E188 A Facelift for Compliance with Tom Fox

In case you missed it, there has been a lot of change in how organizations are dealing with #compliance. Risk management concepts, use of data, using compliance to lead to greater business efficiency, third-party risk, just to name a few.

It’s as if compliance has gotten a face lift recently and looks a whole lot more like a risk function adding value instead of just a cost of doing business.

I’m joined by Tom Fox to discuss some of the recent changes and how he has incorporated the “nuts and bolts” needed to operationalize compliance in your organization in his updated “The Compliance Handbook, 2nd Edition” where he shares practical tips like 31 days to a more effective compliance function.

As usual, we don’t just jam about compliance and #risk, but also music and some career advice you won’t want to miss.

Save 20% on Tom’s new book when you use this link: https://lexisnexis.com/fox20

Listen in at: http://www.jasonmefford.com/jammingwithjason/

Transcript

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Jason Mefford: Welcome to another episode of jamming with Jay said hey today I have my friend Tom fox with me and we’re going to talk a little bit about compliance.

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Jason Mefford: Because he just came out with a new book that compliance handbooks second edition.

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Jason Mefford: And so you know, again, even if you’re not in compliance you’re going to want to stick around because Tom has been in this industry, for a long time.

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Jason Mefford: And you never know what’s going to come out on one of these episodes anyway so whatever you do stick around and listen to the entire episode and let’s roll that episode.

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Jason Mefford: hey Tom how you doing today man.

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Thomas Fox: it’s good to have you back on great.

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Thomas Fox: yeah and to be with you.

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Jason Mefford: I know you know you have you have been in this space for a long time.

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Jason Mefford: And and have have this compliance handbook out for quite a while right so so I guess, one of the questions, just like right off is.

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Jason Mefford: Why did you why did you take, like the compliance Bible that you already had and kind of create a second edition what’s what’s new or why did you go through and do this.

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Thomas Fox: Sure Jason so the original compliance handbook came out in late spring of 2018 and then in 2019 and 2020.

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Thomas Fox: We had some significant releases of information from the Department of Justice in 2019 we had the original evaluation of corporate compliance programs.

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Thomas Fox: which was updating the 2017 version, then we had the Department of Justice and I trust division come out with their evaluation of corporate compliance programs which added some really interesting.

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Thomas Fox: They were and I trust factors, but I thought applicable to and a corruption compliance as well.

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Thomas Fox: And, of course, under the antitrust law, you have both civil and criminal jurisdiction, so they focused on that a little bit more.

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Thomas Fox: We also had ofac come out with their version of a best practice compliance program once again with a little bit different focus, because it was trade compliance, so we had.

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Thomas Fox: Some significant information come out from Department of Justice and ofac and in in June of 2020.

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Thomas Fox: The Department of Justice updated their evaluation of corporate compliance programs and really changed the focus in a couple of key couple of ways, I thought needed to be highlighted.

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Thomas Fox: And then on July 1 I think 2020 the Department of Justice and Securities and Exchange Commission jointly came out with their update.

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Thomas Fox: To the fcp a resource guide, which was originally released in 2012 which, in my opinion, this is the single best resource guide for all things F CPA not simply compliance and so that I thought wanted.

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Thomas Fox: An update and I went through and rewrote about 40% of the book so there’s a lot of new information in there, it incorporates the most.

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Thomas Fox: Significant changes from the Department of Justice SEC ofac perspective and a lot of new information for the compliance practitioner as well.

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Jason Mefford: Well, I know cuz you know living here in the US, you know, because a lot of people that listen might be international, but we have some crazy compliance rules here in the US right, I mean we’re probably i’m guessing probably about the most.

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Jason Mefford: Controlled compliant regulated.

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Jason Mefford: country in the world right, and so, and a lot of these ones that you just throw out there are some some big names heavy hitters you know when the SEC comes down and they start calling.

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Jason Mefford: You got to pay attention right and I remember, because you mentioned F CPA and some of the some of the updates because I remember you know back in the day.

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Jason Mefford: The Federal Government pretty much said Look, we expect everybody to have good ethics and compliance programs or we’re not we’re going to really tell you what it is right it’s like wink wink.

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Jason Mefford: We know it when we see it, and if you’re not doing it then we’re going to be chopped right, and then I think there were some memos that kind of came out of the SEC if i’m remembering right.

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Jason Mefford: They kind of gave a little bit of guidelines that’s where like those those seven.

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Jason Mefford: Things that you usually think about where we’re kind of came from right but there’s there’s been this evolution, slowly but it sounds like from what you’re talking about.

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Jason Mefford: The last couple of years there’s been a lot more guidance actually coming out of the government of what they’re expecting.

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Thomas Fox: right starting in about 2015 we started hearing this is probably be music to your ears, but much more emphasis on data data analytics and use of data and your compliance Program.

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Thomas Fox: So obviously i’m a lawyer and data was not something we learned about in law school, not that was antithetical to the practice of law, but it was not something we focused on so.

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Thomas Fox: When you couple the Cosa 2013 internal controls framework with the DOJ emphasis on data, which was really emphasized in the.

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Thomas Fox: update, we saw the DOJ say specifically ctos had to have access to all corporate data, but more importantly, how to use that tab you had to analyze that data.

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Thomas Fox: You have to have continuous monitoring and continuous improvement, so this was really the most specific week heard the DOJ so they’ve been talking about that and speeches and.

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Thomas Fox: Other things over the past three or four years, but we saw a real acceleration with the update and now I think that’s probably the biggest driver.

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Thomas Fox: In compliance innovation right now is how can you get a handle on your data, how do you find out what data, you have, then, how do you analyze it.

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Thomas Fox: And then how can you incorporate that into a compliance program for continuous improvement, so those.

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Thomas Fox: that’s what’s really driving compliance now and it’s been interesting to see that evolution, but it certainly picked up during the pandemic and probably.

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Thomas Fox: i’m sure the coincidence of the June one release date of the update to the evaluation was coincidental nevertheless when it came out it really got a lot of people’s attention and data is something that is probably the most one of the most ubiquitous terms in compliance now.

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Jason Mefford: Well, it is it’s it’s funny because as you’re talking, you know because i’ve always usually kind of held you know risk and compliance is to kind of separate things but it’s.

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Jason Mefford: It seems like from what you’re talking about that there is more of this confluence now of this right is he is I mean we see this from.

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Jason Mefford: The ISO 31,000 standard on risk management right they came out with it, they updated it a couple years, I think it was a 18 or 19 they updated that.

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Jason Mefford: And so, now has been incorporating those concepts those risk management concepts into their other standards as they’re updating them.

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Jason Mefford: And so now it’s almost like the government has come back and said hey everybody compliance by itself right let’s start incorporating some of these risk management things you know, like you said it’s got to be continuous.

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Jason Mefford: it’s got to be you know have it, have an improvement, because as you’re going through as you’re looking at it and hey, by the way, everybody has data, so you guys should be able to start telling.

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Jason Mefford: Whether you’re compliant or not right, you should start kind of self monitoring, that is, that is, that kind of what i’m hearing what what’s coming out.

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Thomas Fox: No you’re absolutely spot on and one of the things I saw the last year with the pandemic was the acceleration of trends that have been percolating in.

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Thomas Fox: 2017 2018 and 2019 to accelerate X exponentially and coupled with the fact with certainly from the legal.

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Thomas Fox: kind of compliance perspective, the traditional way you would look at issues is go to an investigation, you might do an interview.

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Thomas Fox: You might sit down and talk to some people, you might review documents all that kind of all went out the window last year and really the only thing left was data, and so it forced people like myself who perhaps not use data primarily as the source for continuous monitoring or numbers.

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Thomas Fox: To really embrace that because we had to, and now that we’ve had to I think it’s a much more efficient way much certainly much more holistic way into your first point, I think you’re also spot on that we’ve had this much more or greater recognition that this is just risk.

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Thomas Fox: We had pandemic risk last year now we’ve got returned to work risk and got supply chain risk we got.

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Thomas Fox: Third party risk we have cyber cyber security risk we have data privacy risk, and of course we have.

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Thomas Fox: You know the social justice and diversity inclusion movements that gained speed last year, so you have a reputational risk, how are you going to look at those all and it has to be really a holistic integrated approach.

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Jason Mefford: Well, and it’s interesting because, even when you think about you know risk in general right.

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Jason Mefford: Why does the government come out with new laws with new regulations, because the government is trying to manage some risk.

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Jason Mefford: Right of businesses may be operating in a way that they don’t like right that ends up often having a very detrimental impact to the economy to two individuals right as well, and so they’re trying to manage kind of like the business environment within the country by putting these.

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Jason Mefford: i’ll use the word controls right because everybody likes the word controls, but really a regulation is trying to force organizations to operate in a certain way.

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Jason Mefford: To reduce that general public risk right and like you said, I think the pandemic is just really accelerated a lot of stuff that was already happening anyway.

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Jason Mefford: But it’s it’s interesting you know, like you said that that now they’re focusing much more on data.

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Jason Mefford: And you know, in a way, because organization should kind of know what’s going on, they should be tracking what’s going on and, as things change, they should be trying to get out in front of it, you know whether that’s compliance or just risk in general right.

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Jason Mefford: So, yes it’s kind of interesting and I know you said you know about 40% of the book has been updated so i’m guessing a lot of these this data concept is brought into it, or what are what are kind of the main updates that you’ve done since the first edition.

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Thomas Fox: So the main updates for around data they were around innovation, they were around managing managing your third parties, because in the compliance world third parties are still viewed as as the highest risk and once again with the monitoring and updating.

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Thomas Fox: In the.

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Thomas Fox: first evaluation that came out in 2019 there was discussion to have root cause analysis.

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Thomas Fox: And that was eventually added as an additional hallmark to the original 10 hallmarks of effective compliance program so there’s a discussion of how a root cause analysis is really different.

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Thomas Fox: than a investigation or an interview even two different focus with a different goals and why that’s important the joint ventures which.

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Thomas Fox: Whatever the business venture in it is and the types of business venture are only limited by our collective business imaginations whether it’s a jv a teaming agreement or anything else.

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Thomas Fox: had to figure out how to manage those but the other thing that’s that really I saw in in the bigger picture Jason was the move the moves that are being made.

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Thomas Fox: are really leading to greater business efficiency and so originally compliance programs were written policies and procedures, written by lawyers for lawyers.

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Thomas Fox: The Kosovo framework of 2013 for internal controls was for a lot of people, including myself, just a revelation.

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Thomas Fox: Because I now saw the controls is the backbone of the compliance program and that led to key performance integral integral.

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Thomas Fox: indicators with a lot of ways to measure efficiency in ways that I certainly hadn’t been aware of before and so that gave us this data.

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Thomas Fox: And if you can improve your business efficiency, while making your compliance program more effective, I think that equates to read a return on investment, we had a lot of that going on.

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Thomas Fox: And I think that’s one of the big accelerants we saw from from last year as well if you’re going to look at your.

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Thomas Fox: Spending your gift traveling and your payment spend and determine that it’s inefficient for the sales cycle for the sales process.

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Thomas Fox: And you can reduce your spend to give travel entertainment spend to government officials you’ve saved money you’ve made your process more efficient you’re more compliant and you’re probably going to get a better Roi from that sales team focusing on those customers.

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Jason Mefford: Well, so this is it’s going in an interesting way because you know, like if we think about.

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Jason Mefford: Like I said it looks like compliance now is taking on more of kind of these risk management principles right which one of them that ISO talks about is that.

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Jason Mefford: Risk Management adds value to the organization right, so that you shouldn’t be spending more on managing risk than the benefit that you’re getting.

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Jason Mefford: And I know for a long time it’s always been all compliance is just something we got to do it’s money we got to spend we hate doing it, but we got to do it right.

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Jason Mefford: To where now, it sounds like it’s it’s also having more of that value discussion and about ways to lead to these greater business efficiencies that compliance just isn’t about.

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Jason Mefford: Following that regulation but it’s also like you said it’s those controls in the background that are helping us actually run a better business as well right because a lot of times.

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Jason Mefford: yeah.

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Thomas Fox: Let me pick up on that last point, because that’s really critical.

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Thomas Fox: 10 years ago, five years ago, maybe three years ago when certainly I thought about the management of risk, it was to protect the company, but my thinking of all, because if you properly manage risk it’s actually a business advantage.

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Thomas Fox: If you can respond more quickly, because you have the controls in place.

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Thomas Fox: To accept greater risk because you already have the controls in place to manage that risk.

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Thomas Fox: With oversight with controls and the human element, it can make your business more nimble more agile.

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Thomas Fox: And that’s I think one of the things we saw last year companies were able to pivot much more quickly when they could manage that risk.

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Thomas Fox: Here was you know early on in the pandemic a school of thought that well we’ll just override these controls or we won’t follow these controls, because it’s a unique situation.

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Thomas Fox: The companies that already had the controls in place and could just have greater.

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Thomas Fox: Risk Management oversight were able to more quickly respond, and I think that played out for a lot of different industries in the past year, so i’m really seeing that risk management.

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Thomas Fox: now being thought of as a business advantage because you can respond more quickly, and one thing i’ve learned over the years is, the greater the risk, the greater potential profits and if you can figure out a way to manage great nervously neighbor you’re going to make.

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Thomas Fox: More money and so.

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Thomas Fox: I think we’ve seen a lot of that as well.

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Jason Mefford: Well, because that’s that’s one of the things and i’ll use the you know ISO 31,000 risk management, because one of their risk response things I talked about is increased the risk.

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Jason Mefford: And I know when people read that they’re like what do you what what, no, no, no here we’re for value preservation right we’re but but it’s that point again of but those companies who can.

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Jason Mefford: Who, who have the processes and the controls in place, they can take more risk intelligently.

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Jason Mefford: And they can actually increase the risk and still have a higher reward right and so those are the ones that are going to end up winning more.

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Jason Mefford: But it’s but it’s interesting because this this dialogue that we’re having kind of It reminded me of a lecture I sat through when I was doing my MBA many years ago.

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Jason Mefford: And this was before all of the environmental, you know now everybody’s like Oh, he s G s G s G right.

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Jason Mefford: This was before all the environmental push had happened, and I remember that this professor, she would she was a very you know left wing environmentally friendly person and so she was.

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Jason Mefford: You know kind of talking about the benefits of being an environmentally friendly company.

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Jason Mefford: And you know, most of us in the audience for like, but this just costs more money, it costs more money right we can’t it’s it’s reducing profits and she stopped, and I remember saying something like.

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Jason Mefford: Why do you think that this just costs more money can’t it also be an advantage for the organization.

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Jason Mefford: And then I remember at that time you know a lot of us were still kind of thinking, she was a little crazy.

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Jason Mefford: But it wasn’t but a couple of years, you know, and all of a sudden, we had these huge companies like walmart going.

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Jason Mefford: holy crap if I read you know if I switch out all of the lights in my store to you know compact fluorescent instead.

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Jason Mefford: it’s not only good for the environment but i’m i’m spending like 40% less in energy costs holy crap right, so the minute that they decided that.

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Jason Mefford: There was huge investment and huge push but it took that mindset shift and it just sounds like we’re starting to have some of that mindset shift now.

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Jason Mefford: In the compliance area as well it’s not just a cost of doing business but it’s it’s an investment in in doing good business right.

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Thomas Fox: Your spa when when companies talk about we’re going to reduce our carbon footprint, I immediately here how much is that going to save us.

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Thomas Fox: isn’t going to be environmentally friendly, yes, help our stock price, maybe, but we will have absolutely save money.

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Jason Mefford: So it’s interesting that we’re kind of kind of coming that way now, I know I think you know the the compliance handbook I think you.

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Jason Mefford: You published through lexis nexis right and if i’m remembering that right, so why you know lexis nexis I always I always thought that was a great term I just love that.

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Jason Mefford: The alliteration of it too right but but maybe you know just just talk for a minute what what is lexis nexis, why did you choose them as somebody to publish the compliance handbook through.

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Thomas Fox: So lets us nexus is the world’s largest legal publisher and about May of last year I got an email from them telling me that they were going to start a.

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Thomas Fox: Compliance adjunct to their legal publications and they wanted me to come on board as a first compliance also author.

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Thomas Fox: And so I sat down with them, or I guess virtually sat down with them, because it was in May.

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Thomas Fox: and your work on a contract and I was at i’m absolutely thrilled to be a part of lexis nexis because they literally are the world’s largest legal publisher they want to start coming out with a compliance series.

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Thomas Fox: And they they focus on the nuts and bolts, how do you do it in you name the area and so that’s exactly what the compliance handbook is.

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Thomas Fox: The best nuts and bolts book, in my opinion, and doing a best practice compliance program so I work with them, I had they came in and took over the editing role for my wife so she was thrilled.

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Jason Mefford: She was happy happy wife happy man right So there you go.

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Thomas Fox: So that worked out well and i’m going they took over the publication, it was released it’s available in their bookstore for immediate release now.

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Jason Mefford: wow well.

