Jason Mefford: Bob or Sally or Joan needs to hear this, too, and please make sure and share that with them as well because chances are.
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Jason Mefford: there’s exactly something that they need to hear in today’s episode as well and sharing is caring, my friends, and with that i’m going to quit talking so we can get to the main event which is my guest Glenda Barber so with that let’s roll the episode.
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Jason Mefford: hey Glenda how are you doing today my friend.
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Glenda Barber: i’m doing good.
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Glenda Barber: thanks for having me I love you.
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Jason Mefford: Too much energy early in the morning jason’s coffee you.
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Jason Mefford: know I know i’m you know i’m i’m down here in sunny southern California you’re up North north of the border up in Canada, so I know it’s a little bit little little cooler there right now.
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Jason Mefford: than it is down here but i’m excited to have you on because you know some of the stuff that you do is.
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Jason Mefford: Important work that people need, but they most people don’t even realize that these things exist and so i’m excited to have you have you here today to talk about this so maybe just.
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Jason Mefford: Give give people a quick like one minute of what you do kind of how you help people, and then I want to start asking you some questions about how you got to that point, because I think that’s really the fascinating part is how we get to where we are in life so take her away.
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Glenda Barber: Thank you i’m short story.
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Glenda Barber: When things weren’t working for me as far as feeling like i’m doing the very best I can do from my own life, I heard a podcast that I knew, you know about.
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Glenda Barber: And then the short version was that I was doing self hypnosis and it was very helpful and I learned about it on that podcast.
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Glenda Barber: I swept away quickly and learn how to do hypnosis and I wanted to up level even that level to something called five path hypnosis so i’m a master hypnotist.
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Glenda Barber: I learned how to receive as well, as you know, facilitate for someone how to do a mind shift, so, in other words, you know if you’re not feeling good enough not loving yourself.
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Glenda Barber: Know there’s something in your way you kind of don’t know what it was it kind of boil down to me, once he did the training and show up for people.
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Glenda Barber: To provide them with that assistance was I wasn’t listening to myself and I had gotten out of congruence with.
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Glenda Barber: An alignment with my soul, you can also refer to it as just your inner knowing and when the two don’t line up you get discombobulated in a better word would be a few irritable discontent Sir make.
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Glenda Barber: Choices yeah you know, really, really, you know freaking out for scarcity, you know you got to work harder and struggle and.
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Glenda Barber: Do all the things that i’m learning, now that didn’t really serve me at all.
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Glenda Barber: And when I really listened also my life life was spot on and gratefully I made my major decisions most times what does that have to do with a hill of beans is.
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Glenda Barber: Because I had a benchmark from those times now, when I listened to that podcast he spoke about early on, I found myself again it.
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Glenda Barber: Was lovely to be here, I still had some stuff though that behind me was left in congruent for my actions so pulling all that together this master hypnotist I had practice right, and I also got some help with all the help words that.
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Glenda Barber: I can save that that’s my journey to being a coach sacred space coach spiritual leader, and when I say LEADER I don’t mean leading have lots of spiritual people as opposed to helping someone.
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Glenda Barber: In their leadership energy have or have had of how do you find alignment if somebody didn’t know that if you’re fearful, how do you deal with that, and you don’t know and you’re blocked usually just a matter of like we.
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Glenda Barber: Both know she’s sitting still with all of that, and you know, giving it the space to first be heard you know a lot of us don’t want to feel our emotions and emotions are good emotions telling something wrong it’s like.
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Jason Mefford: No, but emotion scare the hell out of most people right we don’t want to feel it we numb ourselves, most of the time.
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Jason Mefford: I mean it’s it’s it’s interesting i’m we’re finishing up a series called sense eight that the mccaskey is put out in the end there’s they’re they’re very they’re they’re kind of.
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Jason Mefford: for lack of a better word, maybe psych psychic people that are that are in this in this series.
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Jason Mefford: And, and with them, though there’s these things that they call blockers their pills, that they can take to block out.
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Jason Mefford: Some of these psychic things that they’re experiencing in their life and it just makes me think you know, like like you’re saying that so much of the time we try to block out.
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Jason Mefford: Certain things we don’t want to admit or actually listen to ourselves we’d rather just numb out, you know whether that’s drugs, alcohol, whatever there’s lots of different ways that people come out in life.
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Jason Mefford: In the problem is, you know I mean both of us have lived long enough we’re no longer in or well you’re still 29 but i’m no longer in my 20s.
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Jason Mefford: And, and we wake up, you know later in life and are like what the Fuck just happened right and i’m and i’m guessing that you had kind of one of those moments as well right because you said you found the podcast is Jim for this podcast folks so.
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Jason Mefford: Absolutely transformative life from the inside out I listened to it, every week.
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Jason Mefford: Go listen to it as well it’s totally changed my life but but let’s let’s let’s talk about you let’s talk let’s talk about kind of you know where you were at because i’m sure that people that are listening can understand or relate to that of you know, I sometimes just off.
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Jason Mefford: In my life, you know I I i’m doing this, but I, something is going the way that it should be going so what was that for you to kind of tell us what what was going on in your life.
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Jason Mefford: That kind of brought you to that point of starting to listen to yourself, listening to your internal stuff your soul your whatever people want to call it, so you could feel more aligned.
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Glenda Barber: So, like if you were aligned, it would have been.
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Glenda Barber: My soul had mentioned that you know about that, I can tell you about this is exactly what that is, if I can help one person.
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Glenda Barber: And again, I can go back to what that looks like because it wasn’t very nice feeling inside but now that it’s different to say that point B was.
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Glenda Barber: I need to speak what it is through my own experience that i’ve had gates it helps hundreds, but that was my initial learning.
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Glenda Barber: And then i’ll go back and tell you about what it was like my now motivation, now that I know more I can be more I go up is better I also help my agenda is to help 10,000 people and learning how to be what it is rules might need to know which was.
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Glenda Barber: I was very success driven.
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Glenda Barber: Usually excelled in got to be where it was I wanted to be, I was very lucky.
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Glenda Barber: A few times, I said that I made major, important important decisions I followed my heart, I follow that inner knowing what I didn’t and piled up on a few choices that weren’t in line because I was scared shirtless excuse my language.
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Jason Mefford: Language language for me to hear always.
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Glenda Barber: So um.
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Glenda Barber: It probably doesn’t hurt to just digress me to sleep and had a marriage that ended and I had to revisit what it was like to lose the narcissist for me to get some boundaries around life.
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Glenda Barber: And boundaries about what that was like that had been away from for like 30 years and what am I smiling force.
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Glenda Barber: Learning you know you take it down to the you know I chose to be there as well as that simple what i’m getting at is.
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Glenda Barber: When the boundaries weren’t clear, it was a mirror image obviously childhood, so I had things that I had stepped away from back then, because I didn’t have actually dealt pretty well, but I didn’t know what to call them.
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Glenda Barber: What those things were and what i’m saying is I really didn’t know that.
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Glenda Barber: Not just did I not have boundaries that I learned to implement and have you know, be a bit more firm about so that I could show up to how I wanted people to treat me.
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Glenda Barber: I never really reflected back to what I would have called it, that people I learned from what was in them that creates so getting to what it was.
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Glenda Barber: Things accumulated people past that second my family.
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Glenda Barber: You do the right thing you show up where you need it.
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Glenda Barber: Because it’s the right thing, but what I hadn’t been taken care of before that was the issue which was coming out of a marriage stay too long.
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Glenda Barber: You know kind of beat myself down because that’s what I didn’t smile didn’t know what to do with stuff when you weren’t taking care with you know boundaries, to be really healthy and what so.
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Glenda Barber: it’s proven demos will finish the story.
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Glenda Barber: So then, when I was small I did take care of how to heal a lot of the things that I felt I needed to deal with again, you only see what you only see so then.
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Glenda Barber: I get to the point so don’t get carried away.
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Glenda Barber: By not giving it a name I still obviously had some things to deal with.
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Glenda Barber: A fully understanding what narcissism was about so Lo and behold very go landing in found a marriage, that was just beautiful when it was good, it was really good and when it wasn’t it wasn’t it was that simple.
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Glenda Barber: Parts I needed to learn, which the name the rest of it that I didn’t name and step into my own response energetic responsibility about oh you didn’t really make some wise ditches the red lights were there, and that goes for both people so.
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Glenda Barber: That does line up to this question you asked, because that was the predisposition that I came into these other members of the family, not being well they’d be myself down, but because I needed to learn some things.
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Glenda Barber: And those things I needed to learn was.
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Glenda Barber: If you made poor decisions at any point time stop.
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Glenda Barber: Take a breath take a pause and.
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Jason Mefford: keep making the best decisions.
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Glenda Barber: Exactly so so just go back to when they say what’s good what’s good and when it wasn’t okay what isn’t so good, so, then you look at your own responsibility in that moment about what am I not do to take care of myself because that’s all you can do to take care of you.
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Glenda Barber: How I show up to the other person, that is my responsibility to bring in a relationship so as soon as that happened that was my red flag to see what do you not taking care of you so.
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Glenda Barber: let’s say I had done a better job I still would have went where it went but I wouldn’t have lost myself in doing so that was where I was getting back on my feet licking my wounds and I can’t say it was for me, but I was exhausted, they had stayed way too long, so then fast forward.
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Glenda Barber: I tried to struggle through getting on your feet, instead of just allowing the process naturally to occur.
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Glenda Barber: energizing yourself in the right decisions and the right alignment inside I pushed because that’s what I knew how to do and I was exhausted, not the time to be pushing.
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Glenda Barber: Time to be still and really listen so and what was I just had two moons I needed to look after they were weren’t from way back when I guess I hadn’t looked at those aspects so i’m getting them to the point.
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Glenda Barber: it’s about a seven year gap between that and hearing just Jim podcast.
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Glenda Barber: A family member, I said became you and I was going to step up into that.
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Glenda Barber: In my struggles, I had created the biggest net you see completed minute I worked three jobs, I was a ninny.
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Glenda Barber: bought three houses, they all had mortgages and that’s the short of it, and without the jobs, you can support the other things that you’re developing assets about rate intention wrong synchronicities and entities so mean and everybody watching these that will go go.
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Glenda Barber: Anyway, come back to the main part of.
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Glenda Barber: If I had been taking better care what it showed up to help family members in a more grounded place, but I did what I wanted to do because it was what I felt I needed to do so, get back to the story, I was exhausted when in here, helping someone.
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Glenda Barber: And I have to admit that was probably an element of martyrdom that you didn’t even notice right, but there was someone else to do.
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Glenda Barber: So it was the right things person in my heart deserve to be support so yes i’m kind, but at the same time i’ll get to the point, the point was to all of their beautiful learning.
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Glenda Barber: It was the niggles of.
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Glenda Barber: campus for my soul was basically redirecting me back to some things I needed to learn.
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Glenda Barber: which was get your ass here we’re family was because that’s where you need benefited you in a little bit of business, so I could grow.
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Glenda Barber: and help those who need it, and at the same time it ended up to be me who got the beauty that all I got seven additional years with a family member who now has to cease doesn’t matter I got the best journey, instead of being 16 hours we were my heart, would have been you know question.
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Glenda Barber: But along that I jim’s podcast.
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Glenda Barber: redirection of you being silly stop and smell the roses and breathe and.
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Glenda Barber: Anyway, and plus call it hit and also say the word right because.
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Glenda Barber: I became a coach I took some hypnotherapy that I needed to learn and receive and I, like you said that when you started this is the perfect so there’s Some people even know what it can do.
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Glenda Barber: And wow what it can do, and then I learned a few other.
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Glenda Barber: healing modalities that comes from a background when i’m really young when I was seeking.
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Glenda Barber: Oh golly i’m on a tangent here i’m gonna stop for a minute, but I know where I want to go but it’s Okay, I need to breathe, I think.
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Jason Mefford: You like tangents on this.
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Glenda Barber: Week you’ve gone okay well.
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Glenda Barber: going well, what I was really young and not somebody when I am I seeking years before I had some sense of connection to self in something bigger than me.
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Glenda Barber: which set the bar for me and I didn’t know was something I guess I kept comparing everything do.
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Glenda Barber: to it, she was a new do survivor where she had been she came she had experienced unconditional love, on the other side when she came back.
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Glenda Barber: She shows up to audit my teacher, this is a different time in place in her life, obviously we’re doing all this beautiful healing work in the.
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Glenda Barber: mountains in a retreat and supporting each other and learning about what it is to show up for yourself and his firm anyway.
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Glenda Barber: He is a teacher he walked in and the whole room does a double take we don’t even know why she said don’t even who she is she’s bicep practice.
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Glenda Barber: But she emulated this unconditional love that I could not I get goosebumps when I think about So for me my heart knows what that feels like.
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Glenda Barber: I never really knew how to term unconditional love in the kinetic part and that’s how I relate to the world.
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Glenda Barber: get to the point she doesn’t meditation for two weeks we find out who he was and I come home and i’m like who was that lady I checked her out and she said she was written up in different books about her near death experience, but the meditation she shared with us.
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Glenda Barber: it’s about an unconditional loving process but emulated that love that I from then on.
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Glenda Barber: uses my benchmark is when I would learn other things, since.
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Glenda Barber: I never realized they judged according to that being now what I knew as this new thing.
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Glenda Barber: So it wasn’t i’ve kept in touch with the lady who gave me that courts that day that would teach him to audit us and.
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Glenda Barber: I contacted you that’s like three years ago, like i’m in my 20s right.
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Glenda Barber: I contact you to the summer and I need to come to us because it’s at you weird it was on jim’s platform with my connecting with yourself.
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Glenda Barber: Because, then I had the whole thing kind of roll out again the previous seven years I was saying that I watched somebody else.
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Glenda Barber: fall down hurt themselves and transition, but I was also it made sense I needed healing I didn’t know it, I wasn’t going to step into it and basically though it’s a short of the whole journey.
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Glenda Barber: To get reconnected with me and.
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Glenda Barber: Then there was a whole lot of beautiful things that come with.
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Glenda Barber: It made me want to step up and bring this to somebody who may be seeking like I was a long time ago.
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Glenda Barber: Who didn’t know how to affirm themselves didn’t know what unconditional love was or felt like or even had a metric.
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Glenda Barber: i’ve got examples of even small things in their own life they give you know, use all those benchmarks, so that, of course, like a compass 20 years I was afford to take us an accomplice to trust us to get out of the woods, in the middle of nowhere.
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Glenda Barber: So if I can trust the compass, then it just makes up with the reconnection with myself.
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Glenda Barber: and actually there’s one more thread.
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Glenda Barber: practicing was appear I got reintroduced to my soul actually through.
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Glenda Barber: soul technique work with hypnotherapy and it sounds absurd, but it was very real.