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Thomas Fox: They were a pleasure to work with, I never worked with a professional editor before so obviously I bring a certain perspective to the process they’re renewing very different perspective, a non legal perspective so when they would email me and say this doesn’t make sense.

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Thomas Fox: They were right may not make sense to someone without my professional background and that meant it didn’t make sense to potential reader so I really learned a lot from that process and enjoyed that process.

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Jason Mefford: Well, and the nuts and bolts, I think, is what’s important because it’s so i’m glad that that’s kind of the approach of this has, and that it is.

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Jason Mefford: Like that one place where.

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Jason Mefford: People can go to actually get down to that level because so much of the time you know it’s.

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Jason Mefford: People people talk and theories and Oh, this is the nice to do kind of thing right but it, but it leaves the people who are the practitioner.

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Jason Mefford: That has to actually execute going yeah but what am I supposed to do right, so they get some big lofty goal, or they get some theoretical thing pushed at them.

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Jason Mefford: But at the end of the day, they still have to execute they still have to figure out how to make this work, and so it sounds like you know, in the second edition that you’re giving a more of the here’s how you would actually implement this test your company kind of step by step.

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Thomas Fox: Make your compliance more coupons per plant program more effective that day I keep that same format throughout the book in terms of.

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Thomas Fox: Every chapter every entry has three key takeaways a long time ago, I heard there’s a lot of things you can learn in the law there’s a whole lot less that you actually need to know, so I tried to give.

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Thomas Fox: The compliance practitioner that same approach you can know a lot more, but here’s the things you need to know and here’s three things you can do today to make your compliance program more effective and i’ve had.

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Thomas Fox: it’s very biblical 12 chapters, so you can read it is either the 12 tribes or 12 months, and you can read a chapter A month and with an entry each day.

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Jason Mefford: read a chapter once a month, you know do this one little thing each day and you’re going to get closer and closer right because.

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Jason Mefford: Well, you can’t do all of them at the same time right, and again I mean you’ve got more experience from from the regulator’s side, but what I tell people so fact.

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Jason Mefford: check me on this too, because if i’m wrong, let me know but I usually tell them look, you know the regulators are more interested in the fact that you’re trying and you’re working towards that, then that necessarily everything.

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Jason Mefford: Yes, they wanted all that way but they’re going to give you some credit for the try factor right.

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Thomas Fox: And that really mirrors what the Department of Justice said in the update the June 2020 updating, a violation of corporate compliance programs which It all starts with a risk assessment.

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Thomas Fox: But then, after you assess your risk and put in a program to manage that risk, you have to monitor that program and that’s continuous monitoring and that’s what leads to continuous improvement.

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Thomas Fox: That was the first time they really linked the risk assessment to continuous monitoring but it’s a it’s a much more formal way of saying what you just said he was our problem here’s i’m going to fix it and here’s the steps, I have taken it will take if it’s document.

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Jason Mefford: You know, I think that one of the definitions are paraphrasing but you know compliance is about documenting and proving.

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Jason Mefford: Because again if somebody comes in and asking and you’re like well you know yeah we did that well, can you can you prove it to me, can you show it to me.

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Jason Mefford: addressing issues when things come up right it’s it’s one way to actually document and prove stuff and ties a lot better into the risk assessment, which again is interesting and that’s that’s.

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Jason Mefford: it’s it sounds like this is the approach that you’re suggesting to people to is look assess what’s most important focus on those areas first.

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Jason Mefford: And then start filling in, as you can right so again it’s more of that risk management concepts being brought to compliance instead of trying to do everything right away what’s most important and start working start working through that.

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Thomas Fox: And there’s even a career development reason to do it and I took this from a friend of mine who told me that every day on back when we had daily desk calendars.

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Thomas Fox: And he would use that in salary negotiations, each year, so, and no one can ever say it work and been insufficient because he had a written documentation of 123 things he had done every day to enhance the compliance program so for career development reasons it can work as well.

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Jason Mefford: Well, when you build a piece of furniture it’s something tangible that you can see, at the end of the day, you saw exactly what you did and there’s a lot of satisfaction.

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Jason Mefford: In any of the trades, where you use your hands and you see something tangible, but in our professions they’re not really tangible and so doing something like that seems like not only to help him with his career.

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Jason Mefford: With a salary negotiation, but i’m sure that that gentleman probably had much more satisfaction in what he was doing because he was documenting.

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Jason Mefford: Those things that he was doing you can’t see it tangibly, but if you write it down on your desk calendar, then you can feel good about what you actually did that day and that provides a lot more.

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Jason Mefford: job satisfaction, makes us happier in general to write, because we can see that we’re actually having an impact we’re we’re moving the needle in the way that it needs to go as well, so.

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Jason Mefford: Great stuff great stuff.

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Jason Mefford: Alright, so tom’s got a new book compliance handbook second edition available through lexis nexis so.

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Jason Mefford: Make sure in the in the notes down below there will be a link for you to be able to go out and pick up a copy of that, but you know before we do a quick wrap up here Tom I always love to bring in music when I can as well to right so.

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Jason Mefford: So so here’s here’s a couple of musical questions and then we’ll kind of end with a with a you know sage advice from Tom at the end, but so if I throw out, are you are you more a Beatles or more of a stones person.

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Jason Mefford: he’s fabulous he’s the forgotten beetle that people do not realize how big of a George and ringo people don’t don’t give the credit to, but without those two men, the Beatles would have never been what they were yeah so.

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Jason Mefford: The older i’ve gotten I mean i’ve got respect for both of those groups, I mean there’s some stuff that the stones have done that holy crap I mean, but you know i’ve gotten more respect for both of them and what they’ve done.

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Jason Mefford: One of the songs I listened to a lot is here comes the sun, and that was one that the George wrote.

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Jason Mefford: And usually one of the questions is who’s your favorite Beatles so you already answered that one for me, too, so I got that but.

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Jason Mefford: And it’s always helpful because a lot of people who listen are still early on in their career, so you know if you were to look back now to maybe a mid 20s Tom what advice would you give your younger self now that you’ve already gone through your career.

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Jason Mefford: They want to go everywhere right I want this certification and that certification and that certification, which is fine, but what’s what’s the method behind it what’s the reason behind it and.

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Jason Mefford: Everybody know, everybody knows you.

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Jason Mefford: For that, now, but again it’s the important part of that you brought up there to that Malcolm gladwell 10,000 hours.

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Jason Mefford: You know that’s from from one of gladwell his books, where it really kind of talks about that look it takes about 10,000 hours.

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Jason Mefford: To really become an expert in something right and so again that might seem like a big thing, but just as we were talking about compliance right, how do you get 10,000 hours of expertise in something you start today, and you do alone.

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Jason Mefford: Right and you just kind of get started with it and go but.

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Jason Mefford: Great advice well Tom thanks for coming on today it’s.

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Jason Mefford: You opened my eyes to a lot of stuff too, because I haven’t had my head in compliance as much the last few years, and so to hear some of the changes to it, your new book that came out the compliance handbook second edition.

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Jason Mefford: Great stuff for people that are in this area, and especially if if they haven’t really thought about it there’s been a lot of changes the last year or two that they probably should get more educated on start spending some of those 10,000 hours that way so.

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Thomas Fox: So thanks so much for having me on, and please buy my book yeah.

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Jason Mefford: go out and buy buy his book like I said we’ll put a link in the in the section area below so make sure you click on that link and go get his book, so you can get the nuts and bolts.

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Lessons From the Worst Speaker Ever

Sometimes learning what NOT to do, can really help people improve in certain facets of their lives. When it comes to public speaking, learning what doesn’t work can definitely be helpful.


From “verbal masturbation”, to not knowing your own subject matter, or just being a boring presenter, this episode will dive into the various public speaking pitfalls that YOU can avoid!

Listen in at: http://www.jasonmefford.com/fireandearthpodcast/

Transcript

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Jason Mefford: Welcome to another episode of the fire and earth podcast i’m your co host Jason medford.

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Kathy Gruver: And I am Kathy gruver and I don’t want to have this conversation.

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Kathy Gruver: But we’re going to.

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Jason Mefford: we’re going to have this conversation we’re.

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Kathy Gruver: going to have this conversation, this is a conversation that I I try not to be.

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Kathy Gruver: True, not to be critical okay that’s totally wrong that’s wrong i’m very critical.

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Kathy Gruver: i’m critical in a way that I want to help people grow and evolve and change i’m not just critical for the sake of being critical.

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Kathy Gruver: And you know I do a lot of speaking I recently found myself at a talk somewhere in the country and got it listen in on one of the other speakers.

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Kathy Gruver: In a breakout session which I don’t normally get to do, and this gentleman’s topic was very similar to mine, so I was like cool i’m going to learn some stuff.

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Kathy Gruver: Oh no, it was probably one of the worst talks i’ve ever seen.

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Kathy Gruver: For so many reasons and I thought there’s a lot of speakers out there are a lot of people who are aspiring to be speakers so in using the example of what not to do we can get better, so I thought we’d talk about that today.

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Jason Mefford: Well, I think it’s a great topic because you know it’s it’s funny there’s when you talk to people, a lot of people they really want to become a speaker or a writer.

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Jason Mefford: But at the same point professional speaking is like the scariest thing for most people right they want to do it, but they’re scared to do it and they don’t want to put themselves out there.

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Jason Mefford: And there’s a lot of people that kind of you know, tell you what you have to do and how you have to be all this Polish and other stuff and I don’t know if we’re going to get there.

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Jason Mefford: Any way to but people just want authenticity, you know, especially today but it’s one of those again where people are afraid.

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Jason Mefford: To public speak more than they’re afraid to die, which to me is always crazy but anyway so so let’s get in and I, and I know.

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Jason Mefford: You know, for me, I do the same thing as a speaker when we watch other speakers we’re not looking for the content we’re like Oh, I really liked how he did that Oh, that was a great call back Oh, did you see how they did that right.

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Jason Mefford: yeah so we’re kind of taken notes to try to help improve ourselves.

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Jason Mefford: as well, but I know I have sat through a lot of those things where it’s a good thing I didn’t have a gun with me.

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Jason Mefford: carefully yeah sometimes it’s like you know poke my eyes out, you know you know I can’t hear this anymore, you know stick a pencil in my hair.

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Jason Mefford: kind of thing because it’s just so boring and so bad and so again not to be critical of this person per se, but just to talk about some of the mistakes, a lot of people who speak.

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Jason Mefford: yeah right, so that you can improve yourself and make it much more enjoyable.

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Jason Mefford: learning experience for other people that you’re.

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Jason Mefford: talking to.

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Kathy Gruver: Right exactly exactly so right off the BAT so let me just give you the big picture overview.

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Kathy Gruver: He had an hour to speak it was like 15 minutes to an hour and the first 10 minutes was, let me tell you, who I am.

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Kathy Gruver: Everybody guess where i’m from.

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Kathy Gruver: here’s an overview of what we’re going to talk about, and when you have a certain number of things like here are my five pillars, if you have to go to your notes and say here so here are my five pillars.

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Kathy Gruver: see what was I gonna say um oh OK, so the five pillars are.

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Jason Mefford: You don’t know your shit.

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Kathy Gruver: And then don’t tell me you’ve been speaking about this, since the early 2000s.

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Kathy Gruver: because to me as an outsider not knowing a speaker at all, I would have thought this was his first talk.

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Kathy Gruver: So he wasted, at least the first 10 minutes saying telling stories about his dogs and blah blah blah blah that had no bearing on the content that he was going to give us so to me it was verbal masturbation.

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Kathy Gruver: And my question always is, why are you telling me the story, and when I do my talks I share a lot of personal anecdotes a lot of personal stories.

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Kathy Gruver: Not because it’s like hey i’m an only child, you have to look at me because you’re already looking at me i’m doing the talk.

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Kathy Gruver: He was so disjointed he jumped from point to point to point and then would go back, I mean it was so nonlinear I couldn’t understand a word this guy was saying, then, with two minutes left, he said Okay, let me get into the last two pillars.

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Kathy Gruver: So it was time management, it was no your content and then i’m a visual kinesthetic learner I love PowerPoint I will never stop using PowerPoint.

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Kathy Gruver: Because people like to see something on the screen I like to see what you’re talking about written down or in a graph and so at one point he grabs the big win lose or draw tablet.

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Kathy Gruver: And he made this big deal but i’m not a PowerPoint guy and i’m thinking you see lazy.

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Kathy Gruver: My interpretation, so I get through this whole talk and I was like starting to get actually angry and how bad this was because it was terrible content, he he gave maybe gave us one usable thing.

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Kathy Gruver: as another speaker maybe i’m just simply being hypercritical and I bumped into someone who was in my talk.

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Kathy Gruver: He stopped me and said oh my God you’re talking so great Thank you so much one of the best speakers i’ve ever seen, I saw did you happen to see the other similar you know topic talk this afternoon he goes no but my boss did he said it was one of the worst things he’s ever seen.

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Kathy Gruver: And he’s not critical of anybody and I went Okay, thank God, not thank God that everybody thought this guy was bad.

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Jason Mefford: as well, and so let’s so let’s take that apart again right because I didn’t I didn’t luckily I didn’t have to sit through this right, but.

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Jason Mefford: But but let’s just go back to the basics of why you speak right so again it’s if you’ve got an hour.

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Jason Mefford: You know you’re you’re there to help impart some knowledge and part you know motivation transformation and people get.

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Jason Mefford: get people to leave the room better than they came in right, I mean that’s really your job as a speaker.

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Jason Mefford: And so just from the numbers that you kind of rattled off he spent over half the time trying to either say how great he was or to sell you on something and again that says it’s a standard.

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Jason Mefford: A lot of people are taught this because, again, you know as a speaker you make usually more of your money on the back end than you do on the front end right.

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Jason Mefford: And so there’s usually some upsell or something some offer to work more with you and, again, some people do a horrible job at that.

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Jason Mefford: there’s sleazy ways of doing it there’s other more subtle subconscious ways to do it for the people that are much more skilled at it.

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Jason Mefford: But ultimately at the end of the day, right he wasted people’s time by not actually giving them something that was coherent.

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Jason Mefford: Because that’s The other thing you said right, it was not very linear and again hey all all speeches and what you’re doing doesn’t have to be all linear right that’s the beauty of things like callbacks.

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Jason Mefford: comedians us and the embedded loops that we use as speakers, because you want to keep bringing people along in the journey and that’s fine, but again.

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Jason Mefford: When you do that call back or you close that loop, then people are like Oh, I get it right, because it it brings it brings it back home, so I you know, I think.

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Jason Mefford: One of the things is if if you’re getting up on stage if you’re speaking to people and your intention is to share how great you are then you’re one of the worst speakers already because that’s not the purpose for why you’re supposed to be there.

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Kathy Gruver: And, which is fine if that has something to do with what you’re saying that to spend two minutes because to me two minutes is precious I over deliver so much content.

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Kathy Gruver: People can’t even keep up with the content that I deliver i’ve actually had people say oh my God you’re giving us way too much, but that’s that’s a good problem to waste two minutes on who can guess where i’m from.

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Kathy Gruver: And we had a whole audience discussion about that and i’m thinking, why are you asking us this.

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Kathy Gruver: I will, maybe say hey I grew up in Pittsburgh i’m a huge football fan and then use that as an example of how visualization works of how the.

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Kathy Gruver: You know the field goal kicker visualizes the uprights data data I don’t like everyone guess where i’m from come on guess you know it’s to me that’s a time waster, and that means that you don’t have anything to say.

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Kathy Gruver: Because if you actually have content that you want to share you don’t have time to waste 30 seconds saying everybody guess where i’m from.

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Kathy Gruver: You know, so it was it was a time so know your time fill your time don’t wing it and expect that you are going to be able to fill that out because you’re going to find yourself at 35 minutes going.

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Kathy Gruver: Oh shit i’m out of my content rehearse it a couple of times so you know how long it takes I know.

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Kathy Gruver: How long my talks will take, and I can adjust in the moment because i’ve been doing it long enough for an hour for 45 minutes for an hour 15 I can expand stories I can bring stories down, I can add another technique, I can.

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Kathy Gruver: You have to know how to juggle that as a speaker and if you don’t have enough.

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Kathy Gruver: or where do you travel to where you know it’s like it’s just a time waster and these people came to learn something not where you were from that’s not on the docket of what they wanted to learn so timing know your timing.

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Jason Mefford: You and I know lots of professional speakers, and there are a lot of them that are there for their ego they like to talk and they like having people have to listen to.

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Jason Mefford: You know, but again you’re there to serve and provide something of value, now the interesting thing too that you brought up to about the the the board right when he when he said, you know i’ll make this easy for for.

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Jason Mefford: Is you know, one of the sayings is what you do to one you do to all.

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Jason Mefford: That was one of the things that I was taught early on.

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Jason Mefford: So what you, you know again imagine yourself up in front of you know 500 people, whatever it is right, what you do to one person in that audience, you are doing to everyone else in that.

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Jason Mefford: And so that’s why you know running off the stage, giving high fives are shaking people’s hands you can’t shake all 500 people’s hands.