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Glenda Barber: And it didn’t want to come to the earth in the birth canal began Richard is really our people can think i’m.
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Glenda Barber: Not perfectly sane and perfectly okay that reintroduction was me going I was coming from a place of unconditional love and I knew I was going because i’d already contracted, why was my family.
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Glenda Barber: And I was a conduit to just help us all in milk and unconditional love was no more, no less, just to bring that little bit of a flavor to it and.
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Glenda Barber: Hold sacred space, which I would have it, what does it mean i’ve help people transition, you know who are alive and who’ve passed whether it’s to the light end or if they’re leaving their body.
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Glenda Barber: Because I couldn’t it feels easy it was less risky than doing it in the physical like you and I are if I didn’t have this skill yet.
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Glenda Barber: The other at least was safe right, you know because I knew where they were going that lady when I set a benchmark I wasn’t joking.
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Glenda Barber: For me, I knew I was going to be.
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Glenda Barber: In because he said i’m kinetic I learned from my if I cry it’s just because it’s truthful.
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Glenda Barber: From when i’m small I learned to understand my whole world, from an economic perspective, I didn’t have words to articulate that I might as well finish this part two, when I was small up until the age of six, I would go with other people at nighttime and we would heal.
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Glenda Barber: We do, collectively, though, as we can, was fun, it was joyful it was easy it was what we were here for.
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Glenda Barber: So then, at the age of six I consciously made a decision that because my outside world didn’t match were just speaking to that i’m going to turn down the volume on all of that, because.
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Glenda Barber: If i’m going to be honest, it was a bit of a narcissistic world they did their very best and they was a loving world, but if you couldn’t hear that.
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Glenda Barber: It was not really you ever bring or you’re a kid you’re just placated right I can’t blame any just the way it was so I chose to turn down my dad and and by doing that I let go of something that was extremely important, which was me.
00:20:58.020 –> 00:21:06.120
Glenda Barber: I still had a good life, but it could have been much more enriching quality with another so so if i’m kicking and screaming now it’s that I need to save it.
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Jason Mefford: yeah well I guess.
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Jason Mefford: yeah I was gonna say I think it’s you know.
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Jason Mefford: there’s a lot of stuff that you just said there that I want, I want to go back and pick apart some of that because I think it might have.
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Jason Mefford: It just might have skipped over.
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Jason Mefford: Some people because.
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Jason Mefford: Again it’s it’s.
00:21:25.980 –> 00:21:33.630
Jason Mefford: You said a lot of things that were that were really important and i’ve seen this in my life i’ve seen it in other people’s lives as well.
00:21:34.650 –> 00:21:42.030
Jason Mefford: You use the term about you’re seeking years you know when you were when you were younger back in your 20s you were seeking.
00:21:42.540 –> 00:21:43.620
Jason Mefford: Something right.
00:21:44.250 –> 00:21:47.970
Jason Mefford: And you had this experience with this lady who had the near death experience.
00:21:48.120 –> 00:21:54.420
Jason Mefford: Right and you felt something something connected with you something felt aligned.
00:21:55.110 –> 00:22:04.710
Jason Mefford: But then what happens with most of us right is is we get told no now you got to be an adult you gotta go get a job you gotta go do whatever right.
00:22:05.460 –> 00:22:13.380
Jason Mefford: or like you said, sometimes the things that we experience may be a little scary to us, and so we choose to turn the dial down on it.
00:22:14.250 –> 00:22:24.750
Jason Mefford: Because because we don’t want to hear it at the time, right and, and this is normal for all of us in this human experience right is that we.
00:22:25.560 –> 00:22:40.680
Jason Mefford: We have certain dreams, we have certain things that we want to do when we’re young children, even up in into teenage years and then what tends to happen is, we would become logical, we could become.
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Jason Mefford: Practical we we put we put away those childish things right and it.
00:22:46.380 –> 00:23:07.410
Jason Mefford: reminds me, I want to john john cougar mellencamp songs you know when I was a young boy said put away those young boy ways, now that I am older so much older how I long for those young boy ways right is that you know so much of the time, we know who we are, as a kid.
00:23:08.670 –> 00:23:17.730
Jason Mefford: But then we forget and it’s later in life when we have to listen to ourselves and kind of come back and it sounds like that’s.
00:23:18.660 –> 00:23:31.470
Jason Mefford: kind of what you’ve done right is that the the weight got so heavy on you, you know as you as you were talking about this, this one family member you’ve got three houses three mortgages you’re working all these jobs.
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Jason Mefford: right because you’re coming in you’re trying you’re trying to help you’re trying to be the responsible adult but in in doing that you’re giving away all of yourself and forgetting you and who you are underneath right.
00:23:48.180 –> 00:23:51.870
Glenda Barber: At the same time, I was so far removed from my own connection.
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Glenda Barber: yeah that wouldn’t have allowed I wouldn’t have allowed myself to get to that had I done that connected, it would just.
00:23:58.860 –> 00:24:04.080
Glenda Barber: Because cumulative not that you’re wrong but cumulative choices didn’t leave me the freedom.
00:24:04.800 –> 00:24:17.370
Glenda Barber: To be able to make the what’s the most practical decision here and do we just have somebody helping them and for now and then I go, do you know what I mean I didn’t leave space at all in my life at that time, but I was also beverage right so.
00:24:18.090 –> 00:24:21.510
Jason Mefford: yeah well and you use the word there what’s the most practical.
00:24:22.200 –> 00:24:31.680
Jason Mefford: Decision right because that’s again that’s what we get taught as adults is well what’s practical what’s the logical thing to do.
00:24:31.950 –> 00:24:40.830
Jason Mefford: yeah as opposed to necessarily what’s the right thing to do, because one of the things I heard you say before too is when you made those big decisions with your heart.
00:24:42.060 –> 00:24:43.920
Jason Mefford: They tended to be the right decisions.
00:24:44.220 –> 00:24:45.540
Glenda Barber: Not spot on yeah.
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Jason Mefford: Right.
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Jason Mefford: So flip side of that the people forget, is a lot of times the decisions we make with our head.
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Glenda Barber: Yes.
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Jason Mefford: Which are practical and logical are absolutely the wrong decisions to make.
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Glenda Barber: What Wilson yes.
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Jason Mefford: So, so how does you know because I love this little analogy that you gave because we we both have little for forestry.
00:25:10.500 –> 00:25:26.340
Jason Mefford: background, I mean there’s nothing that I love better than being out in the forest as well, and with the nature there, but you used to an example of you know that that when when you’re lost in the forest, you can pull out a compass.
00:25:27.270 –> 00:25:33.600
Jason Mefford: yeah and you can find your way back out right so that’s that’s a physical 3D thing right i’m lost.
00:25:34.770 –> 00:25:49.170
Jason Mefford: lost in the forest, how do I get my way out, I pull out a compass I figure out, you know kind of where I started, where I think I am you’ve got different points of reference, if you’ve got a mess other things like that you can find your way back with a tool.
00:25:49.800 –> 00:26:05.490
Jason Mefford: Like a compass So how do you how do you kind of help people because i’m guessing you know again that to be able to help you know, listen to ourselves and become more aligned internally.
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Jason Mefford: there’s the equivalent of a compass that we’re going to use to try to find our way back right.
00:26:12.900 –> 00:26:18.000
Jason Mefford: So what what does that look like, I mean for people that are listening and they’re like yep you know what.
00:26:18.810 –> 00:26:27.510
Jason Mefford: I resonate with this, I don’t I don’t feel like i’m completely aligned anymore and we’re not saying you know quit quit your job moved.
00:26:28.020 –> 00:26:34.800
Jason Mefford: someplace halfway around the world right, I mean there’s but there’s but there’s little things that all of us.
00:26:35.760 –> 00:26:49.920
Jason Mefford: I think feel like i’m not really being authentically me i’m not really being who I really am how do, how do we come to that true north or pull out that compass and help us find our way back.
00:26:51.180 –> 00:26:56.100
Glenda Barber: I believe that, even if they’re just a little slightly off the north, whether it’s to the West to the east.
00:26:57.210 –> 00:27:08.670
Glenda Barber: As long as i’m moving like and that’s what you do when you can’t use this analogy, because I believe it’s it’s perfect for me what you said yeah if you if you’re up in the up on the Hill, you can see where your head.
00:27:09.420 –> 00:27:11.400
Glenda Barber: You see across maybe to the next mountain where you.
00:27:11.550 –> 00:27:17.880
Glenda Barber: going to take your bearing and spot on, but when you’re walking between and going back down in the valley with trees are you can’t quite see.
00:27:18.510 –> 00:27:28.770
Glenda Barber: Exactly tickets your campus but each time you bring it your compass to see where you’re headed on North you’re going to be a little Askew one side of the other until you get your point of reference, at the next.
00:27:30.450 –> 00:27:35.820
Glenda Barber: out is that what we’re going to try and say you do your very best at.
00:27:36.900 –> 00:27:40.830
Glenda Barber: First, calm ease being safe feeling well.
00:27:41.970 –> 00:27:51.360
Glenda Barber: And even if it’s a storm, I want to call it a dust storm, but it knows shit storm, because if even if it’s not feeling really good around you we’re not those things, even if I created them.
00:27:52.560 –> 00:28:10.080
Glenda Barber: We can take and start I life at any moment and choose again at any point in time so let’s say that that was this moment I would feel him to give myself still as explained if i’m speaking to smell to it, how to do this, I would just spend time being in stillness with them.
00:28:11.130 –> 00:28:19.290
Glenda Barber: see what needs to be addressed first it’s not about what’s around us that’s not who we are, so we can kind of get to the crux of.
00:28:20.820 –> 00:28:31.980
Glenda Barber: allowing themselves to space create whether it’s tears whether it’s conversation get into learning to relax into yourself For starters, but it would be understanding what all that’s about.
00:28:33.780 –> 00:28:39.900
Glenda Barber: And i’ll start with the steps because it’s just safety as long as you can feel safe with what we’re doing together.
00:28:41.070 –> 00:28:50.490
Glenda Barber: Whether i’m just going to get to the point of releasing resistance and whatever that looks like whether it’s words tears energetic work and.
00:28:51.900 –> 00:29:03.060
Glenda Barber: create the space, then for possibility, because once you become more clear something’s going to percolate to the top to let you know, maybe what’s not working, if they’re already knowing.
00:29:03.870 –> 00:29:13.020
Glenda Barber: That you know this is Eric Michael a life over here Glenda that affects every single spoke of the rest of the wheel then we’re going to maybe start to look at that.
00:29:13.890 –> 00:29:23.190
Glenda Barber: Not on this perspective, not in your thinking CAP just about what is it about that that’s not working for you look at the resistance is that.
00:29:24.270 –> 00:29:30.480
Glenda Barber: point in time to bring it back to you is that still in that moment and stillness I spoke of it’s about how we’re being in showing up.
00:29:31.110 –> 00:29:47.370
Glenda Barber: So if we can get you to feel the resistance is that are working what’s the opposite of that, but what do you really want it to look like and feel like So for me if, when I had my granny and not three hoses three mortgages and i’m wanting to be 16 hours away to help a family member.
00:29:48.420 –> 00:29:53.670
Glenda Barber: breathing would have been a good place to start not just turning off the water and logging during get in the car and going.
00:29:54.840 –> 00:30:03.960
Glenda Barber: And going like he said what what really is best for me, even if the outcome was exactly the same, I can be differently during that next little journey of the decision.
00:30:04.950 –> 00:30:08.760
Glenda Barber: So if I know where i’m headed, that would be the next hilltop.
00:30:09.630 –> 00:30:23.700
Glenda Barber: And might make small tweaks along the way, like every time you look at your compass you’re going to be a little bit off by the time you get over there, because you’ve made a small tweak in your street life, but that would look like if you’re sitting here with me, we would.
00:30:24.750 –> 00:30:36.480
Glenda Barber: wonder what you want it to look like differently, so we can feel into what that feels like because only then can, if we can imagine and we’re going like when i’m thinking God is.
00:30:38.010 –> 00:30:47.430
Glenda Barber: And then i’m on the hilltop two different complete feelings, so if I want to jump to the hilltop what’s it feel like up there, that you want to see that’s your your point be.
00:30:48.510 –> 00:30:58.140
Glenda Barber: what’s it feel like what’s it look like to think, to be that person Jim had us do certain things to think into what that would feel like and.
00:30:59.400 –> 00:31:03.570
Glenda Barber: Then I finished jim’s program and I ran into somebody who.
00:31:04.680 –> 00:31:06.840
Glenda Barber: can bring a tangible thing.
00:31:07.950 –> 00:31:15.660
Glenda Barber: of how to figure out how to be that on paper and how to build a roadmap, this is what i’m going to be sending because this is the analogy of what to me.
00:31:16.410 –> 00:31:26.370
Glenda Barber: So when I get to the bottom of the valley, I want to know how to get to my next perspective my next point be over the next Hill and still be spot on and alignment along the way, so I don’t have to.
00:31:28.920 –> 00:31:38.940
Glenda Barber: So that I know that each step i’m going to take is in alignment actually with what I want to get there because i’m the only choice, one point B, and let me bring it back then, it was a current coach that I have.
00:31:40.560 –> 00:31:43.140
Glenda Barber: Ever I was a struggle bunny struggle best.
00:31:44.160 –> 00:31:45.360
Glenda Barber: that’s the way it shows.
00:31:46.650 –> 00:31:57.390
Glenda Barber: Because it allowed me to get at least monies but it’s still stayed in scarcity it’s still stayed in your head stuff when i’m not that in this perspective works was he is.
00:31:59.070 –> 00:32:08.940
Glenda Barber: let’s say one short more in line and i’m this nervous nitty which when i’m not feeling aligned that’s what I am because that’s what I learned as a small kid it was easier to stay invisible.
00:32:11.310 –> 00:32:13.290
Glenda Barber: Because, then I didn’t have to deal with those who weren’t like.
00:32:16.110 –> 00:32:18.030
Jason Mefford: I love that I love the term nervous many.
00:32:18.510 –> 00:32:18.720
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Glenda Barber: And I still can be.
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Jason Mefford: Well, we all can be right, because.
00:32:24.450 –> 00:32:28.170
Jason Mefford: If we tend to take this forest analogy, a little further.
00:32:28.770 –> 00:32:37.110
Jason Mefford: right into kind of what you’ve been explaining you know it’s like we’re you know we’re walking along the path in the forest and we’re having a good time.
00:32:38.100 –> 00:32:49.230
Jason Mefford: And all of a sudden something happens and maybe we get knocked off the path we find ourselves rolling down the Hill and plunk we hit the bottom of this ravine.
00:32:50.160 –> 00:32:58.170
Jason Mefford: And we get up at that point and in in at that point, most of us are trying to figure out holy shit how do I get myself out of this right.