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Jason Mefford: But if you do it to a couple of people and everyone else in the audience because we’re a collective group in that container.

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Jason Mefford: Then you’re making fun of everyone now if you’re a stand up comedian there’s a reason for doing that okay.

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Jason Mefford: yeah so the same thing you know, expressing appreciation or giving compliments or listening to other people as they’re as they’re explaining something if you’ve asked a question what you do to one you do to all and so sometimes i’ve done this and it’s.

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Jason Mefford: On some of the speeches, where i’ll bring somebody up like to help me do something right.

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Jason Mefford: yeah and then at the end i’m like you know, thank you for doing that and I open up my wallet and I give them 100 bucks and the person’s like are you serious i’m like yeah i’m serious you know, take the money, thank you right.

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Jason Mefford: Right to even just the one person everyone else can feel that that right because that’s The important thing, it is you are there to serve as a speaker and and if you’re not serving and making people feel better than you’re not doing your job.

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Kathy Gruver: volunteer to follow you around the country and take every word.

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Kathy Gruver: There was a speaker that used to speak when I was doing the natural path conferences and he was one of everybody’s favorite speakers, he was very funny he was very charismatic and I would see him getting carried away with the humor.

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Kathy Gruver: And I don’t know how I can explain this haha it’s just something, you see, and you go oh wow that just went completely awry so like they’d say something funny.

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Kathy Gruver: And everybody would laugh, and then they say another thing that was funny and then everybody would love to do it another thing that was fun and the next thing you know they’re.

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Kathy Gruver: Just kind of going down this rabbit hole of what one liners that again to not be all that funny, and so what.

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Kathy Gruver: When I do my ego state talk and for those of you we’ve talked about ego states multiple times there’s different parts inside of ourselves.

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Kathy Gruver: And Mike mendell talked about this on his show as well, so when i’m speaking, you get my professional speaker.

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Kathy Gruver: You get my performer jester and you get my librarian that stands off to the side and kind of make sure i’m on time and make sure one’s paying attention and what is my next slide and where’d I put my clicker down and that kind of thing.

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Kathy Gruver: it’s an inside joke between us Okay, you know, and he started to get all hyper and like kind of explain himself about how this was this personal joke with this person that he knows, because she hires him to do this.

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Kathy Gruver: We don’t know what you’re talking about oh that’s okay that’s where we could have an inside joke, and you know he kind of went down that route that that ego state trail of suddenly we were all completely excluded from what he was doing.

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Kathy Gruver: And he got lost in this either uncomfortableness or jester personality, or whatever it was and had this moment with this person that he knew.

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Kathy Gruver: To the exclusion of all the rest of us now, you can do that if it’s a brief thing, but he just took it to the you know conclusion and then try to get us all back and we’re all sitting there going why don’t know what you’re talking about.

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Kathy Gruver: And he was using other people’s content, which is fine, but then he didn’t fully know the content.

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Kathy Gruver: So he’s like remember that book blah blah blah, you know how he talked about leaders leading from the front leading from the side leading from the back, and he just launches into that I don’t know what that means.

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Kathy Gruver: And he said, who knows what that means, and like maybe a third of the room raised their hands and he goes Okay, so you all know.

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Kathy Gruver: And then kept on talking and i’m sitting there going dude I have no bloody idea what you’re saying.

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Kathy Gruver: And then he kept repeating the same thing over and over and over again, which was not new content, it was just him recycling this other person’s content, which is fine, but then explain to us what that content is it was just it was just just jointed and oh yeah it was just so unpleasant.

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Jason Mefford: I prepare but I wing more, I guess, if you will, right because, because what what often happens, since people are so afraid of getting up in front of people.

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Jason Mefford: And they’re so afraid of making making a fool of themselves it’s actually funny we we were just watching a show it’s on Amazon called Atlantic crossing.

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Jason Mefford: The second world war, but the story effectively of the Norwegian royal family, and how the Crown princess came to America they had to flee when when the Nazis occupied.

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Jason Mefford: But, but there was a part where she was terrified of public speaking, she would you know they’d write her speeches all she had to do was read it, but she.

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Jason Mefford: FDR and Eleanor and and I remember, there was there was one time, where she actually went to Eleanor and she said, you know.

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Jason Mefford: And so you know Eleanor went through and kind of mentor her in it and there was one scene in there, where you know here you have Eleanor Roosevelt, you know.

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Jason Mefford: And the Crown princess looks at her and she’s like what are you doing she’s like come on follow me do, what do what i’m doing she’s like, why are we doing this, so that you can get comfortable being embarrassed.

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Jason Mefford: Ah Okay, you know what when you give a speech you’re gonna forget a line you’re going to do something it’s gonna it’s not gonna go the way that you want it to right and.

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Jason Mefford: Brian Tracy now, this is a guy he’s spoken ahead like 5 million people I don’t know he told me one time he’s like you know there’s the speech you there’s always three speeches.

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Jason Mefford: What are you what are you talking about and he’s like there’s the speech you prepare there’s the speech you give.

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Jason Mefford: And then there’s the speech you wish you’d given yeah now, how do you know whether or not you did well well how close are those three together all right, but there’s always three different things because it’s always going to be different, but it needs to be you.

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Jason Mefford: Right, and so the reality is you’re you’re probably going to make a mistake it’s Okay, but you know what making a mistake, shows the audience that you’re a real human being.

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Kathy Gruver: And they are pulling for you.

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Jason Mefford: Is is going to connect with the audience so let’s let’s pull in burn a Brown.

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Jason Mefford: Okay, you remember when everybody knows her now, for you know being authentic and you know dare to lead dare to dare to daringly great right and the books and stuff like that she’s written, but you know how she started, she was she was supposed to do a Ted talk.

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Jason Mefford: yeah it was a Ted talk, it was a Ted talk to, which again this is like.

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Jason Mefford: And just before she goes on she’s like I don’t I don’t really want to talk about this i’m gonna i’m just gonna talk from the heart and started talking about this off, you know being authentic.

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Jason Mefford: And that’s what she went off script.

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Jason Mefford: 20 3050 million downloads of that talk yeah why because she showed up she was herself, she said what she needed to say and what only she can say.

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Jason Mefford: yeah and in the way that renee says it.

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Jason Mefford: Yet right she’s one of those who I love her because, again, you know we’re taught well you can’t swear on the stage, really.

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Kathy Gruver: And it was very exciting I just got to speak in North Carolina and.

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Kathy Gruver: Eric my boyfriend got to go with me and what was so exciting about that is he got to see me speak in person, for the first time.

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Kathy Gruver: And he’s used to hearing my talks from across the room because i’m on zoom, so much so he’s heard all of my talks ad nauseum but he finally got to see one.

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Kathy Gruver: But he doesn’t get any reaction, nor do I, because i’m sitting on frickin zoom he said, and it was fun to see you play with the audience and do the your improv.

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Kathy Gruver: He said it was so fun to see you, you know as we say, as a coach dancing in that moment, so don’t be too over in Nicole.

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Kathy Gruver: Garrett talked about this when we did our speaking one don’t be to over prepare don’t be underprepared be you but don’t just think you’re going to wing it and that’s what this guy seemed it seemed horribly unprepared.

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Kathy Gruver: He read from the description in the book as to what he was going to offer to give us, and he didn’t give us any of it, and I mean it was just it was just poorly crafted and poorly executed so don’t do that.

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Kathy Gruver: That was my thing yeah just don’t do that.

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Jason Mefford: Right so don’t be the worst speaker ever.

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Kathy Gruver: don’t be the worst speaker ever.

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Jason Mefford: So so again we’ve you know if you if you have to give a speech you know whether again, even if that’s a small thing in front of a group of people at work or whatever else you know go back, we.

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Jason Mefford: we’ve given you a lot of gold, right here okay honestly folks I mean what we’ve shared with you here, professional speakers pay thousands of dollars to coaches to teach them how to do this okay and we’re giving it to you for free on a podcast.

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Kathy Gruver: Contact Jason will give you 100 bucks.

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Jason Mefford: Oh That was something else that’s right.

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Jason Mefford: yeah please you can contact us that’s right.

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Jason Mefford: yeah right, I mean we’re just showing up being authentically as trying to help you right because the same thing, I mean, hopefully, you can understand this, if you’ve listened to.

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Jason Mefford: More than a couple of our episodes you know why we show up and do this, this is a Labor of love right, I mean we’re here to serve you that’s why we do this yeah.

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Kathy Gruver: stick to the time be respectful of the audience and what you’re actually giving them, why are you ask yourself why am I telling this story Why am I saying this right now is it actually serving them or isn’t verbal masturbation because i’ve run out of content.

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Kathy Gruver: And I think that’s just you know it’s about organization at that point, bring out your inner capricorn.

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Kathy Gruver: Sit down with you and organize your talk and you know for us visual learners please put some frickin PowerPoint up there don’t draw some half ass picture and think that’s going to work for me because it’s not so that’s just from my personal thing.

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Kathy Gruver: I want to go do I want to go to another talk I do I do ready.

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Kathy Gruver: i’m ready i’m ready always ready drop of a hat cool yeah contact us if you need anything both of us can give you an speaking tips till you know forever so yeah i’m kind of the river, I can reach academy.com.

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Jason Mefford: i’m Jason method, I can be reached at Jason method calm so go out have a great week and make sure to serve, and if you’re speaking speak from the heart.

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Are You an Inclusive Leader??

You might think you are inclusive and open minded, but how inclusive are you really?

We tend to gravitate to people that are like us (it’s just human nature) but being more inclusive in all ways really does enrich our lives and creates stronger teams.

With business entering the digital world, we need to start looking into being more inclusive and consider alternate populations to begin hiring from.

Sure there are people of different skin colors or sexes (those are the easy ones to see), but what about individuals with physical disabilities or people from the autistic population. What about people who are significantly older or younger than you. Please is a different stage of life and need a more flexible or remote work schedule.

In general, people that are different from you. But hey, aren’t we all a little different, weird or quirky in our own way?

Sometimes to tackle challenges and touch situations, a different point of view can be highly beneficial. In fact, a lot of research shows that the best performing teams are those that are most diverse.

After all, “we cannot solve our problems with the same thinking we used when we created them.” – Albert Einstein

As a leader, you can’t be like everyone else. You have to be more intentional and more inclusive in everything you do and say.

Not only can you reach out and bring in employees from different walks of life, but you can also look into how to treat your employees equitably. For some employees a flexible schedule would be helpful, or perhaps a cafeteria type benefits plan may work better for your employee base.

Bottom line, treating everyone the same is probably not equitable.

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With business entering the digital world, we need to start looking into alternate populations to begin hiring from. Sure there are people of different skin colors or sexes, but what about individuals with physical disabilities or people from the autistic population.


Sometimes to tackle certain situations, a different point of view can be highly beneficial.

Not only can business reach out and bring in employees from different walks of life, but companies can also look into how to treat their employees equitably. For some employees a flexible schedule would be helpful, or perhaps a cafeteria type benefits plan may work better for your employee base.

Julie Thompson joins us today on the Jamming with Jason podcast to discuss positive ways that industry can change in many ways for the better!

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Jason Mefford: Welcome to another episode of jamming with Jay said hey everybody I am excited today we have a great show in store for you i’m talking to Julie Thompson.

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Jason Mefford: And we’re going to go some places in this in this podcast that we obviously need to talk about.

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Jason Mefford: Julie, has a great background and so i’m excited to get into this because we’re going to talk a little bit about her career path.

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Jason Mefford: And how you know career paths are not necessarily typical career path so an example of how you can get to where you are in your career.

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Jason Mefford: But also we’re going to jump in and talk about some other topics around Corporate Social Responsibility diversity equity and inclusion which are some hot topics right now.

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Jason Mefford: That your organization needs to be considering so you don’t end up having some risks pop up that she had don’t want to have pop up and cost you millions of dollars so with that let’s rowley episode.

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Jason Mefford: hey Julie welcome.

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Jason Mefford: i’m having me.

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Jason Mefford: Well i’m excited I know you know we usually we have the benefit of the green room beforehand that so I know a little bit about what is coming and i’m excited because it’s.

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Jason Mefford: tangentially our careers kind of crossed a little bit because I was responsible for some of the stuff around the h&s.

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Jason Mefford: CSR kind of stuff as part of my career to something i’m pretty passionate about as well, but I know you know when we were talking, you said you you you you didn’t take the the typical career path.

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Jason Mefford: And so you know a lot of people listening, they could be an internal audit or you know a lot of people do listen to that, I mean some people may not be an internal audit anyway.

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Jason Mefford: But I think it’s always interesting to kind of hear what someone’s career path is so that nobody who’s listening thinks oh my gosh i’m locked in, and this is all that I can do.

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Jason Mefford: No folks career path can take you anywhere in fact most of us end up someplace that we never would have expected ready I think that’s kind of what happened to you right Julie.

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Julie Thompson: Yet, and actually we also had a little bit of a discussion, you mentioned that when we’re all young and we’re thinking about what we’re going to do when we grow up.

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Julie Thompson: So that clearly was not on my radar However, I did end up going to the University of Kentucky where I received a bachelor’s degree in accounting.

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Julie Thompson: And this was back in yes, I will admit it 1983 and that date will only become important because of some specific requirements that fortunately for some of the younger listeners, are no longer in place.

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Julie Thompson: But when I was in college the typical career path was you graduated you got a job in an accounting firm.

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Julie Thompson: Hopefully, for most people they were looking to go into one of the at that time big eight accounting firms and, if not it’s fine if you ended up in in someplace else, but it was typically.

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Julie Thompson: Accounting to do auditing, no less, and then from there you found the perfect client and you ended up with a job there, and it was going to be in some sort of finance or accounting role and then away your for your went to rose to the top.

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Julie Thompson: Well, in my case I didn’t leave that job in public accounting when I first got out of school.

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Julie Thompson: It turned out to be good news, though, because I did land a job in lexington where my family still was so i’m still able to live with mom and dad for a period of time.

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Julie Thompson: In a company called I recall company, so I wanted to work instead of in public accounting in corporate accounting.

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Julie Thompson: And that was a wonderful education for me and I was exposed to auditing because of the external auditors and internal auditors, I still had to work with them, as I was doing some of the more mundane accounting activities.

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Julie Thompson: Well that’s when that 1983 date comes back into play in those days, once you pass the CPA exam you had to get two years of not just accounting experience but public accounting experience.

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Jason Mefford: But there were still again there are better and many people on this call either have been or will be.

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Julie Thompson: going through the same thing, but I was exposed to a lot of different industries, the hope again was that I would then jump back on that typical track find the perfect client and up there.

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Julie Thompson: And in those days, it was early days, so I basically had a blank sheet of paper.

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Julie Thompson: That by itself, I found very intriguing and it took me less than 24 hours after receiving that assignment, I was literally on the phone calling my parents saying you will not believe what I get to do.

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Julie Thompson: And, most people thought that was not, by the way, including all the managers of the department, none of them wanted this job because they had some sort of an idea of.

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Julie Thompson: having to read environmental regulations, the rest of it is pretty much history, I stayed there in that position for a little over five years.

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Julie Thompson: And I moved away from there when Ryder truck rental wanted me to go back into the accounting function, for you know, an upward movement.

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Julie Thompson: I just went off and started my own company knew I was taking a little bit of a risk, but thought you know i’m still young there’s plenty of time and if it doesn’t work out guess what i’m still a CPA.

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Julie Thompson: So I had a backup plan i’ve never had used the backup plan, but I have still kept it all these years just.

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Jason Mefford: Again, a lot of people who listened to this are you know they’re earlier in their career and they’re trying to figure out where to go, but a couple things that you said there that are that are important right you had a backup plan you were a CPA.

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Jason Mefford: You know, one of the reasons why I got an accounting degree and a CPA was the same reason right, you can always get a job as a CPA.

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Jason Mefford: So there’s always something to fall back on to you know I have that plus my father was a general contractor.

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Jason Mefford: So I grew up on job sites, I mean if I needed to I could strap on.

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Jason Mefford: That work belt again and go build houses, because I know how to do that now again just like you said, luckily.

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Jason Mefford: i’ve never had to build houses I haven’t had to go back and be a CPA right since since I kind of left the accounting area but.

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Jason Mefford: Different skill sets that will serve you or allow you to fall back on to them, even if it doesn’t work out right like you said, if it doesn’t work out I can always go back, but for you, it worked out because you’ve been doing it for over 20 years now right.

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Julie Thompson: You need to understand numbers it doesn’t matter what business you’re in it doesn’t matter if you own your own business, whether you work for someone else.

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Julie Thompson: You need to understand the numbers yeah then it like in my case because of this switch over you know she was starting an environmental, I mean that’s very technical.

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Julie Thompson: I was fortunate that writer when I moved into their environmental department, they provided a lot of training, but once I got on my own.

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Julie Thompson: me understanding numbers and being able to talk to people from a technical perspective as well that opened up doors that would never have been opened up, had I not know the numbers.

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Jason Mefford: very true.

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Jason Mefford: Well now, maybe let’s kind of transition, because there’s some there’s some three letter acronyms that I want to throw out there.