00:32:58.890 –> 00:33:06.840
Jason Mefford: We turn into that nervous ninny we start thinking thinking thinking thinking thinking thinking thinking thinking thinking thinking thinking thinking thinking thinking thinking thinking thinking.
00:33:07.590 –> 00:33:17.460
Jason Mefford: Can all we end up doing is we end up increasing our anxiety and fear level, because our brain goes into hyper beta mode.
00:33:17.910 –> 00:33:19.860
Jason Mefford: And at that point you can’t think.
00:33:19.950 –> 00:33:42.450
Jason Mefford: Clearly anyway right and so at that point, the best thing to do is just to pause take a breath and get quiet right, which again, it sounds like again, this is the same kind of stuff you would do with with your clients as well, which is hey life fed yes shit sandwich and you’re not happy.
00:33:43.530 –> 00:33:47.850
Jason Mefford: Okay let’s just calm ourselves down.
00:33:49.290 –> 00:33:57.150
Jason Mefford: Look around see what’s here, we got a compass pull it out, try to figure out if i’m in the valley.
00:33:57.630 –> 00:34:03.240
Jason Mefford: right then there’s no way that i’m going to be able to figure out where I am until I get to some high ground.
00:34:03.990 –> 00:34:22.500
Jason Mefford: So I look around, I see a hill that’s higher than where I am and I climb up to the top and I start looking for my next reference point right I find my next reference point I pull out my compass I look and see which way that next reference point is.
00:34:23.940 –> 00:34:27.210
Jason Mefford: Take a big deep breath, because then I got to climb down into the next Valley.
00:34:27.810 –> 00:34:44.430
Jason Mefford: Before I can make it up there right yeah and you know I think you know, like you, you were talking about self hypnosis there’s some different modalities like that some of the reiki healing their stuff that you’ve done as well that are tools like that compass.
00:34:45.690 –> 00:35:00.270
Jason Mefford: That really kind of help us get to that next area or release some of the baggage that we have that makes us feel like we can’t get there.
00:35:00.900 –> 00:35:01.920
Glenda Barber: Absolutely yeah.
00:35:02.850 –> 00:35:04.710
Jason Mefford: So a great way of kind of explaining.
00:35:05.160 –> 00:35:06.180
Glenda Barber: It perfect yeah.
00:35:06.990 –> 00:35:09.720
Jason Mefford: And so yeah I mean it’s it’s really.
00:35:12.810 –> 00:35:14.400
Jason Mefford: You know in, and so, how does it.
00:35:15.780 –> 00:35:18.750
Jason Mefford: How does that process kind of work because, again, you know we.
00:35:20.070 –> 00:35:26.640
Jason Mefford: there’s a lot of stuff that can be going on in our minds by a lot of a lot of things from.
00:35:26.640 –> 00:35:28.350
Jason Mefford: Before that often.
00:35:28.440 –> 00:35:34.200
Jason Mefford: end up holding us back as well right so i’m in the bottom of the ravine i’m like whoa.
00:35:34.590 –> 00:35:39.390
Jason Mefford: i’ve been here before and i’m never going to get out and I tried it before and didn’t work.
00:35:39.930 –> 00:35:54.510
Jason Mefford: it’s not going to work, this time right, how do we, because I think we all feel that way at some point i’m guessing you probably have felt that way at different points in your life to I know I have right i’m sure people that are listening have.
00:35:55.380 –> 00:36:03.480
Jason Mefford: as well, so at that point pause take a breath, what else What else can we do at that point to really kind of help us get going.
00:36:03.930 –> 00:36:06.690
Glenda Barber: Well, providing your well and healthy at the bottom of the ravine.
00:36:07.980 –> 00:36:08.160
Jason Mefford: we’re.
00:36:08.430 –> 00:36:10.680
Jason Mefford: Broken leg it’s exactly.
00:36:11.010 –> 00:36:17.370
Glenda Barber: So, so I was gonna say safety and even if that sounds silly so that we feel safe inside in the moment in our body.
00:36:18.030 –> 00:36:30.630
Glenda Barber: You know, so that we’re not dealing with nervousness and anxiety and fear, so, then we can just use breath use different techniques that we can come back into the stillness and then from that place I would.
00:36:31.860 –> 00:36:36.300
Glenda Barber: Hopefully, try to help you get rid of resistance and what I mean by that it could be.
00:36:36.990 –> 00:36:42.960
Glenda Barber: kaushik records can be hypnosis could be sacred harmony method could be WikiLeaks method, which are all basically waiting to say okay.
00:36:43.890 –> 00:37:01.230
Glenda Barber: we’re in the now really present we’re not going to be feeling this resistance doesn’t belong here so we’re in that space of really feeling connected it’s not there, so, then we would find some way to help you feel elevated like you say whether it’s a hypnosis.
00:37:02.910 –> 00:37:08.100
Glenda Barber: You know, go into that loving place with inside feel what it was like to unconditionally love you da.
00:37:09.150 –> 00:37:15.330
Glenda Barber: You know, or to feel loved and and even if we’re in the middle of the words that it has no bearing on anything when it has bearing on his.
00:37:16.380 –> 00:37:23.280
Glenda Barber: or her subconscious, which is the one that takes us out if we’re used to not having positive thoughts and actually being on top of things.
00:37:24.420 –> 00:37:27.930
Glenda Barber: Whenever we give it as long as you’re feeling safe it looks more than the same.
00:37:28.980 –> 00:37:34.260
Glenda Barber: So it’s going to if I want to choose i’m feeling safe already.
00:37:35.790 –> 00:37:43.560
Glenda Barber: As long as what i’m choosing isn’t so far away from what this moment is it’s the next small win that I want to get to get to my point be.
00:37:44.340 –> 00:37:50.580
Glenda Barber: it’s not going to take me out of the game, this is not your frightening it could be okay, maybe that tonight, I just want to fold so one.
00:37:51.090 –> 00:37:57.630
Glenda Barber: thing but it might be on a topic that’s uncomfortable I tried to make it a big one, so bring it down small chunk it.
00:37:58.290 –> 00:38:05.070
Glenda Barber: That it feels doable and or just a bit beyond doable so then stretching i’m going to feel safe to do it when you’ve accomplished it.
00:38:05.550 –> 00:38:18.900
Glenda Barber: that’s that next line goal that i’m speaking to that it’s already in line it’s me who wants to get to Point B, I chose that so then we’re going to start back here, I have a habit if i’m not mindful to to want to the big picture.
00:38:20.310 –> 00:38:27.720
Glenda Barber: So if I chunk it i’ve got a big picture, I know what i’d like so how am I going to do it well, first, I have to be calm and ease and flow if i’m not those things.
00:38:28.200 –> 00:38:36.090
Glenda Barber: are probably new you know, an extra couple of hours to take myself out and just you know it’s a walk in the woods, to come to be still to feel okay.
00:38:37.110 –> 00:38:38.820
Glenda Barber: And when i’m feeling safe and at ease.
00:38:40.260 –> 00:38:54.750
Glenda Barber: i’m going to create wonderful things in my life as my subconscious like all of us it’s we don’t have saber tooth tigers, but we have things that take us out that make us a little bit nervous if i’m doing it a tangible easy goals.
00:38:55.860 –> 00:39:03.900
Glenda Barber: And I say want to stretch and just a little bit my subconscious gonna say that’s a good new level, so my next step level sure I might get go.