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Jason Mefford: that’ll that’ll just kind of get us talking right so again there’s there’s acronyms and they change over time, but we’re gonna.

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Jason Mefford: Right right Okay, make sure I should that’s an old term that i’m familiar with.

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Jason Mefford: Right so we’ll we’ll talk a little bit about that now there’s a new term that people are throwing out there, E s G right So what is it yes G stands for.

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Julie Thompson: E, F G is environment, social and governance.

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Jason Mefford: Okay, environmental, social and governance so that’s a newer term that a lot of people previously had been referring to as CSR I think right corporate social responsibility.

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Julie Thompson: because CSR corporate social.

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Julie Thompson: Responsibility and so you would have the social aspects, but CSR goes beyond into that governance piece as well.

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Julie Thompson: So, you would have some overlap in both the S and.

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Jason Mefford: The G OK, so the SG is really kind of pulling together the concepts from eh and S and CSR under the same umbrella.

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Jason Mefford: I grew up doing and managing you know in leading edge Jeunesse and CSR functions, but now they would be called E, F G, so if if you hear that term.

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Jason Mefford: that’s what it means now a third term that I think you know as we talked before kind of ties under this is a new one that I hadn’t heard but D I right D.

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Julie Thompson: Sure, so dei is diversity equity and inclusion.

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Julie Thompson: And some of this is not going to be new as far as what it represents, but it is kind of a new term, much of which has come out of what has been going on in this country and around the world, obviously, for years, but particularly in the last year.

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Julie Thompson: With racial injustice, but it goes beyond just racial injustice and so it’s a concept that businesses and other organizations are adopting.

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Julie Thompson: It includes physical characteristics your religion your sexual orientation or gender physical disabilities and then a new term i’ve learned recently is neuro disabilities.

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Julie Thompson: Which just as a reference to people’s brains work differently, which is actually quite an interesting Funk idea, even though it sounds very simplistic so.

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Jason Mefford: Because it’s interesting that you say that because it’s not actually I mean the word disable you know it’s like handy capable i’m not handicapped and handy capable.

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Jason Mefford: integrate more into some of these areas because, again, she says look our brains work different and so there’s certain problems or certain challenges that autistic person.

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Jason Mefford: can see from a difference, a different way of looking at it, then the rest of us can that can have a huge impact, and I mean I love that woman, because she she has been an example of that in her own life and some of the the changes in you know.

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Jason Mefford: agribusiness you know cattle cattle slaughtering other stuff like that have more humane ways of actually harvesting animals for food.

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Jason Mefford: that she came up with because again her brain works different than other people so she could solve a problem.

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Jason Mefford: that other people couldn’t solve, but if she wasn’t included in the process, we would never have that right, and a lot of these great inventions great process changes are done by the people that most of us think are a little crazy.

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Jason Mefford: So we need more crazies around.

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Julie Thompson: You we do, and I think there’s a huge opportunity and I don’t know we hadn’t planned on going off on this tangent but i’m going to head there.

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Julie Thompson: Yes, so one of the things i’ve been thinking a lot about diversity equity inclusion for many, many, many months and very specifically with respect to the eye and auditing.

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Julie Thompson: And then you take it another level, but the I in the just auditing.

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Julie Thompson: Because there’s a big difference between financial auditing and you would know this, but some of your listeners probably won’t but there’s a big difference between financial auditing.

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Julie Thompson: And ehs auditing there’s actually a number of differences, but some of the bigger things.

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Julie Thompson: Are that you tend to spend less time looking at documentation on a vhs audit and spend a lot more time with what they call boots on the ground.

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Julie Thompson: So you are walking through facilities, whether that’s a manufacturing facility, whether it’s an agribusiness whether it is.

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Julie Thompson: You know i’ve been on tankers that are holding oil and brown water and on bridges that are 200 feet above a river, I mean there’s a lot more of getting out and you’re you’re, not just in the arena with people in offices that’s you don’t spend some time there.

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Julie Thompson: So now we’ve been forced into this virtual audit environment.

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Julie Thompson: People that may fit into that dei category, but not based on their skin color or their religion, but on the disability side so either with a physical disability or potentially a neuro disability.

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Julie Thompson: So the example you gave autism, is one that I have been thinking about there are many autistic people that are just brilliant.

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Julie Thompson: And the way that they think and the things that they can they see but they may have some struggles with or not be as good as other people with their social skills, well, maybe they can be part of an audit because they don’t have to do the interviewing.

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Julie Thompson: Instead, they can be looking at the processes, the procedures and how the things are really put together and how they work and come back and give their perspective.

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Julie Thompson: The same thing with people with physical disabilities, you know I in my career and I just had this discussion, the other day with someone so i’ve been auditing now for three decades.

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Julie Thompson: In three decades, I have worked with one person that had a physical disability one person in 30 years.

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Julie Thompson: Now I think again with this virtual world, this is the time to be thinking about are there, people with physical disabilities, that we can welcome into this.

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Julie Thompson: And even start looking at the College level education of encouraging them and saying hey, this is a career, that would be open to you.

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Julie Thompson: Because they can do parts of the audit, you know virtually I think the hybrid audit virtual virtual in part in person it’s here to stay and, in some areas, it may be solely virtual five or 10 years from now, so that’s that’s where my brain has been going with.

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Jason Mefford: What you guys will know and let’s let’s go down that further too right.

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Jason Mefford: Yes, again it’s the.

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Jason Mefford: auditor’s as a group, tend to be rather homogenous right we’re all alike in a lot of ways, and like you said you know the.

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Jason Mefford: The typical career path for somebody to come into auditing you know, like you said accounting degree CPA big big for experience right so so there’s a lot of people that have had kind of some of the same same experiences, there is a lot of you know, again.

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Jason Mefford: In always it’s it’s a rather homogenous from a personality perspective as well right because it attracts people that have a certain personality and so a lot of people with that personality.

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Jason Mefford: tend to gravitate to this job, but you know, again, are we doing ourselves a disservice.

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Jason Mefford: By not trying to be more inclusive right of people with different personalities, with different backgrounds, with different you know whether they’re neuro or physical you know disabilities in a way, because, like like you said you know it’s you know.

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Jason Mefford: Just because somebody’s blind or somebody can’t hear or someone’s confined to a.

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Jason Mefford: wheelchair doesn’t mean they can’t do most of the work that’s done right.

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Jason Mefford: I mean, yes.

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Jason Mefford: If a person is bound to a wheelchair you’re not going to ask him to climb up on top of a grain silo and stick their head in.

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Jason Mefford: Right, but you could probably use a drone now.

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Jason Mefford: I mean, technically, we could write it, they could be sitting down there and fly a drone up and look down in right that’s a lot better than sticking my head and like I used to have to do.

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Jason Mefford: Especially.

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Jason Mefford: You gotta wrap.

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Jason Mefford: But, but I think that’s a great point is our, how can we be more diverse provide more equity right and equity can be pay.

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Jason Mefford: Other different things as well, and how can we be more inclusive because I mean we know there’s lots of research, the teams that are more diverse and more inclusive they perform better than other teams.

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Julie Thompson: Absolutely, and both the equity and inclusion piece I don’t want to shortchange those because they are are just as important, and probably everybody’s mind.

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Julie Thompson: So, going back to the passivity, so it isn’t just enough to have people that look different.

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Julie Thompson: or think differently on your team you do need to make efforts to make sure they are included and included doesn’t mean they’re just sitting around a table, you know, while everybody else is talking, it is meaning soliciting the ideas from them.

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Julie Thompson: And they are going to be able to contribute a perspective that the others in the room, are not willing to be able to to you know, keep them engaged.

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Julie Thompson: To talk to them do they feel like they are being included do they feel like they’re being excluded and other things and.

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Julie Thompson: I just think that we’ve got some real opportunities there, but it is important to make sure that people on both sides feel comfortable having the discussions.

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Julie Thompson: and making adjustments to improve that and then on the equity side, as you said, it’s not just about pay it’s about things like.

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Julie Thompson: You know, do do does everybody have the same opportunities.

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Julie Thompson: And maybe they don’t but maybe it’s because of something you’re not even aware of so maybe your organization offers to pay for college.

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Julie Thompson: Well, the single mom of three kids that are in grade school and you know that that woman or man may not be able to find the time to do it so.

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Julie Thompson: Is that really a benefit to them and how can you work with them are there other adjustments at work that you might be able to provide to help them take advantage of things like that so equity.

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Julie Thompson: is much bigger than I think even when I went into it, I was thinking, well, it would be pretty easy to adjust everybody’s pay right well.

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Jason Mefford: it’s far Oh, it is not.

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Jason Mefford: Know cuz I know I actually had a person on my team female she came in, with less experience so obviously you know HR said, this is the the pay level where she needs to be okay.

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Jason Mefford: put her in at that level but very quickly, she rose up and was performing much, much better than the rest of her peers, the problem was I was handcuffed by HR I was not allowed.

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Jason Mefford: To pay her what her value was at the time, because it exceeded the stupid pay requirements that HR had right and that’s an example of equity, you know from the pay side.

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Jason Mefford: And every everybody who is who’s managing people and doing stuff.

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Jason Mefford: You know, it is a fact Okay, you can argue all you want, but it is a fact that women earn less than men and minority groups earn less than.

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Jason Mefford: whites okay it’s just a fact, and that is something that we need to fix because equal work should be equal pay, so if that’s not what’s happening in your group i’m preaching a little bit because it does piss me off.

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Jason Mefford: If it’s not that way in your organization try to get that fixed.

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Jason Mefford: But, but I love what you said to about there’s other parts of equity and and what we’ve tried to do for so long is treat everyone exactly the same.

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Jason Mefford: But we are not all exactly the same, and so again, maybe it’s you know again equitable, for you know hey if somebody can do the work that everybody else does in 30 hours that normal.

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Jason Mefford: Normally would take 40 hours wouldn’t it be okay to just only make them work 40 or 30 hours but Pam for the 40.

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Jason Mefford: or like you said if you’ve got the single parent with little kids at home.

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Jason Mefford: wouldn’t it be equitable to allow them to have a flexible schedule, yes, right and be compassionate and loving towards that person and allow them to.

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Jason Mefford: Take care of their responsibilities and again everybody’s different right so Oh, we offer great benefits but are those benefits good benefits for everybody.

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Jason Mefford: Or is kind of the cafeteria plan you know, like you can pick this and pick that some people would just rather have the cash.

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Jason Mefford: and other people would prefer to have the benefits So hopefully some of these discussions will get organizations to finally pull their head out.

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Jason Mefford: And maybe offer more more of a menu of benefits for people that is more equitable for each person and not necessarily the same across the whole thing yeah all right i’m off my soapbox let’s go back let’s talk.

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Julie Thompson: I enjoyed that we need people on their soapboxes from time to time so.

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Jason Mefford: Good well because it is, I think it’s you know and as we talked before to some people might kind of poo poo this and say all this is just you know, the latest fad thing it’ll go away.

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Jason Mefford: it’s not going away.

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Jason Mefford: And if you don’t address it, it will cost your company millions.

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Jason Mefford: and millions of dollars Okay, so this is a real risk that needs to be addressed right, this is, and this is what one of the reasons why we’re talking about it today because I don’t know that enough people actually are.

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Julie Thompson: Yes, no I agree it is most definitely a risk, I mean you’ve got your first of all you’ve got the risk that if you are not addressing it within your organization.

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Julie Thompson: People are aware of these issues where are you going to get the ones to work for you.

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Julie Thompson: So you’re going to lose the best talent, because they’re going to go to the organizations that are addressing this.

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Julie Thompson: And then, secondly, if you don’t have the the right work environment, you will find yourself at the wrong end of a lawsuit now whether.

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Julie Thompson: you’re successful or the other party is successful, think of that the time the money, the energy that is spent on that that impact should be spent on activities that actually make money we’re auditing so.

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Jason Mefford: Give me out of there’s more money.

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Jason Mefford: that’s right, but I think it’s interesting, so you know, again, I mean we kind of talked about yesterday and and the whole you know the older CSR.

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Jason Mefford: And I know it, you know again we’re old enough that we remember this to.

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Jason Mefford: Where people would say oh that’s poo poo kind of stuff as well right, this will go away environmental is not that big of a deal in fact I used to work for a guy and.

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Jason Mefford: And the numbers okay in the 1930s right for him to do this because we didn’t know.

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Jason Mefford: But you know, he said at one point it’s like you know why I built all my factories next to the rivers, so I could dump all my crap in them right because that’s just what everybody did.

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Jason Mefford: Back in the 20s and 30s now, then we realized it wasn’t Okay, but a lot of people then thought well we can’t afford to do this right.

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Jason Mefford: Both from a CSR eh and S standpoint, but what did we learn it actually costs last in the long run to do it right.

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Jason Mefford: Then, then, to do it, what we think is cheap and then have to pay afterwards right and again you spent decades in this in this area, so is that is that right, am I thinking about this right.

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Julie Thompson: You are thinking about it absolutely correctly and I think first of all, over time, I think some costs have.

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Julie Thompson: come down as demand, just as you would expect, typical supply and demand as there’s greater demand, then the costs come down and some of those have been a little bit easier on the decision making.

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Julie Thompson: But it goes beyond just your pure the cost going in now there’s a big emphasis on taking a look at your suppliers your customers are looking at you as well.

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Julie Thompson: So if you go back to the the suppliers, do you want to be doing business with someone who is not doing the right thing from an environmental, health, safety, social diverse, I mean you throw them all of that in there.

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Julie Thompson: If you are a supplier to other businesses, you can expect, for your customers to be looking at you, and whether.

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Julie Thompson: you like it or not, you should be looking at your suppliers for those same traits as well to be doing the right thing in all of those areas.

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Julie Thompson: Particularly as the next generation is coming up, they are very aware of these issues from you know they’re worried about, and they should be.

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Julie Thompson: about what kind of world that we are leaving them, and is it too late, they don’t think it’s too late, I don’t think it’s too late, I hope, we’re all right.

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Julie Thompson: But it’s going to be too late, if we don’t you know, make the right efforts, but those are the customers of the future, those are going to be the suppliers of the future, they are far more knowledgeable than I will ever be.

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Julie Thompson: On this, they are making much more sophisticated decisions in their not only their their buying choices, but their career choices.

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Julie Thompson: So you will lose the top talent if you’re not doing the right things, because they are asking the questions when they’re interviewing for a job and the interviews don’t last very long, if you don’t have the right answers because that’s not who they want to work for so it will cost you.

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Jason Mefford: Well, and it’s interesting because really all of these all of these acronyms that we’ve been thrown out here today right is a lot of them started off being regulatory driven Okay, you know when the EPA was set up some of the different you know.

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Jason Mefford: kind of came from the government of saying look companies, you know you’re you’re hurting your employees your employees are dying you’re polluting the rivers, whatever right.

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Jason Mefford: So we’re going to legislate or regulate, you know how you do business, and so there there’s always been I mean for a long time that regulatory pressure.

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Jason Mefford: To do the right thing you know if we don’t if we’re bad actors long enough, then the laws change and you can’t do that anymore.

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Jason Mefford: what’s interesting now, we still have that regulatory pressure, but just like you said now we’re starting to have some demand driven stuff from.

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Jason Mefford: Our employees from our customers from our suppliers that they’re also requesting, and I think they’re probably moving faster.

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Jason Mefford: than the regulations will too, and that at the end of the day, again, you can ignore this go ahead and ignore it, if you want to.

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Jason Mefford: But a lot of people aren’t going to want to work for you or with you or buy from you going forward and there’s enough, you know watch groups NGO non governmental organizations out there.

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Jason Mefford: That are blowing the whistle on on some of these things so don’t think you can hide, because in the day of the Internet and everything else everything eventually becomes made public, one way or the other.

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Julie Thompson: Absolutely absolutely and I do well i’m thinking about it on the east side you know we tended to talk about you know environment.

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Julie Thompson: Social and then the government side for those that aren’t really interested in a career say to be out walking around, so it is because some people might might not want to walk across that bridge that’s 200 feet over a.

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Jason Mefford: rush I love doing that so.

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Julie Thompson: Well, I do i’m scared of heights and my client didn’t tell me beforehand, but that was going to be part of the job I managed to get through it, but I think I held my breath and.

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Julie Thompson: walking cross and watching the railing but anyway, with SG one of the big things is there is an effort, not just an effort we’re past never I mean it’s it’s an ongoing effort would be a better way to put it.

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Julie Thompson: Where we’re trying to put numbers to these things so we’re quantifying them and there’s a number of organizations, I mean ISIS is working on something gra global reporting initiative which has historically dealt with environmental and you know.

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Julie Thompson: Social kinds of things fall under like their umbrella.

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Julie Thompson: So if you’ve got an accounting degree you’re whether you’re interested in auditing or not you very well could find yourself in a job when you are looking at these things and trying to quantify them.

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Julie Thompson: You will also see ESP is become very big on Wall Street some of the big investment firms are putting out their own.

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Julie Thompson: models for how do you evaluate yesterday you know what are the specific components How did we measure you know, on a scale of something.

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Julie Thompson: Whether they were good or bad, and then, how should that impact your investing decisions as either on an individual investor or a much larger and institutional investor.

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Julie Thompson: What is happening right now is those are not all in alignment So if you look at something that fidelity puts out versus you know somebody else.

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Julie Thompson: State street or blackstone black rock I mean they’re all looking at this, they all have their different models and which does make it difficult to say okay well.

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Julie Thompson: This investment firm says this and this one says that and how do they compare it’s almost impossible.

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Julie Thompson: But we’re heading in a direction where, at some point that’s probably going to come somewhat closer together, at least, for you know the public, but this is definitely going to be a big area.

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Julie Thompson: They are hiring people all over the world at high positions within these companies to be looking at SG yeah So this is the wave.

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Julie Thompson: maturing, it is not going to go away.

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Julie Thompson: anytime soon, but there are career opportunities all over the place, have you been in the financial or auditing arena, in my opinion.

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Jason Mefford: Well, and to kind of wrap this up, you know from from where we even started right your career was not necessarily a typical career it kind of wound you around you found this space you fell in love with it it’s something that.

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Jason Mefford: You know, obviously, everybody that’s listening, you can see that julie’s passionate about some of this stuff right.

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Jason Mefford: And and it’s it’s it’s been a great career for you, you know as well, and so you know same thing, some of the people that are listening right now.

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Jason Mefford: hey if some of these things that we’ve been talking about diversity equity inclusion SG you know some of this stuff if that resonates with you there are lots of jobs in these areas and, like you said, people are trying to ramp up people are trying to ask the questions I went to a.

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Jason Mefford: It was a conference about two or three years ago, you know of even trying to look at how do we.

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Jason Mefford: How, how do we hold corporations accountable from something other than a p&l, how do we create like a.

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Jason Mefford: At the time, CS our accountability statement to really show is this a company that is a sock on society or somebody who actually make society better off in totality right, you might be making a lot of money.

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Jason Mefford: But if you’re polluting and you’re hurting and you’re doing some of these other things that like you said we’re trying to figure out how to quantify some of it.

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Jason Mefford: Once we figure out how to quantify it and we figure out who the net net positive people are on this worth on this earth, and who are the net negative.

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Jason Mefford: You hope your company’s not one of those net negatives, because I can’t imagine this going to be very good for you going forward so lots of jobs in the area as well, so.

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Julie Thompson: Absolutely, and you never know where you’re going to end up I don’t know if I can say anything that is more true with respect me.

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Julie Thompson: I certainly had no idea definitely not as a youngster because I didn’t even know such a thing existed, but even in college, I thought I was going to be on that traditional path.

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Jason Mefford: So it’s it’s that’s very, very true, and so I think it’s you know a good good reminder at the end to to let people know again if you’re thinking about your career.

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Jason Mefford: don’t worry too much about it plan for it, try to go where you want to go but realize there’s going to be twists and turns.

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Jason Mefford: All along the way, and it’s Okay, and sometimes you just have to jump and do it.

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Jason Mefford: But you know, like Julie was talking about, you know, have a backup plan, just in case said, if it doesn’t work out, but more times than not it works out exactly the way you’re hoping to so anyway well it’s been great talking to you Julie, thank you and.

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Julie Thompson: Likewise, thank you, I enjoyed it.

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Jason Mefford: I enjoyed it too got me up on my soapbox for a little bit now i’m gonna get back down.

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Jason Mefford: And we’ll get back, but.

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Jason Mefford: hey thanks for coming on i’m sure we’ll we’ll probably have some other things we needed to talk about in the future too, so you might have to be back on a future episode as well.

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Julie Thompson: I would be happy to thanks again have a great day.

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Jason Mefford: thanks you too.

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Getting a Good Night Sleep

One thing that most of us never get enough of is… SLEEP!

Sleep is very important to our health and wellbeing, but why are we not getting enough of it?

In today’s episode we discuss the importance of sleep and how we can sleep better and longer.

So grab your pillow and blanket and listen in at: http://www.jasonmefford.com/fireandearthpodcast/

Transcript

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Jason Mefford: Welcome to another episode of the fire and earth podcast i’m your co host Jason medford.

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Kathy Gruver: And I am Kathy grew her, and we are so excited to be here today, it is morning when we’re recording this and we were talking before we got on the air about sleep and good sleep and sleepiness and how some days you just wake up in here.

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Kathy Gruver: And you wish, you could go back to bed sometimes you can sometimes you can’t so we thought we’d talk about good sleep today and how that affects you and how you can improve your sleep hygiene, to get through the night easier.

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Jason Mefford: Well, this is, this is one of those important things right there’s there’s some simple things for health, that if people do like you know drink more water.

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Jason Mefford: that’s a pretty simple thing, but, most people don’t drink enough water right and sleep is one of those things too, I mean.

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Jason Mefford: Most of us don’t get enough or good enough sleep when we’re when we’re there right because a lot of times there’s.

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Jason Mefford: there’s the tossing and turning and the everything else are getting up and going back and and it ends up really kind of messing with your sleep cycle.

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Jason Mefford: And because of that, you know we wake up and we’re exhausted right, and so you start the day tired.

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Jason Mefford: And it’s hard and and the other thing too, you know there’s there’s a lot of research that has been done to that a lot of our a lot of our physical ailments actually is a result of not sleeping well, so we want to have a good night’s rest So how do we do that Cathy.

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Kathy Gruver: Oh, I thought you know.

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Jason Mefford: Cheese this is gonna be this is gonna be a log or a short episode now right I.

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Kathy Gruver: actually have a chapter in.

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Kathy Gruver: My book, so I do know.

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Jason Mefford: I knew, you did I knew yes.

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Kathy Gruver: So the first thing is everybody always asked me what kind of budget I get what could appeal, would you recommend I don’t know, nobody can tell you that.

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Jason Mefford: Oh interesting that’s, the first question, people are usually asking you.

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Kathy Gruver: That is the first we’re talking about sleep that’s, the first thing they say I don’t like my pillow I can’t help you.

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Kathy Gruver: You have to find what works for you go to the store lay on the beds if they have like a three month trial, and you can send it back do that.

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Kathy Gruver: There is no one solution for everybody and I don’t know anybody that’s like 100% happy with the first bed they plop down on you know whether it’s the pillow top or the thing that molds to your body or it moves up and down in the middle of the night I don’t It really is such a customer.

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Jason Mefford: That could be a problem with your sleep right if you’re moving a.

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Jason Mefford: Little the night.

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Kathy Gruver: Some that detect your snoring and then adjust the position like oh yeah no that would not work for me.

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Kathy Gruver: But for somebody else it might it’s asleep number I don’t know what it is, so you have to find what works for you, and this is with so much of like complementary alternative medicine and natural health.

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Kathy Gruver: It does sort of become an experiment, you have to be your best health detective and figure out what works best for you so before all of you, email and go this was great what bed, should I get we can’t tell you so let’s just get that off the table right now.

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Jason Mefford: it’s different for each person right.

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Jason Mefford: Some some people like a firmer pillow than others right.

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Jason Mefford: Like like a contour because I like to sleep on my side, so I have kind of a contoured pillow it works for me you got to find out what works for you and a lot of times that is trial and error right yeah.

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Jason Mefford: Absolutely, but, but I think you know to on the on the bed, you know one thing that i’ve always been taught.

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Jason Mefford: That I that I live is don’t skimp on whatever comes between you and the ground so i’ve spent a lot of money on my couch right because that’s a place where you end up spending time so I don’t have a cheap couch that hurts my back I wear good shoes.

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Jason Mefford: Right I invest in shoes that fit me that that that work for me and I don’t mind spending a lot of money on shoes that are actually from a comfort perspective, you know from a fashion perspective i’m not going to spend 1000 bucks on a pair of shoes that hurt my feet and hurt my back.

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Jason Mefford: At but but I don’t mind spending on something that works for me and your bed is the same thing right so again, I mean i’ve spent a lot of money on beds.

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Jason Mefford: Over the years, because, again, if you if you figure you’re spending at least six to eight hours a day on that bad you want to make sure that you’ve got a good quality bed, one that works for you, you know there’s so there’s so many people that i’ve that i’ve seen in fact.

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Jason Mefford: A family member, you know you go over to family remembering to stay in their guest bedroom.

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Jason Mefford: And sometimes those are like the worst mattresses right it’s like a 30 year old mattress for this huge hole in the middle of it, you know so.

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Jason Mefford: Bad bad so you’re like.

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Jason Mefford: You know you’re you’re down in the.

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Jason Mefford: middle well you you can’t help a role to the middle because it rolls up to the middle where the big hole is right.

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Jason Mefford: And so it’s not a surprise when you wake up in the morning and your back is hurting because the bed hasn’t been supporting you so yeah if your beds 30 years old, you probably want to get a new bed.

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Jason Mefford: yeah okay.

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Kathy Gruver: Please, please get a new bed, and you know what i’m still doing massage and people talk to me about sleep and sleep positions and they wake up feeling sore they wake up with aches and pains.

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Kathy Gruver: it’s probably the mattress so adjust what works for you and here’s one of the hardest things though you meet a new person you fall in love you move in together Oh, the bed.

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Kathy Gruver: um because, like you said so many people have different ideas of what feels good to them, so the bed compatibility thing I swear to God that’s what match COM should do if they should look at.

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Kathy Gruver: They shouldn’t get your sleep number one.

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Kathy Gruver: Look at astrology and how you like your bed that those are the two things that report No Okay, so we got the bed covered so let’s just, and this is so.

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Kathy Gruver: This is so common stuff but let’s go over to get is actually sleep hygiene in the bedroom make sure it’s dark.

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Kathy Gruver: Make sure it’s quiet, make sure you don’t have pets jumping all over you and that’s one of the problems that I face now is because I we sleep in a loft.

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Kathy Gruver: The cat has full access to the House full access to the bed there’s no way to keep them out so in the middle of the night he’s jumping on us and each crunch and his food he’s playing with my face and he’s you know.

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Kathy Gruver: it’s it’s disturbing So if you can, and I know you love we love our pets.

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Kathy Gruver: try not to have them climbing all over you, you know i’ve had clients, where the dog takes up most of the bed and they’re shoved in a corner, because they don’t want to move the dog.

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Kathy Gruver: The dog doesn’t have to go to work tomorrow, I know you love your pet get the dog out of the bed.

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Kathy Gruver: or they’re severely allergic and they’re sleeping with a cat on their face it’s like come on like let’s let’s use your head on this so.

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Kathy Gruver: dark quiet get the pets out get the kids out if you can, if you need a white noise machine to cancel out the trash truck or the kids down the street do that.

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Kathy Gruver: don’t do anything crazy exciting upsetting that last half hour before you go to sleep that last half hour is when we should be winding down that’s when our brain starts to process, what are we going to throw away, what are we going to prune into memories.

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Kathy Gruver: You know don’t read your computer or your tablet in bed that’s really that blue light is really bad for you, you know there’s just some sort of logical stuff to help us make sure we’re getting sleep so that we’re more productive, the next day.

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Jason Mefford: Well, in on a couple of those you know again simple things right, I mean as humans usually, when the sun goes down for us biologically it means it’s time to sleep so.

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Jason Mefford: You know I know there’s people with crazy work schedule, some people work at night.

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Jason Mefford: So whatever you can do, though, to try to have your your your wherever you’re sleeping darker right is going to help you because your body.

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Jason Mefford: Again, whether it’s really light outside or not it’s going to see that it’s dark around you, which means you should be going to sleep The other thing too is you know kind of how to say this the right way, but it’s like make make where you sleep a little sanctuary.

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Jason Mefford: For ya so you know I have never been one to read in bed to watch TV in bed I don’t do that right so there’s no TV in my bedroom I don’t sleep I don’t read in bed if i’m if I can’t sleep i’m going to get up.

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Jason Mefford: and go read in the living room right and then come back to bed.

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Jason Mefford: But the reason for that there’s actually a little you know it’s a subconscious thing to write, is that we program ourselves, and so, if you’re if you’re used to getting in your bed and watching TV.

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Jason Mefford: Or you are working now all of a sudden your body’s like well, am I supposed to go to sleep or am I supposed to be working right and and we actually train ourselves that way too so.

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Jason Mefford: You know, the more you do other activities like that in your bed, the harder it’s going to be for you to sleep as well, so.

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Kathy Gruver: yeah absolutely that’s so true, and we do, we are programmed creatures programmable creatures, so no that’s a great point not you know, keeping bed for bed and fully around.

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Kathy Gruver: that’ll be a separate show.

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Kathy Gruver: Maybe not.

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Kathy Gruver: RON unscripted so you know, there we go so we’ve got the little he next to it, we can talk.

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Jason Mefford: You want to right.

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Kathy Gruver: Exactly so let’s talk Okay, so your heart your your sleep hygiene is great your bed is phenomenal you’re still having trouble.

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Kathy Gruver: there’s a couple supplements that can help valerian root is an herb it’s stinky and it tastes terrible but it’s really going to help you sleep.

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Kathy Gruver: Maybe cam a meal tea something to help you wind down and turn things off before you go to sleep.

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Kathy Gruver: If you need more than that there are amazing homeopathic that help with sleep there’s one called moon drops that I really, really like they look like teeny little communion wafers they’re so cute.

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Kathy Gruver: But they melt and literally they knock you out, I mean it was so good, and then there’s tryptophan and five http and melatonin, which is a natural hormone the body produces anyway.

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Kathy Gruver: Those are things that you can start to experiment with it do not take trip dependent tryptophan or five http if you’re on an ssri for depression.

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Kathy Gruver: That can cause some chemical problems in the brain you don’t want to do that, and those are sort of the last resort, and then the last last resort, is prescription.

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Kathy Gruver: stuff and you know if you’re getting on an overnight flight and you need to pop an ambien do that make sure you don’t sleep walk or you know run around the plane nude the middle of the night and not know it could be a thing.

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Jason Mefford: it’s a thing can be a thing I.

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Kathy Gruver: But you know those things are really addictive if you’re relying on chemicals to sleep at.

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Kathy Gruver: Some point your body goes oh cool I don’t even have to do this anymore, and then it’s relying on those chemicals so just be careful, if you need to turn to that kind of medication, it can not be great for you.

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Jason Mefford: Well, and let’s that’s that’s similar to the bed that we just talked about to write some of these things work well for people i’ve tried to take melatonin before it doesn’t really do anything for me.

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Jason Mefford: yeah so you know i’ve i’ve experimented with it, it doesn’t work for me so do some Google searches, you know because, again, I mean we you know.

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Jason Mefford: Find out for yourself what you think and what you feel like is going to work for you try it out if it doesn’t work move on to something else right.

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Jason Mefford: Another thing to you know yeah there’s all the supplements moving up to pharmaceuticals, but you can also we talked about it being habit based right, so we can train ourselves, in fact.

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Jason Mefford: I have a little evening ritual when I get in my bed right, and so you can even do some things like that we’ll talk more about the 30 Minutes because I think we want to hit more on that too, because that really is an important.

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Jason Mefford: Important time but, for example, there you know when I get into bed.

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Jason Mefford: I say certain things to myself, I lay in a certain position and I have a routine in what I do right so it’s like I.

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Jason Mefford: I do a couple of different movements, I say some things to myself, in fact, the one of the things that I say to myself, as I turn over into this one position is I fall asleep quickly I fall asleep quickly.

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Jason Mefford: I fall asleep quickly right.

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Jason Mefford: And so I turn over I slow down my brain waves I start saying that to myself.

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Jason Mefford: that’s A little self hypnosis see.

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Jason Mefford: right in what we’re doing and so we’re starting to or i’m still i’m programming my brain and my body hey when I turn over into this position and I start saying I fall asleep quickly, I do in like a minute or two.

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Jason Mefford: right because i’ve trained my my body to be able to do that and allow my brain to shut off so so again if it works for you try it out, you know it’s it’s one of those things to where it’s like with everything don’t do a one day and go chasing it still took me 25.

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Jason Mefford: right to be able to do it, but that’s one thing that works.

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Jason Mefford: works well for me.

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Kathy Gruver: I love that and I love that you bring that up because when we talk about affirmations when I teach people affirmations if you want to make them, really, really potent.

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Kathy Gruver: Do it in that last half hour before you go to sleep that’s the time your brain is the most suggestible the most susceptible to things, this is why, having a fight with your spouse watching a disturbing film.

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Kathy Gruver: Reading the news all that stuff is really bad for you that last half an hour it’s the time to turn things down, not to turn things up, so my bedtime ritual is I climb the ladder tick tick tick tick.

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Jason Mefford: Nice and so it’ll actually silence your phone or put it on do not disturb a half an hour before you go to bed.

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Jason Mefford: Oh okay so so the half an hour is important if you’re still on the device using blue light glasses right like my reading glasses, have the blue light stuff in it, so that that helps you to settle down because, again, the bright light from the.

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Jason Mefford: From the electronic devices mimics light and so again, it makes you feel like it’s not really time to go to bed because you’ve just been looking at the sun, for the last 30 minutes right okay so.