00:39:04.920 –> 00:39:08.430
Glenda Barber: Because, maybe now, it requires other responsibilities of me but it’s still doable.
00:39:09.480 –> 00:39:14.040
Glenda Barber: If I ask for help, which i’ve been taking coaching ever since.
00:39:14.490 –> 00:39:22.680
Glenda Barber: I never heard of coaching in my life unless it was like to do with figure skating when I when I ended up on that podcast i’m telling you the truth, I was still using my heads in the sand.
00:39:23.070 –> 00:39:32.310
Glenda Barber: Who would work I love, but I was also in the woods, where there wasn’t all of the other Internet anyway, and then a profession of 20 years doing what i’m doing now, which is.
00:39:33.120 –> 00:39:46.440
Glenda Barber: Before choosing online has been an hour empty with yourself in a business behind a closed door rub dumb and do beautiful work, but I didn’t have to learn what i’m learning now and.
00:39:47.820 –> 00:39:52.560
Glenda Barber: I guess i’m sorry that I never heard that before so beautiful party is, I never learned that.
00:39:54.000 –> 00:40:01.440
Glenda Barber: To be living life with fear is an okay thing it sets you up for the next bar to be the next best, but in wholeness.
00:40:02.010 –> 00:40:08.670
Glenda Barber: Not just in fearful grab the next baton another back and try to learn from what you were you even appreciate what you’ve done.
00:40:09.330 –> 00:40:17.580
Glenda Barber: You know I didn’t do that all right, but that’s okay i’m here now and i’m doing it and it’s slowly all these little things that i’m doing if I take time to go.
00:40:18.990 –> 00:40:27.270
Glenda Barber: or i’ve worked my answers i’m going for xyz whatever, that is, and they don’t really drink, but maybe a pedicure or a massage or something that still.
00:40:28.770 –> 00:40:44.460
Glenda Barber: appreciating the hard work i’m doing for myself because i’m also hopefully showing up that way for people, you know i’m going to call that magic but it’s not that i’m magical that the what we’re given by living with a sense of purpose coming from our inside.
00:40:45.540 –> 00:40:54.150
Glenda Barber: Is what we were told from that gentleman, you know, creating magic from the inside out and how can you not and when you do.
00:40:54.810 –> 00:41:03.420
Glenda Barber: and getting excited so but it’s like the high coherence breathing if you breathe in your heart for five and a half or five and do that reasonably for about five to 20 minutes depending how much time you want to give it.
00:41:05.130 –> 00:41:18.180
Glenda Barber: gets us out of our way it actually brings a legitimate whenever you’re aware of it or not, and then you put a word like let’s see that’s a neutral place but we’re still amplified our electrical magnetic fields or human wi fi.
00:41:19.260 –> 00:41:29.580
Glenda Barber: Through a word on there that you really want to work on being you’ll be that without effort you know, to set their own spent the time and really bringing in.
00:41:30.360 –> 00:41:38.700
Glenda Barber: Our electromagnetic frequencies there anyway, what do we want to be don’t want to be a loving, caring person truthfully in this life at this point.
00:41:39.180 –> 00:41:49.530
Glenda Barber: If that’s all I am I create the world around me, that is, that and I get the reflection back and then I can show up to somebody who is that and or a secret.
00:41:51.480 –> 00:42:00.480
Glenda Barber: As long as you’re seeking we’re in we can work together if somebody who translated yeah i’ll stop it sound like i’m not an evangelist i’m not.
00:42:01.530 –> 00:42:08.490
Glenda Barber: Because I want the person who’s in the bottom, the valley doesn’t know how to get to the top you just needs to campus but somebody shown how to use a compass.
00:42:08.820 –> 00:42:14.280
Jason Mefford: yeah because I think that’s The important thing right, I mean I grew up being a boy scout so.
00:42:14.610 –> 00:42:23.880
Jason Mefford: I know how to do that because I was, I was taught how to do it, you could you could throw me in the middle of the woods somewhere, give me a couple of things I would be fine I would be able to live and survive.
00:42:24.660 –> 00:42:35.190
Jason Mefford: Because those were things that i’ve been taught right but, but I think it’s it’s important you know, again, and this is, you know whether you have to get out of a forest okay.
00:42:36.180 –> 00:42:43.050
Jason Mefford: here’s your little roadmap, if you ever find yourself at the bottom of valley right take a compass, if you go hiking always take a compass take a knife.
00:42:43.440 –> 00:42:49.860
Jason Mefford: there’s a couple things you should probably always have with you but but but what’s interesting is is, I think that this is where.
00:42:50.520 –> 00:43:05.220
Jason Mefford: You mentioned a couple things here that I want to go into and then we’re going to go back to the broken leg too, because you know when you find yourself there, I think a lot of times as humans, we were used to.
00:43:06.270 –> 00:43:14.100
Jason Mefford: Success and trying to push ourselves and stretch ourselves, and I think a lot of times we try to stretch herself further than we can.
00:43:14.670 –> 00:43:25.050
Jason Mefford: Then we can honestly go and then we feel shitty about herself right so it’d be the equivalent of like i’m at the bottom i’ve got 1000 foot mountain i’ve got to climb here.
00:43:25.800 –> 00:43:32.640
Jason Mefford: and say okay Jason you got five minutes to get to the top ain’t no way i’m getting to the top and five minutes.
00:43:33.300 –> 00:43:44.760
Jason Mefford: But as long as i’m moving a little bit in that direction right taking those little steps every day celebrating those things as it comes along and honestly.
00:43:45.300 –> 00:43:49.410
Jason Mefford: You know when i’ve been hiking that’s sometimes what I have to do it’s like.
00:43:49.800 –> 00:43:59.460
Jason Mefford: i’m going to walk until I get to that point on the trail and then i’m going to stop for a minute or two and catch my breath and then i’m going to go to that next point right.
00:44:00.120 –> 00:44:10.170
Jason Mefford: And that’s what we have to do in our life as well right, because if if maybe we’re not being as loving or as kind of a person as we want to be.
00:44:11.010 –> 00:44:18.420
Jason Mefford: But we’re still making those little steps and doing those little things we need to every day small as they may be.
00:44:19.410 –> 00:44:38.520
Jason Mefford: we’re headed in the right direction and that’s that’s what’s really important, but I wanted to back up because I, you know as we were kind of joking about the broken leg and about safety, but it just reminded me that you know, sometimes we do find ourself in the valley, with a broken leg.
00:44:39.060 –> 00:44:55.380
Jason Mefford: Right and before I ever have any chance of trying to climb up to get to the higher ground, sometimes I have to take care of those acute things in my life, and I know you you’ve mentioned a previous marriage.
00:44:55.740 –> 00:44:57.540
Jason Mefford: I was in a previous marriage.
00:44:57.600 –> 00:44:58.950
Jason Mefford: You know, like that or.
00:45:00.000 –> 00:45:02.610
Jason Mefford: You know, maybe other things that are going on to where.
00:45:03.960 –> 00:45:16.380
Jason Mefford: We want to change, but sometimes there’s things like the broken legs in our life that you have to deal with first before we can kind of move forward.
00:45:19.170 –> 00:45:27.360
Jason Mefford: And you know I mean it’s it sounds like you know, like you said again that you’ve experienced and things like that I have to.
00:45:28.080 –> 00:45:37.740
Jason Mefford: And, and like you said part of maybe why we’re not feeling the alignment is because we’re in certain relationships or.