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Jason Mefford: So so there’s that but, again, you know it’s it’s those things that you do 30 minutes before you go to bed, that is what you are most suggestible about when you go to bed yeah so it’s not a surprise again if you if you watch a scary movie.

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Jason Mefford: chances are you might have some nightmares because you know if you if you finish that movie you go right to bed.

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Jason Mefford: Those things are going to be playing out in your mind so again i’m not telling you don’t watch scary movies, if you like, it fine yeah but do something else a half an hour to hour before you go to bed that’s going to not make you more susceptible to having nightmares.

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Kathy Gruver: yep yep yep and let me throw something on top of that, that people think is a good way to fall asleep scalding hot bath jump in the jacuzzi or the hot tub.

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Kathy Gruver: And to it relaxes your muscles, which is great except, then you get into bed, and then your muscles cool down.

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Kathy Gruver: So that your body has time to let it cool down, you can still move before you jump into bed, I used to do I would get out of a scolding bath and go straight to sleep, because if you tires you out.

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Kathy Gruver: And I would wake up with a headache I would wake up feeling awful my neck would hurt my shoulder will be wonky so you know don’t jump out of the water straight into a bed.

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Jason Mefford: Well, and one thing to that you mentioned, you know because I know a lot of a lot of people do struggle with this so wake up at two o’clock in the morning.

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Jason Mefford: With that to do list in their mind right so so one of the things you can do to in the 30 minutes is hey if there’s something you haven’t gotten done yet.

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Jason Mefford: Just do it and take care of it, so your brain doesn’t have to worry about it right so that’s like you were saying with noon, or whatever you’re using it’s.

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Jason Mefford: If, at the end of the day, you haven’t done everything that you needed to just take care of it.

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Jason Mefford: And then just allow yourself to sleep and realize that all take care of whatever else needs to be done.

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Jason Mefford: Tomorrow yeah I can allow myself this time to go to sleep in fact doing that will make it make you much more productive tomorrow, whenever you’ve got to deal with whatever you’ve got to deal with.

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Kathy Gruver: yep let’s say this do it if it’s something that is easy to do if it’s.

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Jason Mefford: I need to start from scratch and do my taxes.

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Jason Mefford: don’t start your taxes right good.

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Kathy Gruver: I need to pay the mortgage I need to call my mother in law, I need to and then put it away.

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Kathy Gruver: you’ve written it down it’s out of your brain tell yourself hey look, you know I appreciate you going through the to do list again we’ve written it down.

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Kathy Gruver: and the rest of us have to sleep, so if you can just quiet that down and trust that i’m going to do this first thing tomorrow and then normally I have that start to have that conversation with myself but it’s how I get two sentences in i’m out.

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Kathy Gruver: go down and frickin check to see if you paid the mortgage if it’s going to keep you up all night.

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Kathy Gruver: it’s weird to me I just i’m just so used to having them, so I woke up in the other night, and I only felt three of the four rings that was like.

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Kathy Gruver: And it at the end of the day, I put them back on and I thought, oh no I put them on as I was walking to the car.

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Kathy Gruver: you’re not going to sleep, you need to go to your office, so I got up in the middle and I threw on sweatpants and a sweater I drove the six minutes to my office.

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Kathy Gruver: Sure enough in the cup there was the fourth ring I put it on I went huh I went home and went back to sleep I just fell right back to sleep.

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Kathy Gruver: Again don’t start the taxes in the middle of the night, but if it’s something that is going to keep you up and it’s fixable you don’t have to lay there and suffer, you know you have permission to get up if you need to.

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Jason Mefford: And in the morning it’ll be there for you, but it allows you to release it just take care of it because, like you said, if you if you notice that you’re in termination.

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Jason Mefford: You got to take care of it because you’re going to sit there ruminating, and that is not going to let you go back to sleep.

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Jason Mefford: No just take care of it.

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Jason Mefford: Yes, I think I think we knew what we were talking about on this one, even though.

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Jason Mefford: I know I got half a brain you got more than half a brain together we’re we’re just fine right.

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Kathy Gruver: Go have a great night sleep, if you have problems, you know really just sit down and think about some of the stuff that we suggested.

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Kathy Gruver: there’s, so much so much more out there, like I said I actually mentioned it, and two of my books, I talked about sleep and and going to sleep, so you picked us up to i’m Kathy Gruber, I can be reached at Kathy Gruber calm.

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Jason Mefford: And i’m Jason method, I can be reached at Jason method calm so tonight have a great sleep and we’ll catch you on the next fire and earth podcast see ya.

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VIP There is a lot of power in music.

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If music can have such a powerful influence on us subconsciously, what if we could use music to our advantage?

Did you know you can do that?

Every day I listen to a music playlist to help me wake up, get me pumped up to start my work day, and another to help me relax and fall asleep at night.

You can use music to manage your emotional state, which is one reason why I incorporate music into so much of what I do.

This week is a fun Jamming with Jason podcast episode “The Power of Music with Joseph Young.” Not only do I get to talk about music (which I love), and I also connect with a childhood friend who is an award winning musician, Joseph L. Young.

Joseph’s exquisite melodies are brought forth with interweaving interplay between instruments and a sense of deep passion and feeling. His compositions are truly world-fusion music, grounded in the past, created for today’s listeners and reflecting a heart-touching spirituality. The music is often soft and gentle, with light rhythm, perfect for relaxation, healing, slow exercise or touch therapies. But the melodies and arrangements are also designed for active listening and contain developments that reward, engage and entertain upon close study. His songs have been hailed as healing, inspiring and beautifully haunting, transporting the listener on a personal journey to other worlds.

As a versatile and gifted multi-instrumentalist, he combines the ancient with the contemporary to create music which reaches beyond the boundaries typically expected in the new age and world music genres.

One of his goals is to make “music without boundaries” which offers a universal sound that everyone can enjoy. Another of his goals, he says, “is to help people work through their emotions, releasing the negative as they grow and change, and serving as a catalyst to help with their transformation.”

You can see why I like Joseph and his music so much.

Whatever you do, check out Joseph’s music on Apple, Pandora, Spotify, pretty much anywhere you can listen to music and his website: https://josephlyoung.com/

When you do, you will see the power music can have on your emotions, mindfulness, and help you transform you life.

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E184: The Power of Music with Joseph Young

This is a fun #jammingwithjason #podcast episode because I not only get to talk about music (which I love), but I also get to connect with a childhood friend who is an award winning musician, Joseph L. Young.

From just listening to music you enjoy, to playing an instrument, music can provide many psychological benefits such as reducing stress or getting into your “flow” state.

Music provides many outlets that can enrich one’s life. Listen in to learn more about the many positive effects that music can bring to you!

Joseph’s exquisite melodies are brought forth with interweaving interplay between instruments and a sense of deep passion and feeling. His compositions are truly world-fusion music, grounded in the past, created for today’s listeners and reflecting a heart-touching spirituality. The music is often soft and gentle, with light rhythm, perfect for relaxation, healing, slow exercise or touch therapies. But the melodies and arrangements are also designed for active listening and contain developments that reward, engage and entertain upon close study. His songs have been hailed as healing, inspiring and beautifully haunting, transporting the listener on a personal journey to other worlds.

As a versatile and gifted multi-instrumentalist, he combines the ancient with the contemporary to create music which reaches beyond the boundaries typically expected in the new age and world music genres.

One of his goals is to make “music without boundaries” which offers a universal sound that everyone can enjoy. Another of his goals, he says, “is to help people work through their emotions, releasing the negative as they grow and change, and serving as a catalyst to help with their transformation.”

You can see why I love Joseph and his music so much.

Whatever you do, check out Joseph’s music on Apple, Pandora, Spotify, pretty much anywhere you can listen to music and his website: https://josephlyoung.com/ When you do, you will see the power music can have on your emotions, mindfulness, and help you transform you life.

Here’s a sampling of some of Joseph’s music I really enjoy.

Sampling from Joseph’s Ethereum album
Sampling from Joseph’s Every Moment album

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Transcript

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Jason Mefford: Welcome to another episode of jamming with Jason hey today, I am actually talking with a childhood friend and we’re going to be talking about the power of music.

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Jason Mefford: And so i’m going to introduce Joseph l young here to you in just a minute, but I wanted to start off with.

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Jason Mefford: Some information that’s off his website and you’ll see very quickly, why I wanted to talk to him today.

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Jason Mefford: He is not only an award winning musician but he is fabulous at what he does, but I love what he says about his goals.

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Jason Mefford: That he wants to create music without boundaries which offers a universal sound that everyone can enjoy.

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Jason Mefford: And also that he wants to help people work through their emotions releasing the negative as they grow and change and serve as a catalyst.

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Jason Mefford: To help people with their transformation so again everybody who’s been listening, for a long time, you know i’m all about the same things too so i’m excited to have my friend, Joseph young with me and let’s roll that episode.

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Jason Mefford: Alright man.

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Jason Mefford: It is good to be back with you, I think we won’t we won’t embarrass both of ourselves by saying how long ago, since we.

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Jason Mefford: Excuse me, since we first met each other but.

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Joseph Young: boy years.

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Jason Mefford: Just a couple of years right we’ve got it we’ve got a little more Gray hair and a little you’ve still got the same amount of here i’ve got a little less here.

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Jason Mefford: From when we were little, but you know when I when I was thinking about wanting to do an episode about music and I just knew that I needed to talk to you and so.

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Jason Mefford: You know so so let me get to introduce yourself a little bit to people, let people know because you are you’re an award.

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Jason Mefford: winning musician you’ve been around for a long time, you make fabulous stuff and we’ll get into talking a little bit about that too, probably, but just give people a little bit of a background on who you are so they kind of know who we’re talking to today.

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Joseph Young: Okay well Joseph is Jason said i’m currently living in Boise Idaho grew up in Idaho.

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Joseph Young: And i’ve been a musician since I was 12 I guess.

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Joseph Young: I say saxophone was my first instrument, it was first instrument I stuck with I think many of his plate recorder, and like for to her fifth.

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Jason Mefford: grade I remember that yeah.

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Jason Mefford: We were in sixth grade band together.

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Joseph Young: yeah and then I played guitar for a year and I couldn’t I actually had to ask my mother this because I couldn’t remember how I decided to start playing saxophone which it being a main instrument you’d think i’d remember that.

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Joseph Young: And she simply told me that I came home one day and said i’m done with guitar saxophone is my thing.

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Joseph Young: And you know my parents are incredible wonderful and supportive and so they went Okay, they got me a saxophone got me enrolled in band, and that was that part of it was history.

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Joseph Young: I started writing music I got my first keyboard child of the 80s synthesis started writing music okay i’m sorry i’m going to date us a little bit here.

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Joseph Young: Some of my original compositions I figured out I could.

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Joseph Young: write music on my Commodore 128 you can program the chip.

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Joseph Young: And I was fascinated with the game, music and so that was, like some of my early stuff and then I got a real the room my dad had a real real to recorder that I started recording stuff on.

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Joseph Young: which became a vehicle for me for a lot of my new age instrumental albums most of them are all flute based although there’s saxophone on all of them a little bit, and then I have one entirely new age saxophone album, which is a strange concept for a lot of people but hey.

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Jason Mefford: Well, you know yeah, and I mean you know you think about because yeah you fit into that new age genre.

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Jason Mefford: I think right but, but one of the things that I love about your music too is there’s a lot of different stuff to it right so like you said it might be.

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Jason Mefford: It might be primarily flute or saxophone based but there’s other stuff in there there’s the keyboards there’s there’s words there’s other sounds.

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Jason Mefford: You know there’s there’s other things that go to it to where it’s almost like a.

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Jason Mefford: it’s it’s a bringing together of kind of everything, for me, because it’s it’s almost like you’re you’re listening to a native American flute and then there’s some sounds in there that are almost like.

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Jason Mefford: science fiction spacey kind of stuff that’s that goes in there as well, and i’m sure again that’s that’s all on purpose.

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Jason Mefford: As well as your yes you’re kind of creating the music and doing that, but just love how there’s so many different instruments in sounds with your music as well.

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Joseph Young: So, two of my early influences that I think really shaped my.

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Joseph Young: You know how and why and how I write my music was van jealous and Mannheim steamroller and both of those chip Davis, who is who is Mannheim steamroller.

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Joseph Young: chip Davis and Ben jealous both do exactly you said they use a lot of sounds they use a lot of different things together there’s many layers and early on, I just really got a liking to putting things together, that you don’t always hear together every day.

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Jason Mefford: yeah well and it’s it’s you know I like to listen to your music i’ve been i’ve been doing it, since we kind of.

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Jason Mefford: reconnected on Facebook, a few years ago and saw what you’re actually doing i’ve been listening to some of it in.

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Jason Mefford: And because I know for me music plays an important role in my life, which obviously it does for you, because you do this professionally right, but just the power that music can actually have on us as humans as well right.

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Jason Mefford: So maybe you know kind of talk a little to that if we can about you know how music helps us emotionally, and you talk about you know, trying to help release the negative and transform us how does, how does music actually do that for us.

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Joseph Young: um, I think, for me, I think, for many teenagers I think kids teenagers, especially because you know you have all the hormones things going on junior high high school there’s so much stuff that goes on in your formative years and, and so, whatever the music of the.

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Joseph Young: Time is.

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Joseph Young: Is you know, wherever you grow up in that’s your your music, for the rest of your life and so whatever decade, that is, I think everybody kind of gets married to that, and they have strong emotional reactions to that.

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Joseph Young: And you know, for me, as a musician I don’t know I think artists are sometimes may be more emotional than other people or.

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Joseph Young: Maybe if it’s not that we’re more emotional we’re more in touch with it, and hopefully for good, you know that’s not always the case that can go both ways.

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Joseph Young: But being an artist, you know allows me and other artists to that’s how you know for me it’s how I channel a lot of my emotion is putting it into to music in things.

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Joseph Young: When you first contacted me so it’s like I don’t know a couple weeks ago, maybe I started thinking of just like.

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Joseph Young: kind of like my history of as a musician and things that have happened to me along those basis and and one thing I wanted a quick story.

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Joseph Young: That I wanted to get out there before we get away for that I think it’s just really important that has to do the emotion and music is I was playing at a in a trio, so it was me I was playing native American flute.

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Joseph Young: Two guitars two singers guitarist and singer is playing we’re playing a sure on Carol, which is a beautiful beautiful Christmas Carol and super haunting on a native style flute and it was for a Christmas service, and I think it was Christmas, it was like something leading up to Christmas.

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Joseph Young: But it’s very kind of content mournful piece, and I already kind of knew this, but as a performer it was something that I really took to heart and you never know as a performer who is listening to you.

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Joseph Young: You don’t know who’s in the audience you don’t know what kind of day they have had or where they are in life, and you know, so we did you know did her songs.

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Joseph Young: And then you know went on, with life, and it was about a week later, I got I was working at Cathedral of the Rockies and Boise Idaho at the time, and so I had a box.

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Joseph Young: I was doing sound there and I got a letter in my box and the letter was from somebody who was at the concert that night and they were in a really, really bad place and they talked a little bit about a bit about you know what it was not all of it and it wasn’t really important but.

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Joseph Young: They were in a bad place emotionally there is bad stuff happening there lines, and it was like a four page letter about how I still get emotional about this just talking about it but.

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Joseph Young: Four page letter about how that one song helped them have a better day.

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Joseph Young: that’s powerful to me, and that if I ever doubt what i’m doing and music I think about that because it’s like.

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Joseph Young: If you if you can help somebody and not even know it through your art.

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Joseph Young: that’s just that’s amazing it’s layers me to think about that how I mean that was a powerful musical moment.

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Jason Mefford: Well, it is, and to be able to be a.

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Jason Mefford: To be the Channel, if you will, to help that person with the healing and that’s why it’s it’s you know really everything and that’s that’s one of the reasons why I love music like I do because it.

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Jason Mefford: Is it can help us.

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Jason Mefford: In so many different ways right it’s speaks to us subconsciously in a way that we don’t even realize it brings back some of those you know strong emotions that we have felt at different times right.

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Jason Mefford: Now talked about people being kind of stuck in hey i’m a 70s, or 80s or 90s person right.

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Jason Mefford: that’s why there’s those those stations on sirius xm right.

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Jason Mefford: yep and so people that are child of the 70s, they listened to the 707 on the 70s right.

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Jason Mefford: Because that has so many emotional ties to them that they just love and connect with that use it, but like you said it’s it’s you know, for that that person who was having a tough day.

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Jason Mefford: There was something about that song that pick them and help them work through it right so.

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Jason Mefford: Some music can be for good, it can be for for bad too, if you will, right, I mean it’s, but one thing about music is we we get to choose what we listen to.

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Jason Mefford: So I love it as a tool for helping us to be able to drive to the emotional state, we want to be in as well right and I don’t remember who said it if it was.

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Jason Mefford: It was one of the blues players That said, you know when when you’re feeling sad you play the blues when you’re feeling happy you play the blues right.

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Jason Mefford: there’s just certain music kind of that that it it it just goes along with in and helps you in whatever state you happen to be in at the time.

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Jason Mefford: So yeah it’s great you know, and you know, being able to be a part of that and help people transform you know, like you said there on your website.

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Jason Mefford: Is a great gift that does it makes me emotional as well right it’s like it’s like i’m not a guy that cries but I will tell you when I pick up my guitar and I start playing some songs there’s certain songs that.

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Jason Mefford: I have a hard time playing and singing because I get choked up right so being the performer you know that you are it’s it’s got to be a little difficult to sometimes when you just kind of feel.

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Jason Mefford: feel that coming through to kind of keep your shit together, if you will, while you’re performing as well right.

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Joseph Young: there’s been a couple i’ve been I guess lucky as a performer this isn’t like I can count on I think one hand five fingers in my life, the amount of time is where it was really hard to do that.

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Joseph Young: But i’m kind of an oddball, I think, because, as many performers even early on, have stage fright.

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Jason Mefford: Oh yeah.

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Joseph Young: And for me I got over stage fright in junior high I got over it early and it was kind of it was very odd thing was actually almost.

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Joseph Young: Because I ignored it I had almost like I remember soloing and jazz band, and I was nervous and I stood up and I did my solo and people afterwards.

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Joseph Young: complimented me on a solo said, you know you played really great and i’m like that’s really cool because I have no memory of it at all.

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Joseph Young: And so my way with dealing with that at the time was almost like an out of body experience, where I stood up and did the solo and then a part of me was kind of watching myself do that.

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Joseph Young: And, whatever that process was by the time I got in high school, I really just performance became a thing that I just really loved to do, and I can be feeling really awful and, for me, I have some sort of switch that gets flipped.

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Joseph Young: So not very long into it usually less than half a song.

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Joseph Young: it’s kind of like a different reality for me when i’m onstage.

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Jason Mefford: Well, and one of the reasons I wanted to talk to you to is because.

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Jason Mefford: Exactly what you’re just sharing.

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Jason Mefford: Right is something that can be applied to people, even if they aren’t musicians right but, in whatever they’re doing because again when you.

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Jason Mefford: You know, some people, you might have heard about flow state right some people talk about flow state.

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Jason Mefford: As being kind of that that phenomenon that happens where you just get into it and you are just performing right and and I know people have stage fright people are afraid of speaking in public.

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Jason Mefford: In fact it’s people are more afraid of depth in depth, which i’ve never been able to your state they’re not gonna kill you on the stage but.

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Joseph Young: i’ve always been okay with playing music but i’ve never been comfortable talking in public.

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Joseph Young: that’s okay talking has been but but as long as long as an instrument to hide behind i’m okay.

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Jason Mefford: But it’s but it’s you know, I wonder, with that too right because you bring up about the stage fright to where I don’t know if this is what happens to you as well, but when I.

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Jason Mefford: When I see people get in that stage fright type of a situation and again it’s not necessarily if they’re if they have to you know speak in a meeting or.

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Jason Mefford: You know, do something that they’re scared of doing it seems like most people get stuck in their head at that point, try to overthink they get into fear they’re all my gosh what are they going to think.

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Jason Mefford: It seems like that’s why people have the stage fright where you’re like you said you got over it, and junior high.

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Jason Mefford: hey i’m just gonna you know pick up my instrument and i’m going to play i’m not going to think about it yeah i’m just going to play and I, and I think that’s that’s another thing because you know you can play music mechanically.

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Jason Mefford: But it’s different than if you’re just playing it from that flow state and you get in the zone, or whatever you want to call it right.

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Joseph Young: yeah yep.

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Jason Mefford: So as a musician, how do you kind of prepare yourself, or what do you do to get into that state because that’s when we’re performing at a higher level.

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Jason Mefford: Usually right instead of because it’s like me I can’t dance so it’s like if I if I try to dance it’s like you know what.

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Jason Mefford: Like the line dances and i’m trying to count and I just can’t do it and it’s like screw it right, but if I just let my body go and not have to worry about a former structure.

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Jason Mefford: Then I can do it so i’m guessing it’s the same way again for you as a musician and what things do you do, and maybe what people can learn for how to apply this and other parts of their life when they feel like that clunky person that can dance and just let it go and be.

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Joseph Young: I think our conscious brain is one of our best slash worst friends.

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Joseph Young: And it’s our worst friend because that’s usually are that conscious part of us that the the nagging voice, so to say, is what gets us.

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Joseph Young: and causes us to feel clunky in trip up and for me whether it’s performing on stage, or we that we talked a little bit about before we started our you know recording here Kung fu some analogies that’ll.

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Joseph Young: Get back to.

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Joseph Young: You no matter what you’re doing it’s kind of like whatever you do well.

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Joseph Young: That that one thing everybody’s good at something.

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Joseph Young: With luck, maybe that’s in our career, maybe it’s not in our career, maybe it’s a hobby that we have that we’re really good at, but those things that we’re really good at, and the reason why we get into flow states which I hadn’t heard before I like that term i’m gonna steal that.

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Jason Mefford: there’s a whole bunch of research actually and what they call a flow state and how you actually get into it, because it’s supposed to i’m going to geek out here again but it’s supposedly actually higher brainwave activity, then beta.

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Jason Mefford: yeah, but the problem is, you get.

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Jason Mefford: You get to those gamma waves by going back to alpha theta and somehow you jump over beta completely.

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Jason Mefford: which I don’t totally understand but that’s kind of.

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Jason Mefford: how it works right so settle yourself down the mindfulness you get in the zone but your brainwave activity is going like super light speed.

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Jason Mefford: yeah on the gamma wavelength.

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Joseph Young: cool i’ll have to check that out.

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Jason Mefford: anyway.

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Joseph Young: But anyway, that I think what for me, and I think, for many, and I was going to use the word professionals but it’s not limited to professionals is a limit to like I was saying to whatever anybody is if you’re good at something.

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Joseph Young: it’s where you don’t have to think about what you’re doing it’s like when i’m teaching.

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Joseph Young: A flute student native style flutes didn’t the first time, and I can get anybody going on a native style flute in 10 minutes, one of the hardest things is where do you put your fingers.

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Joseph Young: And it’s a coordination thing, and it has nothing to do with music, it has to do with coordinating your fingers and it’s muscle memory and so.

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Joseph Young: is just like going to the gym if if you practice anything, and I think there’s been studies done on this I couldn’t tell you what what what they are, but I know there’s been studies done.

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Joseph Young: anything.

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Joseph Young: repetitive quality repetitions over a six week period that it’s almost a physical impossibility for you not to get better at whatever that thing is, I mean barring outside you know issues.

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Joseph Young: In a normal circumstance it’s almost physically impossible not to get better, whatever that is that you’re doing.

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Joseph Young: And so, a lot of it, to some extent it’s just physical preparation and if you’ve if you’ve done the physical preparation and it’s, not even a brain thing almost it is, but it isn’t.

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Joseph Young: So if you’ve done the physical preparation, then the body can take over when your conscious brain gets in the way.

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Joseph Young: The subconscious kind of takes over and does its thing consciously you might be freaking out, but if you’ve done the preparation your subconscious goes I got this.

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Joseph Young: Take a take a walk why.

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Joseph Young: You know, while I make this basket.

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Joseph Young: speech, while I play this piece of music wall I do this gymnastics routine.

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Joseph Young: It was, I think it i’m firm believer it works on all of that.

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Jason Mefford: Well, it does because there’s I mean like you said you know gymnast or other professional athletes they use the same the same kind of techniques.

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Jason Mefford: Right is is to try to get into that State where they don’t have to think.

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Jason Mefford: they’ve actually subconsciously reprogram their brain at the subconscious level, so they can say you know what conscious ego state I don’t need you right for the next hour come get me when i’m done with my set.

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Jason Mefford: know or whatever right.

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Jason Mefford: And, and it is, but it comes from, like you said that that repetition that’s why again as you’re teaching students.

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Jason Mefford: How to play something like the native American flute you’re just trying to get them again that repetition that muscle memory of just teaching, you know again it’s it’s i’m gonna have to i’m gonna have to get a lesson from you, at some point.

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Jason Mefford: out actually actually get one, so I can start playing on that too, because.

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Jason Mefford: i’ve started playing a drum that we were talking about before and it’s the same thing it’s like once you start learning certain patterns, then you just kind of let it go and see where it goes to.

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Jason Mefford: And I guess, and like you said it’s the same thing with the flu right it’s like you don’t have to worry about about the notes or reading music you just go with where you feel like you’re going.

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Joseph Young: yeah and and ultimately that’s one of the highest levels of doing anything is when you can, whatever the task is that you’re you have to do.

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Joseph Young: If you can do that on automatic and you’ve done it so many times you’ve done your preparation that it frees your brain to think about improv ng and not just improv and but it’s like beyond in province, because it frees your brain, for one, you can pay attention so it’s like a good.

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Joseph Young: A good performer and I will include speakers, you know if you’re speaking to a crowd and those their performers.

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Joseph Young: Is if you’re stuck in your head and you’re thinking about Oh, I hope I don’t screw this up, or what do I do next you’ll never get outside of your own little bubble.

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Joseph Young: But if all of that is blown away you’ve done your your preparation and you can connect with your audience if you can like look at you know.

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Joseph Young: Get eye contact with the person in the front row in the background, here and there, that’s where you drop people in that’s where you make people feel like they’re part of the experience that you’re you know just acknowledging that they’re there with you.

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Joseph Young: And that works as a performer that works is is talking to people, but then also so there’s like so many different brain pathways that open up when you don’t have that.

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Joseph Young: Part of it is, I was thinking he’s driving for his fear because we’re afraid to screw up we’re all afraid to screw up that’s like the worst thing.

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Joseph Young: And so i’m i’m i’m prone to going on tangents So if you need to get me back on it.

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Jason Mefford: I do the same thing.

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Joseph Young: i’m going to circle back around here in a second my Kung fu instructor calls it, investing and loss.

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Joseph Young: One thing I learned about when you’re sparring somebody and you know you’re sparring somebody in class it’s not if you’re going to get hit it’s when you’re going to get hit, you will get hit and you’ll get hit often if if you Spar a lot.

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Joseph Young: And you at some point you just have to tell yourself that’s Okay, because you’ve put yourself in a safe environment.

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Joseph Young: Which is like the biggest thing if you put yourself in a safe environment that you know, no matter what you’re doing that lets you push your boundaries, a little bit need to get outside your box so.

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Joseph Young: You know that maybe it’s a little bit of a competition with this other person, but they’re not going to kill you, you know, so the very first time I got the wind knocked out of myself sparring it was a shock, it was like, and it was kind of scary.

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Joseph Young: It was like Oh, it was such a totally different experience the second time it happened because I had experienced at once, and so that failure.

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Joseph Young: taught me a huge lesson and I guess the biggest thing is, if you can learn from every failure it’s not a failure it’s a it’s an opportunity to to learn it’s an investing in Los.

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Joseph Young: And it’s kind of changing the way you look at it in your brain So if I make a mistake on stage performers for first rule is you never acknowledge the fact that you made a mistake, because as soon as you do, as soon as your your.

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Joseph Young: Your face or your body tells the audience that you made a mistake now they know you’ve just told them if you don’t tell them most of them won’t ever know.

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Jason Mefford: Oh, you were just improvising right.

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Jason Mefford: cuz it’s just like you know actually a friend of mine, we were talking about.

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Jason Mefford: studio made music versus live music, you know as well to where it’s like sometimes people want to show up at a live venue and they expect to hear the studio version.

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Jason Mefford: You can’t recreate the studio and live it just you don’t have the loop back tracks you don’t have you just can’t do it.

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Jason Mefford: So there’s always some improvisation improvisation that kind of goes along with it, but but I love what you said to write it’s like the first time you got hit.

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Jason Mefford: You know what it’s like the next time it’s easier, the next time after that it’s easier, you know I think that’s the way it is with with everything there’s really no failure there’s only feedback.

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Jason Mefford: yeah of the things I like to say right, yes, is it’s investing in loss I think right it’s what your what your teacher was telling you.

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Jason Mefford: And it’s Okay, because at the end of the day, we’re not gonna as long as you’re in a safe place like you said we’re not going to die what’s the worst that might happen, I don’t know people might laugh a little bit, but then we get over it, and we move on.

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Jason Mefford: Was gonna say because a lot of times what’s interesting is some of the some of the mistakes have become some of the biggest inventions or transformations.

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Jason Mefford: But when they flipped it around it wasn’t a failure at all, it was actually you know think Edison said something like I did I didn’t I learned 10,000 ways, not to make the light.

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Joseph Young: I am a I am a firm believer to that that all of those experiences, the more you can seek those types of things out that that’s going to push your buttons and make you grow.

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Joseph Young: If you have those failures and you allow yourself to learn from them if you ever do get in a situation that’s not safe.

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Joseph Young: In whatever fashion and that it’s going to happen to everybody, at some point, because that’s just part of life that you end up in you know not safe spaces.

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Joseph Young: whatever that means you know, to you, and when you get to those places that you are much that you don’t panic that you have a clear head that you’re much more able to analyze the situation and navigate it better having a.

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Joseph Young: And over the course of his flying years took some various psychology courses and I can’t remember the name of the psychologist but.

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Joseph Young: And this is, I always remember this one, because it was tragic, but it is such a a to me it was like it reminds me and points out.

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Joseph Young: I will react, I was taught to react, whether it be onstage or driving my car whatever, and that was it seems like was in the 70s, there was an officer that was killed in a gunfight with bad guys.

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Joseph Young: And at the time the rule at whatever the whatever the the police station, he was at I don’t know if this was nationwide or just is you know precinct or whatever.

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Joseph Young: A revolver at the time, and so they would shoot their target and then they would pick up their bras before they reloaded in shot their target.

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Joseph Young: And so what did they find and this dead officers front pocket is pleased brass yeah.

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Joseph Young: So, in a situation that was life or death he reverted to his training and when he should have been reloading and you know.

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Joseph Young: firing back, he was picking up you know so that’s like you know that that’s that’s an awful awful thing but man that can apply to so many areas in life as far as training goes.

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Jason Mefford: Well, it is and that’s that’s why the you know, like we were talking about this muscle memory, the stuff that you’re doing why why you practice, you know I mean it’s the same thing if anybody.

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Jason Mefford: is listening and plays music you got to practice right you don’t just pick it up and not be able to do it because you have to.

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Jason Mefford: You have to develop these skills and get the muscle memory going but yeah it’s it’s the same thing you know that’s why on airplanes you listen to the same safety stuff.

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Jason Mefford: Every time right.

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Jason Mefford: And even though we’re not actively listening to it we’ve learned it we’ve practice it and that’s why, when issues happen, you know, everybody just follows a protocol and things work, the way that it’s supposed to because that’s what we’ve practiced.

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Jason Mefford: as well.

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Jason Mefford: And that’s and that’s why I love using music as a way to help me practice to, not just in playing, but in in getting in certain emotional states and being smart about using music to help me feel, what I want to feel right.

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Jason Mefford: Because again i’m i’m guessing if if you’re like most musicians you don’t just listen to your music and you don’t just listen to your genre of music that you play right you.

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Jason Mefford: Know like you’re getting I mean it’s obvious from your music you’re getting inspiration from lots of different places.

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Jason Mefford: American at your own yeah.

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Jason Mefford: And that’s that’s really kind of another life lesson for us as well too and.

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Joseph Young: yeah oh yeah I, and I think that’s.

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Joseph Young: The early composers, that I listened to that really inspired me were composers that.

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Joseph Young: Had a wide palette of instruments to draw from and they were composers, that would take a Chinese air who, which is a one string violin that’s kind of like.

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Jason Mefford: Oh that’s.

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Joseph Young: Stick and then one string that comes down.

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Joseph Young: would take something as exotic as an air who, and you know, put it with a violin or saxophone or something.

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Joseph Young: And so that always inspired me here to hearing those different things that made me want to do things like do.

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Joseph Young: write songs with penny whistles and saxophone and native American flute and saxophone because you don’t hear that it’s not that it’s never been done, but it hasn’t been done much.

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Jason Mefford: Well, and that’s one of the things that like I said I appreciate about your music, he is in really it’s a lesson for all of us right is we’re all creators.

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Jason Mefford: So create and do stuff that’s different and new, you know as well kind of drawing from all of these different different places, because again like you said, sometimes you wouldn’t think of it together, but when you put it together it’s actually very beautiful.

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Joseph Young: I had an A an experience that a concert one time, I was giving I was in think I was in Seattle, and I have a good friend, that is one of the devil everybody I hope has one of those friends that.

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Joseph Young: doesn’t pull any punches and whether it’s uncomfortable or not, they will tell you the truth, but they do it in a way that it’s like there’s no meanness behind it, so if it’s like something that’s hard to hear.

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Joseph Young: There there’s not like ill intent and then so it was one of those friends that was just always like whenever I see him.

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Joseph Young: You know hearing how he analyzes things is is always interesting anyway, I had a playing a partner that was traveling with me and we were doing a flute with saxophone and native style flute.