00:45:38.160 –> 00:45:51.990
Jason Mefford: You know we’re engaging in certain behaviors are not engaging and certain behaviors that are the equivalent of the broken leg that we got to fix first and then it’s going to make everything else easier.
00:45:52.230 –> 00:45:52.680
Glenda Barber: To do.
00:45:54.300 –> 00:45:56.970
Glenda Barber: Did you want me to speak to how you deal with a broken leg, and all that, how do.
00:45:56.970 –> 00:45:58.350
Jason Mefford: You, how do you deal with a broken leg.
00:45:59.070 –> 00:46:10.920
Glenda Barber: Well, I would do my everybody that’s listening we’re talking about about you know this analogy, but we’re not talking about that analogy okay we’re talking about how to how to improve your life along the way.
00:46:11.310 –> 00:46:15.870
Jason Mefford: analogies are just away that help us learn and incorporate some of this stuff better.
00:46:16.440 –> 00:46:24.900
Glenda Barber: Now that’s that’s a really good example it’s Okay, if I was in the middle of some some turbulence will say in life to your marriage is not the greatest and it’s kind of going.
00:46:27.540 –> 00:46:35.850
Glenda Barber: You want to be able to manage each day going forward to at least make the best decisions from the best place inside of you in an order to do that.
00:46:36.450 –> 00:46:46.260
Glenda Barber: You would deal with K, so how can I be the best me that I can be right in this moment like we were saying before we’re not our thoughts like that monkey chatter that we hear in your mind that’s, not us.
00:46:47.610 –> 00:46:57.000
Glenda Barber: we’re not the environment around us, even if it looks like curious you know, or if it looks like a you know disaster we’re not we’re not we’re not those things, or the being.
00:46:57.510 –> 00:47:06.510
Glenda Barber: Who is now has a choice to be what it is they want to be the next step, even if it bet for supper are you going to talk to you are not together.
00:47:07.980 –> 00:47:15.300
Glenda Barber: But you don’t want to be a crab apple you want to be the best going forward, no matter what it is so sitting with that and trying to be that.
00:47:16.410 –> 00:47:20.190
Glenda Barber: Some people from my past might have called it a false because you’re being something you’re not.
00:47:21.450 –> 00:47:22.980
Glenda Barber: But we mentioned about the.
00:47:24.270 –> 00:47:36.780
Glenda Barber: subconscious doesn’t it doesn’t know what’s false and what’s like it could be, it could be fantasy and your subconscious really doesn’t know the difference if I felt safe in believing that it’s going to bring me more of that.
00:47:38.100 –> 00:47:47.160
Glenda Barber: So if I really think okay if there’s any chance of marriage surviving we’ll use that as an example, or getting through at least this next bit to figure out what’s going on.
00:47:47.760 –> 00:47:52.800
Glenda Barber: I gotta be the best me which could be that OK so i’m going to picture myself is not stress that only picture.
00:47:53.610 –> 00:48:02.220
Glenda Barber: i’m going to do what I can do to support that action inside of myself in the being of being calm relaxed in it might be just as simple as breathing.
00:48:03.090 –> 00:48:17.340
Glenda Barber: breathing technique, I told you will take you there it’s it’s a chemical makeup it’s about electromagnetic field and, if I can be the best me those around me change it’s that electromagnetic field is different than our wi fi it’s the same darn thing.
00:48:18.360 –> 00:48:24.030
Glenda Barber: So if I can be what I can be without being crabby we can go go for a walk plenty if I need to get rid of the grammys.
00:48:26.130 –> 00:48:30.840
Glenda Barber: Even if there’s a like you say a whole financial shipping going on around us.
00:48:32.040 –> 00:48:32.850
Glenda Barber: We aren’t that.
00:48:34.200 –> 00:48:43.740
Glenda Barber: can deal with that as this part inside of US becomes wiser clear more empty more available and and i’m smiling because, if I say, I want to feel calm.
00:48:44.910 –> 00:48:48.750
Glenda Barber: or even if it comes, right down to being hopeful instead of helpless.
00:48:49.920 –> 00:48:59.400
Glenda Barber: that’s a huge leap but it’s it’s small enough of an increment and it means the difference of somebody having possibilities, instead of feeling overwhelmed and not knowing what to do.
00:49:00.390 –> 00:49:16.800
Glenda Barber: So there’s steps that we can do together energetically and disagreement might bring you into remember when you felt somewhere like this before and you got through the mining someone that there’s you know there’s reasons and there’s things we can do in the now be.
00:49:17.880 –> 00:49:20.790
Glenda Barber: So if you do, that the broken leg is still there.
00:49:22.050 –> 00:49:30.030
Glenda Barber: But we haven’t increased someone’s anxiety to send them into shark are supporting them so putting the one blanket on giving them water, when appropriate, or not.
00:49:30.570 –> 00:49:39.420
Glenda Barber: it’s staying with them, keeping them calm and I don’t care from across the world, now I know I can do that somebody brought upon you know that’s just thousands of miles away.
00:49:40.170 –> 00:49:52.590
Glenda Barber: And you can be that, so we talked about sacred states not doing my grocery lists in the back of my mind really being present and when i’m present i’m not negative i’m completely in the moment.
00:49:53.820 –> 00:50:02.580
Glenda Barber: And if there’s something you need intuitively I do have that ability grateful I said i’m kinetic that comes, naturally, you can read the room pretty easily, even though you weren’t free to admit it, somebody.
00:50:06.300 –> 00:50:14.610
Glenda Barber: I don’t tell anybody had a feeler to be, but if I can suggest that maybe there’s a resistance, I might, are you feeling, you know some resistance around your heart and you really.
00:50:15.090 –> 00:50:25.500
Glenda Barber: Do you want to keep that there may be do because you need to feel safe i’m not going to tell you how to be so, but you want to lessen know so you can feel safe but yet not shut down.
00:50:26.490 –> 00:50:36.210
Glenda Barber: work through that not just through reiki through breathing just present you have for themselves, but to be reminded of not being helpless to be empowered.
00:50:37.020 –> 00:50:48.000
Glenda Barber: to know what they’re doing to make a choice or the cells in the moment to feel to come out of helplessness given somebody some choices that’s just it’s so freeing and simple.
00:50:48.810 –> 00:50:57.630
Glenda Barber: And the breathing technique is it’s been crazy wonderful out works, but you’re bringing them into stillness and guess what you have to look your feelings and you do.
00:50:59.160 –> 00:51:08.760
Glenda Barber: But but that’s what they’re there, for we just say this something’s not Okay, and if you got someone there to support you when you’re doing that because sometimes it seems scary than hell.
00:51:09.240 –> 00:51:25.710
Glenda Barber: i’m not going there because it scares me, but yet that’s where the magic is of the knowing to say you’re not in concurrency here you don’t need to do lot in this moment just even aware of that, before I make 10 more decisions really rapidly from there, and so the broken leg now becomes.
00:51:26.760 –> 00:51:27.420
Glenda Barber: bandage.
00:51:28.620 –> 00:51:39.960
Glenda Barber: Know infection going on and stabilized in the person then becomes more stable income inside and I hope that is helpful the analogy so, then they don’t feel alone and.
00:51:41.220 –> 00:51:43.890
Glenda Barber: When you don’t feel alone, hopefully, you look back inside and.
00:51:44.940 –> 00:51:50.940
Glenda Barber: You can ask them, you know, have you ever felt connected anything outside of yourself, and if you have did that ever bring you comfort.