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Joseph Young: And there’s a lot let’s see how to approach this delicately that there’s there’s a lot of people in the world who if they’re into native style flute that they really, really like it as a solo instrument and they don’t like most of what I do.

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Joseph Young: combining it with all these other instruments and so seeing a native style flute with a saxophone with his word this concert and, eventually, he was sitting behind this couple.

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Joseph Young: And when we started playing this he said I he side is this person do this and kind of you know, like they were like they were setting themselves up not to like it they’re just like Oh, this is gonna.

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Joseph Young: They have relax their arms and then we’re kind of bobbing their head a little bit and it’s like we got a they liked it because it is a really beautiful combination, but they kind of had this you know, I guess, they were like oh no this is going to suck.

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Jason Mefford: Oh, another good life lesson for a see right to give things a chance.

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Jason Mefford: yeah because because again it’s it’s the.

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Jason Mefford: You know, for closed off and we’re not open to that expansion.

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Jason Mefford: Of the other stuff coming in, so now, this has been it’s been great I know I said I could sit and talk for like two or three hours but i’m not Joe rogan I don’t think people hold on that long.

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Jason Mefford: But no, this has been fabulous has been great to reconnect with you and just kind of you know, talk through some of this stuff because, again I.

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Jason Mefford: I wanted to hear it from musicians perspective as well and kind of explain some of those things that that I see your i’ve experienced a little bit too, but that has.

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Jason Mefford: Broader applicability to more than just music as well you know because, like we said, I mean a lot of these things we’ve been talking about.

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Jason Mefford: They apply whether you’re you know given those not, not even a speech, but you know you have to talk at the next department meeting or whatever it might be.

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Jason Mefford: Where you’re having to put yourself out there and doing those things to get the muscle memory, you know, realizing investing in the loss and realizing that feedback is not scary there’s nothing to fear from it it’s actually how we learn.

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Joseph Young: yeah and if you did your preparation so well that you can read the room and if halfway through whatever it is that you’re doing whether it’s talking to the marketing people or a new client or a concert, you can read the room and the temperature is different than you thought it was.

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Joseph Young: You know, play a different note, play a different style use a different word age.

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Jason Mefford: Well, because that’s where, again, I mean life is is improvisation right.

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Jason Mefford: Now, if you if you’ve been prepared because it kicks I know I hear that, from a lot of people it’s like well don’t you need to prepare more it’s like i’ve been preparing my whole life for it, why do I need to keep doing a little bit more, we just go on right.

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Joseph Young: And maybe the answer is an hour, maybe it’s three hours, but the real answer is you already said it they’ve been prepping for that their whole life and it’s like, whatever your life experience factors into that prep time and I think a lot of people don’t necessarily consider that.

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Jason Mefford: Well, they don’t it’s it was a you know, because when you look at, I think it, I think it was Itzhak perlman who who gave this know another pretty famous musician right.

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Jason Mefford: And, and I think it was after a concert that he had done, it must have been a smaller concert or something, because people were were talking to.

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Jason Mefford: A lady came up to him and said something like Oh, you know, Mr problem, and I would I would give my life to be able to play, like you, and he said.

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Jason Mefford: ma’am I have given my life to play like this, I mean that’s one of those guys I think he he practices something like eight or 10 hours every single day right so.

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Jason Mefford: that’s that’s why he has done it because he’s done the work every day and so it’s it’s easy for him that’s that’s why it is why why why he does what he does, and really The same can be true for any of us because again.

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Jason Mefford: i’m not a great sax player I can’t even make it play.

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Jason Mefford: I can do some other things, but what you brought up, which I thought it’s a great way to probably kind of and for us is.

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Jason Mefford: Everybody is good at something.

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Jason Mefford: Right, we all have some gifts we’re all really good at some things and whatever it is that we’re really good at.

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Jason Mefford: and passionate about that’s where we can really kind of jump in and honestly make make changes to the world right that’s why you’re doing what you do that’s why I do what I do they’re different things.

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Jason Mefford: But there’s you know we both have that passion and that reason for doing what we’re doing, which you know, deep down we’re trying to help change the world and make it better for everybody right.

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Jason Mefford: So well Joe Thank you and you know again everybody who’s listening go out listen to his music, you can find it.

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Jason Mefford: think a lot of places I know I I use apple so I get my stuff from there, but also your website’s Joseph l young.com yep so you can go out and see there you know what what are any other places for people to kind of go.

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Joseph Young: Pandora spotify.

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Joseph Young: Amazon, and this seems like overdone sometimes but for for anybody who’s a musician or an artist or YouTube people whatever giving a thumbs up or a like.

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Joseph Young: helps the algorithms that helps us tremendously when people do that so not just adding it to your playlist but you know give it the thumbs up and or if you’re really like it sharing it with people is is huge, too, so not just me, but any artist or jason’s podcasts like it share it.

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Jason Mefford: Well yeah because that’s why we’re all creators.

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Jason Mefford: yeah and so again it’s like.

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Jason Mefford: Anything that we’re creating are doing man, it feels nice people like it and share it, you know.

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Jason Mefford: So yeah i’ve never even thought about that, so I gotta go out to apple now and make sure that i’m liking liking your stuff for doing what I can to try to help the algorithms for my site, too, because I do like it.

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Jason Mefford: it’s helped me helped me a lot too so.

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Jason Mefford: Well, thank you, thank you, I really appreciate it.

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Responding Instead of Reacting

In today’s episode we will have a conversation about the importance of Reacting vs. Responding. Sometimes a reaction is unavoidable, however if you have the opportunity to slooooooooow doooooooooown, just take a few moments and choose to respond.
Just a few seconds is all it takes to reduce your stress greatly!

Listen in at: http://www.jasonmefford.com/fireandearthpodcast/

Transcript

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Jason Mefford: Welcome to another episode of the fire and earth podcast i’m your co host Jason medford.

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Kathy Gruver: And I am Kathy gruver and I am so excited about this conversation we’re going to have today Jason you know when I taught them mini meditation we talked about breath work and mindfulness and all these things I know i’ve mentioned taking a pause.

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Kathy Gruver: Right there’s power in that pause because one of the things you get to do in that pause is just to decide whether you’re going to react or respond.

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Kathy Gruver: And we went first responders right we don’t want first reactors nobody’s.

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Kathy Gruver: ever been accused of having a knee jerk response nobody’s ever accuse you of over responding it’s those reactions that get us in trouble and.

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Kathy Gruver: it’s been a stressful time here at the at the old homestead and I found myself getting stuck in reactivity which leads to more reactivity which leads to more reactivity and then it’s a really hard cycle to break, so I thought we’d have a conversation about responding versus reacting.

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Jason Mefford: let’s say it’s a good conversation like you said you know the pause it’s.

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Jason Mefford: There is there’s at seven seven seconds subconscious to conscious brain right pick up so that, when we get triggered again we’re not thinking cognitively about what we’re doing we’re reacting usually within those first seven seconds so.

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Jason Mefford: You know, unless you have healthy habits, so that when the when the triggers happen your your brain habit your habit brain takes over and you’re reacting, but in an appropriate way right.

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Jason Mefford: We need to stop and respond right and it is it’s that pause that ends up helping us catch up realize what just happened and then actually choose instead of reacting.

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Kathy Gruver: yeah yeah those reactions get us in trouble, now we need the reaction if you’re driving your car and another car squares at you, you want that reaction you don’t want to go oh.

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Jason Mefford: I don’t know there’s a car coming.

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Kathy Gruver: Now.

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Kathy Gruver: What are some options let’s do a brain map.

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Kathy Gruver: You know.

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Jason Mefford: Imagine how many more accidents, we would have on the road.

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Kathy Gruver: Right yes uh yeah That would be a mess, but but, in this situation i’ll give you an example, my computer died, the other morning it was stuck in this loop, where there was.

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Kathy Gruver: So it was so full that it was almost out of memory, so I went to delete stuff to open up memory.

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Kathy Gruver: And it was so full I couldn’t delete anything so I was stuck in this loop of I didn’t have enough memory, to delete but I needed to delete and I started freaking out.

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Kathy Gruver: And my very helpful boyfriend says why don’t you turn it off and turn it back on to which I went.

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Kathy Gruver: No it’ll never turned back on and I started flipped because i’ve had that happen, where there’s not enough memory to reboot it right, it just it’s just dead and I was so afraid to turn it off, I take it to the marketplace, the.

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Kathy Gruver: The guy says, you know, the first thing I did to fix it was it.

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Jason Mefford: It turned.

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turned it off.

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Kathy Gruver: Now that reaction was one i’ve already had a stressful week, so my stress level had risen I didn’t have the my memory was full too, so I didn’t have the capability to make a rational decision from there.

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Kathy Gruver: And it was based on a previous experience that i’ve had where the computer didn’t turn back on.

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Kathy Gruver: Now, regardless, they could have gotten it back on had I just pause for a moment I was already rushed that morning, had I pause for just a moment and went that’s a good idea let’s reboot it and see what happens.

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Kathy Gruver: I wouldn’t have wasted $195 the MAC store, you know, so it is about taking that pause and actually thinking through, I was not a place to do that and it caused a little bit of chaos.

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Jason Mefford: Well, and it’s interesting because you bring that up and I actually you know, one of the group coaching calls I just had one of my programs, we were talking about resiliency you know which again is is.

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Jason Mefford: You so so some of the signs that you’re talking about there right is it’s like.

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Jason Mefford: Okay, if we if we understand if we know that our brain is fall or memory is for our life is fall we’re having stressful times if we recognize that we’re in a particularly stressful time we’re going to be more likely.

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Jason Mefford: To react, instead of respond.

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Jason Mefford: yep right, and so you know, the more that we can do as we start to recognize that we’re getting to that point.

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Jason Mefford: right, then, then we end up our inhibitions are down they’re gone right, and so this happens, you know, again, I mean how many stories are there of Stupid drunk texts and other stuff right because people are.

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Kathy Gruver: drunk I did.

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Jason Mefford: You didn’t mean it I apologize.

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Jason Mefford: But it but it’s the same kind of thing right, I mean when you when you get over intoxicated we tend to react and do things that often we we regret later.

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Jason Mefford: So, even without alcohol it’s the same thing it’s the stress levels in your body go up as these other things have happened some of these stories pop up because of triggers.

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Jason Mefford: Right you got triggered.

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Jason Mefford: Oh, my gosh my computer’s not doing whatever it needs to be there’s probably some business reason why it’s like I gotta have my computer right all these things started adding up to your stress level.

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Jason Mefford: yeah so yeah when when something comes out at that point, then, we tend to not not respond but react.

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Kathy Gruver: So you react yeah and here’s one thing that helped me resolve all of that, so I had a podcast that I was supposed to do in about an hour and I had a coach and client that night that I was supposed to do on zoom.

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Kathy Gruver: I texted the podcast lady, and I said i’m so sorry my computer just died.

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Kathy Gruver: So rather than rushing to find someone else xp resident guilt pulling my boyfriend off his computer trying to figure out how to get on us like I simply set that boundary and there was very honest with the people, and I said.

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Kathy Gruver: I can’t do that, and you know, I was trying to get them to rush the computer, so I could do that coaching call that night and then.

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Kathy Gruver: You know, I was trying to find a way to make this work and I texted my coaching call that night, and I said, you know what i’m so sorry my computer just died i’m just you know, and she goes oh that’s okay i’ve been feeling sick all day tomorrow’s better anyway.

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Kathy Gruver: So it.

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Kathy Gruver: worked out better anyway, you know, and so, rather than stressing myself out even more trying to find ways to solve all these simply.

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Kathy Gruver: moved stuff you know I took control over what I could, which was my scheduling.

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Kathy Gruver: And then that call me down enough that I could start to handle everything else.

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Kathy Gruver: So it was you know when stress builds up, and it was one of those weeks, where you know documents got lost and things are being delayed, and you know all that stuff that’s out of our control.

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Kathy Gruver: What can you take control over how can you do a pattern interrupt to stop that craziness jump off the crazy carousel.

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Kathy Gruver: Maybe it’s a walk maybe it’s a meditation maybe it’s lunch with a friend, maybe it’s a glass of wine, maybe it’s a pet cat for a while and just get back into yourself and help stop that craziness that’s the pause that helps us choose what we’re going to do next.

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Jason Mefford: Well, and what’s interesting too is because taking that pause is important not only to reduce our stress levels slow our brain down right that’s that’s one reason for doing it, but the other two is we usually don’t have the answer.

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Jason Mefford: Until we slow down to write because it’s that whole Einstein quote right the same level of thinking that caused the problem cannot find the solution, you know paraphrased right.

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Jason Mefford: Is when we’re in that you know super beta state and we’re freaking out well in that freaked out state we’re the ones, causing the problem so guess what you’re never gonna figure out.

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Jason Mefford: The solution if you’re still in that freaked out state so slowing yourself down and I don’t know how many times, this has happened to me right and i’m sure it’s happened to you as well.

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Jason Mefford: Is you just slow down you go pet the cat you get up you go take a shower and all of a sudden thing you know how to fix it yeah.

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Kathy Gruver: yeah well when we’re in the stress a fear looks look at the classic fight or flight response.

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Kathy Gruver: You have a couple choices you’re running from the bear you’re fighting the bear or you freeze and do that thing.

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Kathy Gruver: you’re not meant to be doing higher brain function you’re not critically, you know thinking you’re not doing math your thing is run fight or freeze, those are your options, so when you’re in a stress state that isn’t that physical stressor well I.

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Kathy Gruver: I thought I would get this computer to work, and you know I didn’t pause to actually make a logical choice because my brain was not in a state to do that.

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Kathy Gruver: So that’s what that fight or flight response does, and you know we have to ask the question is that fight or flight where the.

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Kathy Gruver: Computer it already is a truly you know, should I mount this giant stress the fact that my my reef eyes not done yet.

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Kathy Gruver: Does that deserve this fight or flight response to something that I can’t control anyway and that’s what stresses it’s that feeling of being out of control of things that what we’re being given is too big for us to handle.

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Kathy Gruver: So what can we handle let’s make a different choice you know that’s that’s what we can control.

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yep.

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Jason Mefford: yeah great points and again, you know how do we do this well we just kind of telling you here right so go back rewind we’ll go through them again right but.

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Jason Mefford: When you recognize it take a pause that because, again, most of the time, like you know, like you said Cathy if we’re if we’re in a car and we’re driving and we’re about to get in an accident that’s when we want our body to just take over.

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Jason Mefford: yep okay if if there’s some physical threat to us, we want our body to take over, we want to react, but 99% of what we go through every single day is not those kinds of things so yeah pet the cat or the dog, if you have a dog right get up walk outside go stand in the grass ground yourself.

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Jason Mefford: You know.

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breeze.

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Jason Mefford: You know lots of different things that you can end up doing just to pattern interrupt and kind of slow yourself back down so you can think clearly again and then actually respond instead of reacting.

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Kathy Gruver: yep and set those boundaries, if you are seriously in such a state that you can’t do that thing that you said you do.

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Kathy Gruver: Tell the person that and just rearrange it, you know.

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Kathy Gruver: The woman, that I was doing the podcast with was not mad at me that my computer that she’s like oh we’ve all been there, not a problem, let me know when you come back the coaching client actually worked out better for her.

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Kathy Gruver: That we moved it to the following day, and I was like doing that oh I can’t cancel in your life she’s new and I.

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Kathy Gruver: worked out better just be honest with people set those boundaries, if you see you’re going into a really stressful week don’t add more to it, you know you have a choice of.

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Kathy Gruver: What you fill your schedule with and how many things you put into your onto your plate so it’s about making better choices and that way when the stress comes up you’ll be more apt to respond, rather than react.

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Jason Mefford: ding ding ding.

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Kathy Gruver: ding ding I think the horse has been beaten.

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Jason Mefford: No animals were harmed in the making of this podcast.

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Kathy Gruver: Except for alister who might have been outside but yeah he.

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Jason Mefford: He he brought it upon himself by searching or by to you right so.

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Kathy Gruver: not respond he.

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Kathy Gruver: Cast alright.

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Kathy Gruver: So there we go so everybody hope you have a stress free day.

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Kathy Gruver: i’m definitely more calm so that’s.

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Kathy Gruver: yeah.

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Kathy Gruver: All right, i’m Kathy Gruber, I can be reached at Kathy Gruber calm.

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Jason Mefford: And i’m Jason method, I can be reached at Jason method calm so relax chill lack and make sure I don’t know I just.

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Kathy Gruver: chillax we’re going to work.

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Jason Mefford: we’re we’re we’re doing woodworking.

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Kathy Gruver: it’s relaxing.

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Relaxing.

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Kathy Gruver: I think it’s.

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Jason Mefford: chillax oh there we go chill chill ads unscripted everyone.

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Jason Mefford: And unedited so all right well with that go out, you know be be a little bit more cognizant if you’re feeling stressed relax so that you’re responding instead of reacting and catch us on the next episode of the fire and earth podcast we’ll see you.

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yeah.

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