00:51:52.770 –> 00:52:05.190
Glenda Barber: Well, that is, who you are, you know you are all of that so that’s you you’re already going to give him a funny analogy somebody said to me one time and I, like the meeting either pregnant or you’re not being like in this moment.
00:52:05.790 –> 00:52:09.210
Jason Mefford: Oh you’re not trying to be you know you’re not partially pregnant you either.
00:52:09.210 –> 00:52:09.420
00:52:10.500 –> 00:52:13.920
Glenda Barber: So, so the same goes with if it ever brought you over it before.
00:52:14.910 –> 00:52:24.480
Glenda Barber: Then you are the because if it works, then it’s a faulty to say it’s not working, that no matter what we call this thing that we are part of are connected to.
00:52:25.170 –> 00:52:40.290
Glenda Barber: If it works for you one time guess what you are, that you know, to me, so, in other words just bring going sighing and really try to be okay that we’re not broken nothing wrong with us they’re never what we’re deserving of the best life, no matter what we feel like.
00:52:43.200 –> 00:52:47.280
Jason Mefford: I think that’s helpful here to you know, for us to to kind of wrap up with is that.
00:52:48.510 –> 00:52:50.370
Jason Mefford: You know, just like we talked about sometimes.
00:52:51.750 –> 00:52:57.450
Jason Mefford: Sometimes you got just a few scrapes and bruises you can pick yourself up, you can do some of this stuff on your own.
00:52:58.080 –> 00:53:07.920
Jason Mefford: You already have accomplished, you can pull it out, you can probably probably do a lot of this stuff yourself, but sometimes there’s going to be things in your life that are more like the broken legs.
00:53:08.760 –> 00:53:30.810
Jason Mefford: And, and having somebody else there to help you along the way to let you know that you’re not alone, you can do hard things you’ve done them before and and to help us kind of see some of the perspective, and also to ask us some of the questions that we need to hear right is because.
00:53:31.890 –> 00:53:41.970
Jason Mefford: So a lot of times we already know what we need to do we just don’t want to do it so let’s go back to our broken leg again right.
00:53:42.990 –> 00:53:46.050
Jason Mefford: So Glenda if you’re sitting there with your broken leg at the bottom.
00:53:47.820 –> 00:53:53.880
Jason Mefford: i’m going to do what I can to comfort you right because i’m your friend I love you I I want you to feel good.
00:53:55.200 –> 00:54:05.190
Jason Mefford: I want you to make the progress and and I might look at it, and I see it’s a it’s a simple fracture you probably broken up, but it’s it’s it’s not that big a deal we’ll.
00:54:05.670 –> 00:54:15.900
Jason Mefford: we’ll wrap it up, will give you some comfort you’re probably going to be okay, but I might look down, and I see your bone protruding through your pants, and I say.
00:54:18.150 –> 00:54:19.860
Jason Mefford: Glenda you have a broken leg.
00:54:21.060 –> 00:54:23.280
Jason Mefford: And you say yeah I know and.
00:54:24.330 –> 00:54:26.400
Jason Mefford: Did you realize it’s a compound fracture.
00:54:27.630 –> 00:54:37.890
Jason Mefford: And so the only way for you to deal with it is to go through some horrific pain, right now, as we reset your leg.
00:54:38.820 –> 00:54:50.520
Jason Mefford: Right, because sometimes those things come along and maybe again if we use our marriage example, or it can be anything we’re just using a couple of analogies for you to kind of get the get the point.
00:54:51.600 –> 00:55:02.400
Jason Mefford: Sometimes you have to go through a lot of short term pain for what’s better for you, in the long run, sometimes it might mean getting a divorce, leaving a relationship.
00:55:03.030 –> 00:55:08.760
Jason Mefford: The equivalent of that pain that we might feel of getting our leg reset the way it needs to be reset.
00:55:09.600 –> 00:55:18.810
Jason Mefford: But at the same point if Linda sitting there going yep I see it’s compound fracture and i’m just happy sitting here because I don’t want to deal with it right now I don’t want to deal with it.
00:55:19.860 –> 00:55:24.870
Jason Mefford: All right, when you’re ready to deal with it just let me know and we’ll set your leg back into place.
00:55:26.430 –> 00:55:38.250
Jason Mefford: You know, because, again, it is it’s all up to us it’s our life we get to choose what we’re going to do, but I think like I said it’s a great way to kind of wrap up, but sometimes we just need a little help.
00:55:38.910 –> 00:55:47.250
Jason Mefford: And there’s people like Linda like me there’s plenty of people out there in the world who want to help you and you know if people.
00:55:48.030 –> 00:55:56.160
Jason Mefford: Do you resonate with certain people and you think they can help you then ask for help right that’s that’s again the one one thing.
00:55:56.970 –> 00:56:09.210
Jason Mefford: You know, one of the lies that we get told as adults is you can just do everything yourself we can’t do everything ourselves all the time, you know, can you can you perform brain surgery on yourself.
00:56:09.780 –> 00:56:11.310
Jason Mefford: Of course, right you.
00:56:11.490 –> 00:56:20.790
Jason Mefford: need some help with that and it actually takes more courage to ask for help and to get help them to try to muddle through it yourself so.
00:56:21.750 –> 00:56:32.160
Jason Mefford: Anyway, well Glenda I have really enjoyed this discussion today any any final thoughts that you kind of want to want to share as we kind of wrap up for today.
00:56:32.760 –> 00:56:44.160
Glenda Barber: um, if any, if it resonates anything that i’ve said that it resonates with anyone, and they have any questions i’m more than open even just for clarity call in in regard to putting you on to maybe who can help you, if I can.
00:56:44.730 –> 00:56:54.750
Glenda Barber: and explaining a little bit about the journey of what it looks like and if you are inclined to think you might want to take any type of coaching.
00:56:56.010 –> 00:56:57.720
Glenda Barber: hypnosis you probably are.
00:56:58.860 –> 00:57:01.410
Glenda Barber: Not necessarily mean that would be it wouldn’t be fair but.
00:57:03.210 –> 00:57:06.000
Glenda Barber: it’s helped immensely lots of people to tell me.
00:57:07.290 –> 00:57:12.630
Glenda Barber: So this coaching period just a little bit of a sudden now Joe saying just good to get onto your north.
00:57:15.030 –> 00:57:29.070
Glenda Barber: So we need to be as the next right decision and the next right moment, and the rest lineup to be true, you know it will cover, so thank you for the opportunity to talk about Jason and I can learn a lot just by listening as well, so thank you very much.
00:57:29.790 –> 00:57:42.330
Jason Mefford: My pleasure and yeah so we reach out to Glenda if if you want to she’s on social media she’s got a website will put it in the show notes as well, and because she’s up in Canada Glenda barber.ca.
00:57:42.990 –> 00:57:45.390
Jason Mefford: Instead of calm as well right so.
00:57:45.960 –> 00:57:48.420
Jason Mefford: But yeah we’ll put all that stuff in the show notes as well, but.
00:57:50.340 –> 00:57:54.960
Jason Mefford: I appreciate you taking the time today and getting to talk about the forest.
00:57:56.370 –> 00:57:58.800
Jason Mefford: And everything else it’s time for me to get back out there again.
00:57:59.550 –> 00:58:06.390
Glenda Barber: spirituality in the forest to me those two topics just service yeah perfect Thank you so very much that was lovely.
00:58:06.840 –> 00:58:07.440
Jason Mefford: Thank you.
00:58:07.920 –> 00:58:09.900
Glenda Barber: Okay, thanks thanks again.